To Clink or Not to Clink? Wine Glass Toasting Etiquette
To clink, or not to clink? That is the timeless question! Yesterday, September 13th, marked a truly momentous occasion. Stuart and I celebrated our 51st wedding anniversary. As I sat across from my darling husband, ready to propose a heartfelt toast to five decades of love, laughter, and shared adventures, the topic of crystal glasses—and […]
Chargers: When NOT to use them!
The topic of chargers came to mind when a friend asked about displaying them at a wedding reception dinner. A “charger” is a plate that is more significant in diameter than a dinner plate. It is also referred to as a service plate or an underplate. While chargers are used for decorative purposes these days, […]
Party Etiquette: Photographing in a Private Home is a No-no!
What could be more divine than being invited to a party in a private home and celebrating with friends? However, in a world where just about anything and everything is captured on cell phone cameras, I want to shed light on an important, forbidden faux pas! It is a major no-no to go around someone’s […]
Polo Match Etiquette: What to Wear and Serve Tailgating!
Hold your horses; it’s polo time! Attending your very first polo match? It will be an absolute delight… provided you are properly prepared for what to wear and how to tailgate. Polo is a thrilling piece of living history dating back over two thousand years. Its noble heritage serves as a gentle reminder that your […]
Hostess Etiquette: Taking the Mystery Out of the Dress Code
The golden rule of hosting is simple. We want our guests to feel entirely at ease and enjoy themselves! Yet, even the most seasoned hostesses can make a dress code assumption, which can lead to a rather awkward, yet entirely well-intentioned, mishap. A dear friend of mine recently invited a group of ladies for a […]
Restaurant Etiquette: How to Be a Gracious Dinner Guest
How grateful I am to my parents for instilling in me the old-school rules for being a truly gracious and grateful guest when invited out for a meal. They also shared with me a golden rule for hosting. You simply do not invite someone to dinner unless you can afford their free choice. With that […]
Proper Protocol On How To Greet A Friend Who Is Dining With Others
Have you ever been enjoying a delightful dinner at a restaurant or a private Club, deep in conversation, only to have an acquaintance spot you and walk over to your table? A spontaneous greeting is a lovely gesture, but far too often a well‑meaning friend overstays their welcome, right? A quick hello turns into a […]
The Art of the Thoughtful Guest: Honoring Hosts and Elders at Celebrations
The quintessence of genteel living is found in the gracious intentionality of our interactions with others! Throughout the year, especially spring and summer, many of us are invited to attend some of life’s most significant milestones—from baptisms and confirmations to graduations and weddings. A truly thoughtful guest “steps up to the plate” by taking the […]
To cut or not to cut your salad!
Last evening, while dining on Worth Avenue, my attention was drawn to a gentleman at a nearby table. While well-dressed for dinner, he held his silver fork in a “fist grip,” as if preparing for a duel rather than a delicate salad starter! Watching him struggle with a spirited leaf of Romaine, I realized that […]
How to Butter Bread Properly
Gracious dining is an art found in the most delicate details. From the way we butter a piece of bread to the smallest of gestures, proper etiquette is a reflection of one’s grace. This summer, a visit from my grandchildren who live in Berlin, Germany, provided a wonderful reminder of how these small details can […]
The Art of Napkin Etiquette for Elegant Dinner Parties
Elegant Table Manners for Private Dinner Parties Napkins can be a secret signal in more ways than one! Their fold, placement, and use speak a language all their own, especially at a private dinner party. A napkin carries a surprising amount of tradition and unspoken etiquette and is one of the quiet hallmarks of a […]
The Art of the Gracious Guest: Essential Etiquette No-Nos for Your Next Party
While visiting my daughter, Alexandra, in Berlin, Germany, she hosted a delightful impromptu cocktail party in my honor. Alexandra and her charming friends, whom I simply adore, always make such a lovely gesture of welcoming me when I visit. As we prepared the wine and cheese, our conversation turned to the “unwritten rules” of being […]