The true secret to seamless, elegant entertaining is anticipating your guests needs… before they have to ask you! Make your guests feel cared for the moment they cross the threshold into your home.
A dear subscriber inquired: “When guests come for dinner, should I direct ladies to a place where they may place their handbags?” Yes, indeed!
For a small gathering, less than a dozen ladies, my approach is to offer a joyful welcome, and then gently ask, “Would you care to place your handbag down?” while gesturing toward a predetermined chair or bench in the hall, or even a table if you have one conveniently located by the front door. (This same designated place can also hold their hostess gifts.)
By asking a lady this gracious inquiry straightaway, it will immediately put your guest at ease; you’ve given her permission and a designated space to place whatever she wishes. (Coats, snow or rain boots, and umbrellas will require a different space/venue requiring a coatrack, closet or bed, etc. That’s another topic!)
This clever query respects the guest’s autonomy and offers a safe place for their belongings.
When the guest list hits twenty-five or more, the method must scale. Here, I enlist a server with instructions to discreetly inquire, “Would you like me to place your handbag and gift in the adjoining room?” And then, gesture toward the appointed space.
No-no: As the host, never insist that your guest put her handbag down!
Sometimes a lady may wish to keep her pretty handbag with her because it complements her outfit or she may need it nearby for her eyeglasses. But should she decide to place it somewhere eventually, she will know the place you kindly indicated.
No-no: As a guest in a private house, to assume you can place your handbag on just any surface.
The hosts may not want clutter on a table where they may intend to serve from, or on a chair that may be needed to seat their guests. It is always best to inquire if you don’t see where others have already placed their handbags. On the floor, next to where you are seated, or near you, is usually a safe alternative place, unless there is a curious dog who wishes to sniff inside your bag!
For elegant, petite evening bags at a dinner party, you may place them on your lap, under your napkin, when seated.
The most effortless parties are always the best planned. I hope this answers the handbag conundrum!
Also, if you are living in Virginia, I would be overjoyed if you could attend my talk in Suffolk, Virginia, on October 28th at 5 pm. It will be presented by and benefit the Nansemond River Garden Club!
Xx
Holly
