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Isn’t it divine to be able to visit and party with friends in their homes again after the endlessly long covid hiatus? So many people have refreshed their interiors, which in turn, serves to enchant newly invited guests. In this world of just about “anything and everything” being captured on cell phone cameras, I wanted to shed light on an important forbidden faux pas for a guest. It is a BIG no-no to go around someone’s house and photograph different aspects of their interiors.
Interiors are private. Taking the liberty to snap a few photos while inside someone’s house for your own pleasure, is tantamount to photographing someone nude when no one is looking! You may capture something pretty, but in a civilized society, it’s not yours to capture.
Consider that one’s interiors are exclusive and should remain privy to the owners. A photograph becomes a permanent record, one that the owner of the house no longer has control of. From hidden security cameras, art, and antiques, there are facets of a house that one may wish not to share, or may choose to present in a more appropriate or proper manner.
Yes, there are indeed occasions when a guest can photograph inside a home. I have happily witnessed guests capturing memorable videos of the bagpiper we have playing to commence a celebratory party, or apres fireworks on the terrace. Guests may wish to photograph one another too. And yes, the background of the interiors are in the photograph. The difference is that you are not attempting to solely photograph interior rooms and the details (like a spy) without the consent of the owner.
But, if you DO wish to photograph something in particular, present your wish with an open-ended question: “Someday, I would love to take a few photographs of this stunning room.” Being tactful will enable the owner to either ignore or grant the request.
A few years ago, I posed this question to a friend in Palm Beach upon seeing her spectacular “seashell crown-molding” in a study. Guess what? She called me two weeks later and said she had just sold her house, and if I wanted to photograph it, I had a week to get down there. I most certainly did… and that was the beginning of my Pearls of Palm Beach book!
Grandmillennial Tip:
If you take photographs in someone’s house, reassure them that you will not share any of them on social media, or at least not without their prior approval.
How grateful I am that so many of my cherished friends have allowed me to photograph their stunning, family homes for inclusion into my two interior design books. Their trust alone is beyond pure gold, and means the world to me!
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Holly
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Holly Holden is an interior designer specializing in classic design internationally since 1989. She is an author, speaker, host and producer of an Emmy nominated public television series!