My writing paper is always ready for a “bread and butter” note!
Have you ever heard the old-school term “bread and butter” note and wondered what it is?
It is an old-school term for a thank-you note, which is dutifully sent to thank a host/hostess for their hospitality!
The gracious gesture of sending a “bread and butter” thank-you note is an appreciated gift to your host. It expresses, in writing, how much you appreciate someone's hospitality.
Speaking of thank-you notes, a handwritten note is more important than ever these days, especially with the present-day trend to send off a quick thank-you via email. A handwritten acknowledgment for someone’s hospitality, gift, or act of kindness is the pinnacle of graciousness, a quiet beacon of polish, and a proper nod to good manners.
Interestingly enough, in my lifetime, I have noticed that the people who take the time to write a note tend to be some of the most remarkable, busiest people I have ever met. From respected leaders to grand-dames, volunteers to philanthropists, and even grandchildren, thank-you notes are instinctually always cherished by the recipients. They understand how important it is to recognize someone else’s effort on their behalf.
A thank-you note takes time and thought, as well as writing paper, a stamp, and a postbox… unlike a quickly composed email that is sent off with just a click and, after reading, disappears. This simple, little personal gesture is like gold, trust me!
GrandMillenial Tips:
In Europe, thank-you notes are written with a fountain pen in blue or black ink. So, think of investing in one. I too adore fountain pens; they add a charming aspect to any correspondence. Or, instead of a ballpoint pen, use a rolling ball pen which is somewhat similar to a fountain pen. An informal thank-you note, these days, may also be written with an amusing ink color…like pink!
Peek under the envelope flap of elegant writing paper, and you may discover the name of the stationery company!
If the recipient lives close enough, hand deliver the note. On the front, bottom left corner of the envelope, you may write the words: By hand.
A thank-you note should ideally be written and mailed within 48 hours of receiving a gift, attending a celebration, or being a houseguest. (Brides supposedly have a year to write a thank-you note, but the unwritten protocol is to write the note within three months of receiving a wedding gift.)
Forbidden Faux Pas
No-no: To think that an “email thank-you” is a sufficient expression for staying at someone’s home or being a guest at a dinner party. The amount of time and effort a hostess puts into a party for your pleasure should inspire you to take a few moments to acknowledge their efforts by writing a note.
No-no: To buy writing paper or a card that has "thank you" already printed on it. When you write a note to say thank you, there is no need to have this printed for you by the stationery company!
No-no: To start any correspondence with the word "I." This gives the impression that you are more important than the person you are writing to.
No-no: To start a thank-you note with the words, “Thank you!”
What is done: Explain what you are appreciative of, and then express your thanks. The more specific your note is, expressing details about the event or gift and why you are so appreciative, the better!
I have kept many notes over the years because they not only hold memories, they are a meaningful reminder of the family member, friend, or colleague that sent them. Let’s keep this tradition alive and well. Do you agree?
Xx
Holly
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