This is a no-no, gentlemen!
Gentlemen, take note!
I was unaware of the term “HIP” (Hands in Pockets) until William Mikus, a fellow Board member and the former Chair of the Salvation Army of Palm Beach County, introduced me to this concept. We were seated together at the Salvation Army holiday luncheon. The HIP topic sparked interest within our entire table. I invited him to share his thoughts as a guest contributor… so I will pass along his insightful and witty perspective!
The HIP Phenomenon: A Trend Among Men
“Recently, I noticed men walking into private clubs and fine dining restaurants with their hands in their pockets (HIP). At first, I didn’t pay much attention. But soon, I realized this phenomenon was everywhere, much like the “Red Car Theory,” which explains how something seems to appear everywhere, once you start noticing it!
The Many Types of HIP Offenders
There are many types of Hands-In-Pockets offenders. There’s the younger man, often handsome but unsure of himself. Then there are the lazy, slouchy types, the timid, the socially anxious and awkward, and those lacking self-awareness. These men have not been properly coached on how to present themselves.
HIP causes shoulders to sag and heads to droop—a posture that exudes servility, no matter how attractive or intelligent the individual is.
The solution, gentlemen?
Keep your hands visible! (Perhaps, have a tailor sew your pockets shut!) My critique of HIP isn’t arbitrary; it’s rooted in thousands of years of evolutionary behavior. Historically, keeping one’s hands visible and at the ready was essential for self-defense, and perhaps, for protecting a fair maiden from sudden danger. Whether faced with a drunken lout or a wild dog, readiness is paramount.
Now, step into a room with your jacket buttoned (always wear a jacket), shoulders back, and head held high. Pause briefly to scan your surroundings, allowing everyone to admire your commanding and confident presence. Then, walk with the dignity of a leader… think Caesar returning triumphantly from Gaul. Just saying!"
William J. Mikus, Palm Beach- Managing Director of Dakota Wealth Management.
In conclusion, it is not just about looking good… it is about embodying confidence and self-assurance. Thank you, Bill, for sharing your HIP observation.
So, gentlemen, hands OUT of your pockets!
Xx
Holly
PS: Please be a darling and share this with someone you think may benefit from knowing about HIP!