My favorite rooms at Kips Bay Showhouse, Palm Beach!

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While I was standing in this charming, pink, green, and yellow sun-terrace, cleverly designed by Amanda Reynal Interiors, someone took my photo and said that I matched the room! Look how the macarons, the exquisitely embroidered napkins, the floral arrangement, and the coffee table were joyfully color-coordinated in a quintessential Palm Beach palette of pastels. It is, in Amanda’s words, “The perfect private oasis.” I fully agree!

Have you attended the fifth Kips Bay Showhouse in the historic district of West Palm Beach yet?  Having participated in three prestigious Showhouses as a designer, I can fully appreciate the time, effort, and financial investment each designer expends on their appointed room.  How delightful it was to tour and enjoy every detail… this time, as a visitor! 

A “Kips Bay Showhouse” has a well-earned reputation of featuring the pinnacle of architects and designers. The NYC and Palm Beach Showhouses have raised over $25 million for The Kips Bay Boys & Girls Clubs in both NYC and Palm Beach locations, which has benefited over 21,000 youths. The creativity and commitment of notable designers featured in this Showhouse richly contributes to this stellar charity, while also giving the visitors inspirational design ideas! 

The tailored Sunroom, created by Paloma Contreras Design, Houston, Texas, is a happy and timeless vision of Florida: soft greens and whites, touches of rattan, handsomely trimmed curtains and valances, and glazed linen on the upholstery. The white bespoke treillage on the walls and ceiling add brilliantly to the rich dimension of this room!

Attractive wall upholstery in beige and green striped linen encompasses the walls, ceiling, and also, the curtains, all serving to create a quiet respite. The headboard and box spring are upholstered in a complementary fabric. The handsome appliquéd bed linens enhance the tester bed. This well-appointed guest bedroom, designed by Sarah Bartholomew Design, LLC., is a joy to visit!

“In the Pink: A Poolside Paradise” was cleverly designed by Janie Molster Designs Richmond, Virginia. The Pool Deck, Pavilion, and Pergola have been graced with her darling pink accents. It is the most joyful space. With all that pink… you know I lingered here! Janie and I attended the same girl’s school in Richmond and I adore her work. It was truly a delight to see how she created the perfect place to host poolside parties all year long in Palm Beach.

In this historic house, I was thrilled to see my favorite kitchen/bath/bar designer, Jim Dove’s space, “The Monkey Bar!” The DeGournay vividly colored wallpaper, “Deco Monkeys,” enhances the backlight stone bar. It is where modern meets playful glamour. Jim was inspired by NYC’s renowned Monkey Bar which opened in the 1930s in the Elysee Hotel. His space is handsomely sophisticated, and features just the right touch of whimsy!

The public is invited to tour the Palm Beach Kips Bay Showhouse from March 5- April 3. Tickets are $40.00.  

I am sharing even more videos and photographs of the Showhouse spaces on my Instagram, and hope you will take a peek! 

XX
Holly

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How to repurpose your silver pieces!

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I added some ice to the bottom of my English,1880 silver syphon, and because of its slender size, I could place it on a side table in our Palm Beach living room. It is an elegant accessory that can be used to chill a bottle of wine or even a bottle of sparkling water, or… you name it!

My parents moved 33 times during my father’s career! Mummy taught me how to repurpose some of their silver pieces, which she did brilliantly, out of necessity. I hope to inspire you to not only use your silver, but to also consider using your pieces in a diverse, unique way.

Recently, I purchased an English silver “biscuit box,” c. 1975. It is the perfect size to store cookies for grandchildren or biscuits for a puppy. When I was preparing for an impromptu cocktail party at “Fox Worth,” our apartment in Palm Beach, I realized that I needed a more diminutive-sized ice bucket than what I had because our Louis XVI side table, where we serve champagne and drinks, has limited surface space. Suddenly, I spied the biscuit box in the kitchen and immediately repurposed it into an ice bucket. It could not have been any more perfect; even the hinged lid helps to keep the ice inside from melting! It was a seamless transition from cookies to ice cubes and has served me well for our Palm Beach parties. I did not have an ice scoop, so I opted to repurpose an antique silver tomato serving spoon, with a shell handle, to serve ice from the biscuit box. I hope to inspire you to think outside of the box!

The silver syphon, shown in the photograph above with a wine bottle, is used here as a flower vase. The English biscuit box is filled with ice, and the Sheffield basket holds See’s chocolates, but I also use it to serve my biscuits at dinner. Silver pieces from: Corbell Silver .

Here are 14 of my ideas for “repurposing silver accessories”:

1. A silver champagne cooler can be transformed brilliantly into a graceful flower vase.

2. A silver baby cup can serve as an hors d’oeuvres toothpick holder or a small flower vase.

3. A small silver cream pitcher is perfect for bedside flowers, or to serve warm syrup for pancakes.

4. A silver canaster can be used for any spice, powdered sugar, and more.

5. A silver tray, when placed under a floral arrangement, can “frame and enhance” the flowers, and it will serve to catch any pollen or falling blossoms.

6. Silver chargers are a splendid size to pass hors d’oeuvres.

7. Silver napkin rings can be filled with greenery to garnish a serving platter of prepared food.

8. A silver cigarette holder can be used to serve candies or toothpicks/skewers.

9. A silver punchbowl can be used to serve biscuits for a large party.

10. A silver mint julep cup can hold make-up brushes or q-tips.

11. A silver coaster is a perfect size to place some chocolates by your guest’s bedside.

12. A silver baby rattle works brilliantly as a carving knife rest.

13. A silver basket can be used for biscuits, chocolates, cookies, bread, crackers, nuts, and petit fours.

14. A silver picture frame can be transformed into a standing mirror by slipping in a piece of “mirrored glass” in the place of a photograph.

Do tell!  How do you repurpose some of your silver pieces?  I will add your ideas to my silver repertoire and share them with you, too!

Mummy’s silver umbrella was used back in the 60s as a chic cigarette holder for her bridge parties. I transformed it into a toothpick holder, to go alongside hors d'oeuvres… much more chic than smoking!

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Holly

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The protocol for a graduation invitation and an announcement!

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Graduation time is drawing near! Some ideas for gifts that I have found to be adored by young lady graduates: college graduates appreciate an elegant black handbag for interviews, and graduates of any age will cherish a lovely piece of jewelry, an engraved frame to hold a sweet memory, or a porcelain Herend box to place by their bedside for earrings or even, as a pretty decorative piece on a coffee table!

It is always a delight to read your questions and responses to my “Secrets to Lovely Living!”  Just recently,  I was asked about the protocol for a “graduation announcement versus an invitation,” hence my topic du jour! 

A graduation invitation is different from a graduation announcement.  The former is requesting your attendance at the actual ceremony, and the latter is acknowledging your academic accomplishment…cheers to graduating! 

A Graduation Invitation: 

If you receive a graduation invitation, it is requesting your physical attendance at the graduation commencement. It is typically mailed six weeks prior to the graduation date, or a save-the-date card can be sent up to three months ahead. This advance notice is helpful for out-of-town guests to make their travel arrangements. 

Do not take offense if you did not receive an invitation. Due to the constraint of limited school seating, invitations are mainly intended for immediate family and close relatives.

Respond to the R.s.v.p. as soon as possible, because tickets are limited. If you cannot attend, the graduate can then invite another close family member.   

Graduation invitations are similar to wedding invitations.  If the school provides you with the invitation, along with two envelopes, write the address on the outer envelope, using as few abbreviations as possible, i.e., Street, Avenue, Connecticut.  The inner envelope only states the guest’s name: Mr. and Mrs. R. Stuart Holden, Jr. or, for a relative, simply, Uncle Herb. Use black ink, although blue ink is acceptable too. 

A Graduation Announcement:

Since an announcement is not an invitation to attend the commencement, the announcement is sent after the actual graduation ceremony has taken place!  They can be mailed the day after, or up to two weeks, after the ceremony.  A graduation announcement does not include an invitation to a party because the party will have already taken place after the ceremony. 

Graduation Party:

If you are hosting a graduation party, then you can invite whomever you wish.  The sky's the limit! Party invitations should be mailed separately, and not inserted into the graduation invitation. It is a thoughtful idea to give a “start and end time” so that the graduate and their friends can also plan to attend other parties. 

Graduation Gifts:

If you receive a graduation announcement, you are not obligated to send a gift.  Of course, the graduate would appreciate your kind acknowledgment with either a congratulatory note or… better yet, a gift!  

If you receive an invitation to the graduation ceremony, a gift is expected.  Either send a gift and request that it be delivered near or on the graduation date, or give your gift to the graduate on the day of the commencement. 

It is always nice to ask the parent’s advice on what to give. Consider ordering something that can be engraved with their name, or school, and a date, or give something they can use after graduation for their apartment/house. Lovely stationery that can be used for thank you notes, or an exceptional pen, is another idea!  Sending flowers to the graduate on the day of the graduation is also thoughtful. A check or gift certificate is appropriate too. 

Gentlemen graduates may enjoy having a handsome frame engraved with their initials or school, a pair of engraved cufflinks, a leather credit card holder, or a business cardholder.

Forbidden Faux Pas

No-no: To send an announcement to anyone who has never met the graduate.

What is done:  The announcement should be sent to people the graduate knows, not just the parent's friends or Christmas card list.  Rule of thumb: whomever receives an announcement should be able to recognize the graduate and vice versa!

No-no: To have a gift registry included on the invitation.

What is done: The guest will inquire if you have a registry or a particular store that you adore. 

No-no: For the graduate to only talk to their friends at their graduation party. 

What is done: The graduate should make an effort to talk to all of the guests attending their ceremony and party. 

No-no: To send an email thank you note for graduation gifts.  

What is done: A hand-written thank-you note is required for any graduation gift received, preferably within 48 hours, but up to two weeks, after receiving the gift.

And, don’t forget to pop a cork of champagne for the accomplished graduate!

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Holly

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A gift you give yourself… hiring help to serve at your party!

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On a warm summer's evening, dining on our veranda at Fox Hall c. 1803, is simply magical!

Stuart and I adore entertaining. Friends are a gift you give yourself! Our goal is to have a jovial time while catching up with our darling friends by sharing stories and laughing together over dinner. I truly savor the preparation, from arranging the flowers (either from our garden or store-bought), to deciding the menu, setting the table, and cooking. To me, while as time-consuming as it is to cook, it is my way of showing my love to our precious friends and family. I am most grateful to be able to do this. That being said, Stuart contributes by placing the appropriate glasses on the table and being in charge of the wine and libations for the event. He always excels at showing “his love” with this task…a “jolly time” is guaranteed!

True confession: serving and cleaning up is something that I do not enjoy! When we host an intimate party of six or more, Stuart and I have always agreed that it makes our evening more enjoyable to have help to serve and clean up. This is a gift to ourselves! We are able to relax after all of our preparations and enjoy the evening. Delightfully, we can “be in the moment” and give our full attention to our guests. We are most grateful to be able to have help. It was a decision we made the moment we could afford it, and to you, dear grandmillennials, consider doing this too for your parties.

For Alexandra’s 40th birthday dinner party ( wait, our daughter can’t be that old!), she invited her dear friends from her Miss Porter's School days. Sweet photographs of the girls back in school were arranged on the sideboard, and I placed a wine decanter, filled with flowers, at each place setting as a gift for them to take home. I still consider them as my “other” daughters!

A seasoned piece of advice, which I have learned through experience, (and recently, forgot to do!) is to take the time to discuss with the person/people serving you for the first time, what you expect and how you wish them to serve.  Showing them by example, before the party, is a prudent and thoughtful way to have an understanding between you and your server; you will both know what to expect! 

My “shortlist” to discuss with a new server is:

• Plates and other serving dishes are served on the left side of the guests. In America, the rule of thumb is to "serve on the left."

• Plates are cleared from the table on the right side of the guests. I just remember the two R's: “Remove on the Right!"

• Glasses are refilled on the right because their placement on the table is on the right.

(On a side note, in England, in private houses, plates are served and cleared only on the left side of the guest.)

Forbidden Faux Pas

No-No: To stack plates when clearing the table.  Plates should never be stacked or scraped clean anywhere near the dining table.

What is done: Plates are cleared from the table, two at a time, three at most.  They are cleaned in the kitchen, and preferably not within earshot of the guests.  

No-No: To leave any remaining plates on the table when dessert is served.

What is done: When all of the courses have been served and the remaining plates, salt and pepper, serving pieces, chargers, and flatware (other than the dessert flatware) are all cleared from the table, then dessert (referred to as "pudding” in England) is served.  Glasses remain on the table until the dinner is over and guests move to another room.

Oh, the final part of the gift? Going happily to bed knowing the dishes are clean, put away, and the trash is out. Sweet dreams assured! 

XX
Holly

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The social Kiss-Kiss! Which cheek gets the first air kiss?

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Psyche Revived by Cupid’s Kiss, is the romantic marble sculpture by Italian artist, Antonio Canova, 1787.

With Valentine’s Day in the air, let’s talk about the “Kiss-Kiss!”

Sweet Lalique Lovebirds are kissing on Mottahedeh Pink Lace china… a darling Valentine decoration for your table!

Yes, kissing on the lips is for lovers!  But, the tradition of the “kiss on the cheeks” is a recognized form of endearment between friends, family, and occasionally, business colleagues.  Touching cheeks and kissing in the air is known as the “social kiss” or the “air kiss.”  It is one step above a handshake in terms of devotion, friendship, love, and gratitude.  It is a prevalent social practice for a greeting, and a farewell, in many countries such as the USA and Europe.  In France, this common practice is referred to as “Faire la bise.”

With the continued challenges of Covid, be aware and respectful of how others wish to greet you in reference to the social kiss.  Note their body language and also, if they keep their mask on.  Take your cue from the other person and be respectful of their space and comfort zone. 

The kiss sound comes from your lips in the air, and not a “mu-wah '' voice sound, right?   But, if you are practicing safe distancing, I think that the gesture of hands up while giving a “mock air kiss-kiss” from afar, along with the  “mu-wah mu-wah” voice sound, is a joyful and respectful substitute for a social kiss greeting! 

The general guidelines for a social kiss are:

• A social kiss is usually from right cheek to right cheek. But sometimes, depending on the culture and tradition of a country or region, it is from the left cheek to the left cheek. If you’re in another country, take the cue from them… and, good luck with that!

• Your lips never touch the other person’s cheek.

• Your cheek does not need to touch the other person's cheek; it’s your choice.

• Ladies, if you wear lipstick, just be careful not to leave it on the other person’s cheek!

• A gentleman properly waits for a lady to extend her hand first for a handshake. For the social kiss, he should also wait for a lady to be the first to lean forward, which is the cue that it is appropriate for a social kiss.

• In some countries, one, up to three social kisses are common. My advice is to go with the flow and just be prepared “to do the dance” for that surprise third, or even fourth kiss!

A kiss is the first language of love that we understand! Holding and kissing the newborn twins my daughter delivered in England is a cherished memory.

Happy Valentine’s Day and kiss-kiss to you all! 

XX
Holly

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When I receive NYSD in my inbox, perusing through it is always such a treat. Finding out what is going on in splendid venues, seeing friends, colleagues and clientele, learning about what is happening in New York City and Palm Beach, complemented with delicious writing and party photographs, is a moment to indulge in, and savor!

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Knock-out knobs and pulls: Jewelry for your cabinets!

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Brass fox knobs and snaffle-bit door pulls enhance the Butler’s Pantry cabinets at my home, Fox Hall. They reflect my beloved theme of foxes and horses!

Think twice when purchasing knobs and pulls for your cabinet doors and drawers!  While pretty earrings can complement an elegant outfit for a sought-after “tailored composition,” decorative knobs and pulls can be the “darling detail” for your cabinets, and serve to create a well-appointed decorative touch. Whether the interior space is grand or petite, formal or informal, what you choose to adorn your cabinets with is worthy of your time and attention. Cabinets can be prime real estate to feature a touch of your personality into a room. 

The knob design, and finish you choose, can either be a theme-inspired element, a whimsical element or simply a quiet enhancement to a cabinet, while intrinsically contributing to the overall design of a room.  I adore looking at one’s choice of hardware, as it can transform a space to become uniquely individual!  

Drawer knobs and pulls are available to purchase from a myriad of places.  While I have many “to the trade” options available as a designer, there are, now more than ever, many sources readily available and easily accessible via the internet.  Even Etsy offers some darling options!  Finding just the right style, size, design, and color of “jewelry for your cabinets” can be captivating, amusing, and joyful, once you commence the search with a theme in mind.  

There is a whimsical Chinoiserie theme at Petite Fox II, our newest abode in Palm Beach! The dining room features a bespoke pagoda. And, for the kitchen, I chose wallpaper with pink & blue Chinese dragons and foo dogs. As I searched for the cabinet hardware, I discovered brass “dragon” pull handles on Etsy, of all places. I was intrigued, so I ordered a sample. That was it! Soon, they clung to the upper cabinet doors in our kitchen. Because of their spine, pointy tail, and pokey-sharp tongue, these dragons tend to “bite” if you lean against or brush past them. So, I chose a different style pull, with a lower profile, to dress the lower cabinets.

Grandmillennial Tip:

The finish you choose for your cabinet jewelry should be all the same- either brass, nichol, chrome, etc.  This is applicable to the hinges too if they are visible. 

The “egg” shape pull is the most classic shape of all. I have brass egg shape knobs throughout my kitchen (on the doors and drawers) at Fox Hall, c.1803.

These handsome glass egg-shaped faucet handles at the WATERWORKS showroom in Bostoncaptured my attention for a guest bathroom for a client. I would recommend carrying out the same egg shape and finish for the cabinet hardware too. The glass adds a touch of glamour. Do you agree?

While drawer pulls are traditionally centered, a second pull (side by side)  may be used if the drawer is over 20” wide, depending on the size of the pull. Or, just use one pull, but longer in size than the ones on the smaller drawers. 

A knob can be placed on the leading edge anywhere from 1” from the far bottom corner of the cabinet door, up several inches from the corner, or even in the absolute center of the door. Experiment with various placements before actually drilling the hole to attach them! 

Consider using two different designs of knobs for cabinets in the same room. While each has a distinctive design and shape, they should strive to be complementary in theme and have the same finish.  

My daughter, Caroline, discovered four orange enamel knobs with brass fox heads at an Anthropologie store. Even though they were discontinued, she knew that somehow I would find a way to use just four of them! And I did… on the glass doors in another section of the Butler’s Pantry at Fox Hall.

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Holly

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What decorative trim is elegantly understated and timeless?

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What decorative trim is elegantly understated and timeless?

A simple, quietly understated 1” wide trim embellishes a dust ruffle, created with a Bob Collins classic chintz fabric, in Palm Beach.

What decorative trim is timeless, tailored, and exceptionally cost-effective?  It can be used to enhance curtains and valances, adorn upholstery, pillows, dust ruffles, and even grace your clothes, hair bands, hats, shoes, and ponytails?  Now, that’s a notable roster for ONE kind of trim, wouldn’t you agree?  Any ideas of which trim I am referring to?

It is a grosgrain ribbon!  (Pronounced: GROW-grain)

Grosgrain is a very versatile ribbon and has a distinctive ribbed appearance that goes across the ribbon, which enhances its durability.  Its textured parallel ridges have a matte finish.  Therefore it is not flashy or shiny, and is more durable than satin or silk ribbons. 

Grosgrain, as early as the 17th century, referred to a garment fabric that was black and durable.  In the 1920s “grosgrain ribbon” was introduced, and now, there are a multitude of colors and printed designs available.  I like to think of grosgrain ribbon as having a “distinguished appearance,’ which is one reason it continues to embellish evening wear too, like the bow on a gentleman’s formal black evening pumps.

And, how about these golden grosgrain earrings!!

Consider applying a 1” to 2” wide grosgrain ribbon along the leading edge and across the bottom hemline of your curtain panels. Choose a complementary color to the fabric design or room scheme… or simply choose a neutral color, like white.

These curtain pull panels have 1 ½” white grosgrain ribbon applied one inch off the leading edge of both panels.

I specify a grosgrain ribbon trim to be sewn about ½” to 1 ½” off the leading edges on a curtain panel. How you place it depends on the pattern of the fabric, the height of the room, the width of the curtains, and the formality of the design scheme. So, it is a matter of deciding what proportionately works well overall in reference to the placement, size, and color of the ribbon. Two or more smaller ribbons can be used too. Have fun, be clever and think outside of the box when designing with grosgrain ribbon!

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Holly

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I have used Samuel & Sons grosgrain ribbons for years for my clients. Grosgrain ribbon can also be easily obtained on the internet too, like this roll of 2” white ribbon.

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My Palm Beach Secrets!

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The next time you visit Palm Beach, a marvelous place to have lunch outside on the ocean’s edge is The Four Seasons Hotel, about six miles by car from Worth Avenue. The service and food is delightful. It is well worth the drive… and well-behaved dogs are allowed!

GIVEAWAY! 

Last week I featured the very talented Mara Sfara. She has been gracious enough to offer this lovely painting exclusively to my SLL subscribers and social media followers! The painting, Three Great White Egrets, is oil on linen and valued at $4,200. Click the button below to enter! We will be choosing our winner at random on Valentine's Day, 2/14/22. The winner will be announced shortly thereafter, once confirmed. Best of luck!

My “secret” color combination for kitchens!

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My “secret” color combination for kitchens!

A blue & white kitchen will stand the test of time! Photo Credit: Scheffer Interiors via Instagram.

What is my “secret” color combination for a charming, timeless, and tailored kitchen?  It’s a “blue & white” color scheme!  This traditional color combination has been around for centuries, so maybe it does not qualify as “my secret,” but more of my “tried and true'' color combination for a kitchen… and for other rooms too, for that matter!

Mummy convinced me to consider a blue & white scheme for the kitchen in my first “big-girl” house.  I realize now that I did not truly appreciate her sage guidance at age 21… but, once again, her advice was merited!  She drew from her well-earned experience: she encountered several rather unique interiors, whilst moving our family over 33 times internationally!  Fortunately, I listened to her and adopted her blue & white suggestion for almost all of our houses.  

The blue & white scheme also works well with yellows, greens, reds, and even pink accents.  Almost any other happy color will compliment a blue & white room.  

To me, the blue & white theme utilized in kitchens, and other interior spaces, adds an air of contentment and joy, similar to a bright blue sky adorned with enchanting, puffy white clouds… a joyful, welcomed sight!  Even the blue & white images of interiors that I share on my Instagram garner enthusiastic likes and views from my followers.

This is our little sitting nook in the blue & white kitchen at Fox Hall. I commissioned an artist to paint our son, Stuart III, and requested that the color of his sweaters be a soft blue, knowing that it would always work well with the blue & white colors in our kitchen!

There is a universal appeal and charm of a blue & white color palette.  Perhaps, one reason it remains an enduring color combination is because of its long history and staying power.  It originated on pottery in China in the Tang dynasty 618-906.  In the Yuan dynasty 1279-1368, the cobalt blue used on pottery and porcelains became even more vibrant.  Blue & white porcelains arrived in Europe in the 16th century.  In the 1850s, the British were simply charmed by the appeal of a blue & white scheme, which became quite fashionable.  (And, of course, it served to brighten up their dark Victorian interiors!)  Impressionist artists, such as Auguste Renoir, sprinkled blue & white porcelains into their works of art.  The universal appeal and charm of blue & white in rooms, or on porcelains, continues and is a traditional, not trendy, choice. 

From various hues of blue-painted kitchen cabinets to blue & white wallpaper, one just cannot go wrong with this choice! So, pass along this advice to a bride, a first-home owner, or someone designing a resort house. From my experience, it will serve them well.

Main and Market offers blue & white wall coverings with a fresh aesthetic to the designs.

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Holly

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GIVEAWAY! 

Last week I featured the very talented Mara Sfara. She has been gracious enough to offer this lovely painting exclusively to my SLL subscribers and social media followers! The painting, Three Great White Egrets, is oil on linen and valued at $4,200. Click the button below to enter! We will be choosing our winner at random on Valentine's Day, 2/14/22. The winner will be announced shortly thereafter, once confirmed. Best of luck!

A lovely lucite sculpture can hop into your heart!

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A lovely lucite sculpture can hop into your heart!

An adorable lucite bunny is tickled pink to be under the “Three Great White Egrets.” Both pieces are by artist Mara Sfara.

There is nothing like commencing a new year with a hop and some sparkle!  I was on the hunt for a joyful little piece of art: a sculpture for a client in Palm Beach to perch upon a tellie room coffee table… and it had to be pink! 

When I choose art, my mantra and prerequisite is that “the artwork has to speak to my heart.”  So, I keep that in mind for my darling clients too. 

Luck would have it that I ran into Mara Sfara, a dear friend, fellow Garden Club of Hartford member, and a stunningly talented artist.  She has been featured in many art publications and notable shows.  Mara is not only an exceptionally fine artist on canvas, she also sculpts brilliantly.  So, I inquired, and yes!  She had the perfect piece: a pink, lucite bunny, with a few sparkles.  My client sparkles and adores bunnies.  Mission accomplished! 

Art conveys an individual's personality and interests, and can also enhance the overall visual aesthetic experience of an interior design scheme.  Mara says, “Artwork is about falling in love!”  Agreed.  She loves her subjects in order to create art that touches one's heart.  Animals, endangered species and human relationships, make her art sing. 

Mara’s pink bunny sang to me- his little bent ear is so very precious. (Oh, dear. This is what happens to designers when they find the perfect piece for a client; they are tempted to buy one for themselves too!)

Lucite has higher light refraction than glass.  I am attracted to the luminosity of lucite, yet did not know much about lucite sculpting.  I inquired and thought you may wish to know more as well.

1.) Mara sends her sculptures to a foundry to make small limited editions of each piece.  The foundry uses a process that is like bronze casting.  

2.) The type of lucite that she uses is extremely difficult to work with, as it requires a perfect pour for even coloration, no bubbles, and a perfect placement.  Therefore, it requires a highly skilled foundry to create work at this level. 

3.) None of the pieces are the same even if you use the same color pour.  Each lucite sculpture is different in size and shape.  The buffing is also a long process.

Her website explains the entire lucite process and shows other pieces of her artwork.

I have always had a penchant for zebras! The fine detail work is exceptional. There is eye contact with the zebra which speaks volumes, a kind of emotional attachment. This painting was featured in Fine Arts Connoisseur Magazine, editor Peter Trippi, and Art and Museums Magazine. Perhaps, someday, I’ll commission a pink zebra for Palm Beach!

Thank you, Mara! 

“Art is more about what’s in your heart and mind than what’s on your canvas.”

~Mara Sfara

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Holly

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Simple cinnamon sugar in a silver caster!

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Simple cinnamon sugar in a silver caster!

Sugar and spice, and everything nice! Do you have sweet memories of sprinkling “cinnamon sugar” over your buttered toast as a child?

My husband and I were delighted to have all of our eight grandchildren visit us at Fox Hall over the holidays.  It’s “happy bedlam,” and I cherish every moment.

At breakfast, one granddaughter asked me what the silver “sprinkler thing” was, which she spied perched near the kitchen stove.  “For pepper?” This was the perfect moment to share what a silver “caster” was originally designed for: sugar!  One would “cast” sugar across their food with it. 

Casters have been utilized ever since the 17th century.  Sugar was once a prized commodity, like tea.  The silver caster contributed to the decorative panache of displaying sugar on the table.  The dome top is pierced, so the sugar can be delicately dispersed as it is cast, and often has a decorative finial on top. 

Our silver casters have been lovingly used by our children ever since they were young, to sprinkle cinnamon sugar on their buttered toast as a special treat. They have a few “dings and dents” earned over the years, aka “authentic patina,” which I adore!

My granddaughter’s question created the perfect opportunity to carry on the tradition and make the cinnamon sugar recipe together. 

The ratio of cinnamon to sugar is approximately one to four.  In essence, 1/4 cup cinnamon to 1 cup of sugar and then stirred together.  (I prefer a little less cinnamon!) 

Simple cinnamon sugar in a silver caster! 

Sugar and spice, and everything nice!  Do you have sweet memories of sprinkling “cinnamon sugar” over your buttered toast as a child?

My husband and I were delighted to have all of our eight grandchildren visit us at Fox Hall over the holidays.  It’s “happy bedlam,” and I cherish every moment.

At breakfast, one granddaughter asked me what the silver “sprinkler thing” was, which she spied perched near the kitchen stove.  “For pepper?” This was the perfect moment to share what a silver “caster” was originally designed for: sugar!  One would “cast” sugar across their food with it. 

Casters have been utilized ever since the 17th century.  Sugar was once a prized commodity, like tea.  The silver caster contributed to the decorative panache of displaying sugar on the table.  The dome top is pierced, so the sugar can be delicately dispersed as it is cast, and often has a decorative finial on top. 

Our silver casters have been lovingly used by our children ever since they were young, to sprinkle cinnamon sugar on their buttered toast as a special treat. They have a few “dings and dents” earned over the years, aka “authentic patina,” which I adore!

My granddaughter’s question created the perfect opportunity to carry on the tradition and make the cinnamon sugar recipe together. 

The ratio of cinnamon to sugar is approximately one to four.  In essence, 1/4 cup cinnamon to 1 cup of sugar and then stirred together.  (I prefer a little less cinnamon!) 

Is cinnamon sugar a healthy choice for breakfast?  No!  Is it yummy, easy, and a fun treat for breakfast?  Yes indeed, it is! 

We made it, filled a silver caster, and then sprinkled some on our warm waffles.  This simple tradition of cinnamon sugar served in a caster now continues on to another generation! 

Grandmillennial Tip:

A caster can be utilized for other spices too!  I have actually used one to season my cooking with coarse black pepper.  I don’t use salt in it though, as it can pit the silver over time.
 

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Holly

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The gift of time for 2022!

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The gift of time for 2022! 

Mummy's antique French clock graces the wall in my office and reminds me of her remarkable life, along with the endless love she gave me. The photograph is from my first book, The Pretty and Proper Living Room.

As we commence a new year, I thought it poignant to share a sweet little analogy about a “unique contest and prize.”  Perhaps, you may have already read it before on the internet, nevertheless, the “unique prize” is a clever reminder to all as we inaugurate 2022.  So, here it is!

Imagine that you won a VERY unique contest.  What is the prize? Each morning, you receive $86,400.00 in your bank account!  Here are the rules: 

1. Each morning, upon awakening, another $86,400 will be deposited for that day.

2. Everything that you didn't spend during each day will disappear. 

3. Transferring money into another account is not allowed. 

4. The bank can end the game at any time, and without warning!  The bank can say “game over,” and close your account forever. 

So, how will you spend your daily deposit of $86,400?  Perhaps you will buy anything that you want, not only for yourself, but also for all the people that you love and care for.  And, you will try your best to spend every penny because at the end of the day, any left over will be gone, and you confidently know it will be replenished once again each morning, right? 

Well, let’s transpose the money into time.  Each morning we awaken with 86,400 seconds to live each day. So, you have already won the prize; it’s TIME! 

1. TIME is the gift of life. 

2. Once you go to sleep at night, any remaining time will NOT be credited to you. 

3. The time not used on any day will be forever lost because yesterday is forever gone.

4. Each morning, the “time account” is refilled.  

5. But, here is the kicker: the bank can dissolve your account at any time and WITHOUT warning. 

So, what will you do with your 86,400 seconds of time each day in 2022?  Time races by faster than one can ever imagine.  Be happy, love deeply, and gratefully enjoy every “prized second” of your unique life. I wish you a healthy 2022… may every second be cherished!

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Holly

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How to PROPERLY pop the cork on a bottle of bubbly!

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How to PROPERLY pop the cork on a bottle of bubbly!

Pink champagne is traditionally served at Fox Hall… for any occasion!

When champagne is served, instantly it is a celebration!  With the tradition of serving champagne on New Year’s Eve, I thought I would pose the question: do you know how to properly pop the cork on a bottle of bubbly?  

Even though I have observed my darling husband open countless bottles, I confess I have been doing it incorrectly myself.  I always thought that the loud “POP” sound, accompanied by an enthusiastic “darting cork,” was key… wrong! 

Champagne was created in France BY accident, and if you are not careful to remove the cork correctly, you can have AN accident!  The cork, if not removed properly, can release, like a dangerous projectile, a flying bullet.  The pressure behind a champagne cork is approximately 90 psi, equivalent to three times the pressure in a car tire. What is the secret and safe method of popping the cork? Twist the bottle, NOT the cork! 

Here is how to properly remove a cork from a bottle of champagne:

FIRST: Be sure the bottle is chilled, preferably to 45 degrees Fahrenheit.  If the bottle is NOT cold enough, the cork can release even more quickly because of the pressure inside the bottle. (A bottle of champagne at room temperature has more pressure, which creates a bigger pop and more effervescent spray, than a chilled bottle!)

SECOND: Dry the bottle and hold it at a 45-degree angle.

THIRD: Untwist the wire cage counterclockwise with approximately six twists, and lift the cage off the cork, while also keeping pressure on the cork. 

FOURTH: Twist the bottom of the bottle, not the cork!  Keep pressure on the cork with your hand, and pull the bottle down as you twist it.  By twisting the bottle, you can control the release of the cork.  Twist until the cork pops. 

FIFTH: The quieter the “pop” of the cork, the more professional you are at mastering the correct technique!

Be sure to point the bottle away from anyone or anything valuable… no secret there!  Draping a folded linen napkin over the cork while removing it is another precautionary measure. 

My mother-in-law lovingly says, “Tiny bubbles taste better!”  It is always lovely to have a few chilled bottles of champagne on hand to serve for any occasion, because there is always a reason, and a season, to celebrate with champagne, right? 

Grandmillennial Tip:

Using a mixture of 50 percent water and 50 percent ice is an expedient way to quickly chill a bottle of champagne. Use this 50/50 mixture in an ice bucket and fill it about a third of the way up.  It is an elegant way to chill and serve champagne. 

Cheers to YOU!  I am most grateful for your enthusiastic support, and also to my generous sponsors.  Thank you!  I wish you a MOST bubbly 2022. May it be filled with happy celebrations! 
 

XX
Holly

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Magical Reindeer Food: The Secret Recipe

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Magical Reindeer Food: The Secret Recipe

Such a simple recipe that guarantees an abundance of joy!

If you have children, grandchildren or friends with children, I imagine you are truly counting the days until Christmas, based on their anticipation!  Christmas Eve has always been filled with excitement, tradition, and sprinkled with the spirit of magic on this holy night. 

One clever tradition that I adopted two years ago is Magic Reindeer food.  It was shared with me by a dear subscriber, Mary E., who sent me enough petite packages of “oats and gold glitter” for our eight grandchildren… a charming tradition, forevermore!  

On Christmas Eve, during cocktail hour, we give each child their own bag.  They promptly untie the ribbon and run outside to sprinkle the sparkly oats on the lawn by the front steps of Fox Hall.  It is such a precious moment to witness!  The children are truly invested in this memorable custom and I want to share this secret recipe with you, too.  (Mary gave me the nod to do so!)

Sprinkling the magic food on the steps to the front door seems to be the magic area of choice for our grandchildren!

For each bag:

3-4 Tablespoons of raw oats 

1-2 Tablespoons of gold craft glitter

Place both ingredients in a little bag and tie it with a holiday ribbon.  Shake-shake! An option, if you prefer, is to use red or green edible sprinkles, though not quite as sparkly.

May your holidays, and the new year, sparkle with love. 

Merry Christmas to all! 

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Holly

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The Secret Christmas Caviar Ball Recipe!

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The Secret Christmas Caviar Ball Recipe!

Each Christmas eve, my Caviar Ball is served in an etched glass caviar server. The bottom portion is filled with ice, and the finished Caviar Ball is adorned with a few holly leaves, a Holly tradition at Fox Hall! The Mother-of-Pearl spoon has a clever silver sturgeon-designed handle.

Would you agree that “inherited recipes,”  the ones families cherish, are as good as gold?  For one reason, they are tried and true! But also, the recipes, that have a time-honored appearance during holidays, can evoke happy memories simply by the mere sight and taste of them.  

On Christmas Eve, Mummy would make her recipe for “ THE Caviar Ball” which she served during cocktail hour.  I started eating caviar at a young age because of this tradition.  I did not know what it was… but, I must have been inspired to eat it as I observed how everyone was raving about it!  Isn’t that the case with food?  If you don’t know what it is and try it, sometimes you develop an appreciation for the taste, untainted by any preconceived ideas of its origin!

About caviar:

In order to be “true caviar,” the roe must come from the wild sturgeon (Beluga, Ossetra, and Sevruga) in the Caspian Sea and the Black Sea.  Caviar has been considered a luxury and dates back to the 4th Century B.C. when Aristotle heralded it as a delicacy.  Even the British Royal family has had an affinity for caviar.  Edward II decreed the sturgeon a royal fish in 1324. Caviar must be farmed now, due to the protected status of the near-extinction levels of sturgeon. 

Ever since I was a young bride, Mummy’s Caviar Ball has remained a tradition for our family. Truth be known, my Caviar Ball is also served at other social events at Fox Hall too, not just Christmas.  During this magically festive season, I am delighted to share my “secret” recipe with you.

Mummy’s Christmas Caviar Ball

1 8oz cream cheese (Note: it cannot be the “less fat” variety)

2 shakes of a Worcestershire sauce bottle

1 (or 2) scallions, finely chopped, including the bulb at the bottom 

½ teaspoon cream or milk

And finally, one 2oz. jar of Caviar!

Mix the above together (except the caviar).  Place on a piece of plastic wrap and form a ball.  Chill the ball until firm.  You can make this one or two days in advance of serving so that the scallion flavor melds into the cream cheese.  

On Christmas Eve, (or whenever!) place the cream cheese ball on a dish, preferably over ice.  A caviar server is lovely to own for this purpose.  Smooth the caviar over the ball. Serve with a Mother-of-Pearl spoon. (Silver spoons can impart a metallic taste from the caviar.) 

You can garnish with a little parsley, but I recommend our tradition of a festive sprig of holly for embellishment, along with half of a maraschino cherry to mimic a red berry! (Note: do NOT use actual holly red berries, as they are poisonous!)

Serve with toasted white bread, or Carr's water crackers.  You want something plain to spread it on, so that the true essence of the Caviar Ball is the hallowed flavor to savor. 

Oh, la la, discovering yet another caviar source in Paris!

Grandmillennial Tip:

 Domestic caviars are much less expensive and are quite appealing too. 

Make the cheese ball portion a day early so that the scallions can meld into the flavor of the cream cheese.  Then assemble it with the caviar on top and garnish with a piece of holly when ready to serve. 

The Caviar Ball is much easier to prepare than serving caviar separately, which requires the accouterments which consist of minced onions, egg whites, egg yolks, creme fraiche, and blinis. 

Make your own toast points or rounds.  Use white bread, toasted, with the crusts cut off.  Either cut the slice into four small triangles or punch out rounds into half dollar size pieces, implementing a small cookie cutter. 

If you serve your Caviar Ball on a silver platter, which I did for many years until I was given my caviar server, be sure to remove the remaining ball from the silver if there is any leftover.  The salt in the caviar can pit the silver… advice from my experience as a young bride! 

Please share this recipe, even though it is still my secret!  I hope you enjoy it as much as I have through the years!   

In gratitude,

XX
Holly

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Petite Decorations

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Petite Decorations 

Joy to the world! My beloved, childhood angels! 

Now, more than ever, the joy of being together is sweeter than sugar… and sugar plums! While decorating for Christmas this year, I felt a renewed kindred spirit for the “little decorations,” which I hold dear, sparking even more holiday spirit!

At Fox Hall,  a miniature circle of German hand-carved wooden angels (top photo) have been dancing around a little Christmas tree for decades.  You can see how these angels have been well-loved, with authentic patina from my first three childhood years spent in Germany.  My parents allowed me to play with them, so they acquired my “love marks” each year.  By creating these types of tactile traditions for children and grandchildren, cherished holiday memories are kept alive in one’s heart forever!

My German son-in-law’s family thoughtfully gives us an angel each year to add to our flourishing angel orchestra. 

There is a place for glamorous, as well as, homemade decorations.  But also, consider how special it is to discover diminutive and beloved treasures on a side table, the corner of a piano, around a candlestick, next to a bedside, or under an existing sculpture.  Petite Christmas vignettes, with fairy-sized decorations, are not only charming to behold but can serve to conjure cherished childhood memories too.  Sometimes the littlest gestures can delight and stay in one's heart forever.  Consider this when you decorate this year!

Isn't this Italian Christmas tree above, standing only 11 ½” tall, elegantly appointed?! The stand can be twisted to commence its delicate Christmas music which plays as the tree spins ‘round. Mummy purchased this years ago after my father died. Each year, I cherish gently lifting it from a padded box. I then sit down to quietly admire it before winding it up to hear the sweet music. I cannot help but have “happy tears,” as I listen and remember my loving parents, along with a flood of sweet memories of Christmas. Decorations with sentimental value tend to be the best decorations. Do you agree?

Can you spy the little red elf who climbs onto the dining room candelabra each Christmas morning? He is German, made of felt, has a hand-painted face, and is over 60 years old. He is a very nimble little elf who continues to delight us all!

May you too create memories and beloved traditions for your family with petite adornments each Christmas. 

XX,
Holly

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Holiday Dinner Party- How To Be The Hostess With The Mostess

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Holiday Dinner Party-  How To Be The Hostess With The Mostess 

Oh, what fun it is to celebrate the “holly-days” at Fox Hall by creating good cheer that is merry and bright…in candlelight!

The holidays are upon us and how grand it is to celebrate with family and friends and host dinner parties again!  Here are just a few suggestions, from my years of entertaining experience, which I feel contribute to creating a memorable event for your guests.

-Prior to your event, ask if your guests have any food dislikes, allergies, or are vegetarian. 

-If your guests prefer non-alcoholic drinks, be sure to have something else to serve them.  One of our friends adores ginger beer, a non-alcoholic drink that I keep on hand for him. 

-Polish your silver! Mummy always said the best way to get your silver and house to sparkle is to host a party or have houseguests! 

The darling “holly” embellished linens were a hostess gift to me from a dear friend. I cherish thinking of her when I use them during the month of December.  

-Write out your place cards, with the name of each guest, and decide where they will be seated.  My previous newsletter offers more detail about the protocol of place cards.

-Replenish your candlesticks with new white candles and blacken the wicks.  This is an old-school tradition.  Blackened wicks indicate that candles are not just decorative accessories; they are actually used. 

-Before my guests arrive, I place a card on the unlocked front door to invite them in. It simply says: “Please, do come in!” This way, they do not feel obliged to stand in the cold elements until the door is answered. 

-Lower the lights in the evening and remember, candlelight is not only romantic, it also enhances everyone’s appearance!  I believe that candlelight makes everything taste better too, so light the candles on the dining room table, sideboard, and the wall sconces. 

-If you have a fire in the fireplace, make sure your house remains cool enough that your guests are not sweltering from the heat, especially for those seated near the fireplace.

-It is up to the host to pour the wine.  If the wine is placed on table, and the host is in deep conversation or busy, any gentleman guest may take it upon himself to pour the wine for guests seated next to him, serving others before he serves himself.

-Wine bottles are either placed on a wine coaster or, more formally, poured into crystal decanters.  Typically, one is placed on each end of the dining room table. This is discussed in my book, The Pretty and Proper Living Room. 

Forbidden Faux Pas:

No-no: To place a fork on top of the napkin.  The fork goes to the left of the dinner plate (the napkin goes to the left of the fork), or the napkin may be placed in the center of the place setting. The fork never touches the napkin!

No-no: A centerpiece that is too tall and restricts the view of your guests from looking across the table to one another. Keep your centerpieces low so that your guests can enjoy their conversation and eye contact with other guests.

No-no: To have your dog or cat out and about, greeting your guests.  Your pets should be put away in another room.  I am such an animal lover, but I understand that not everyone else is!  Some people have allergies or are afraid of animals. 

No-no: Phones on the table. If a guest has a babysitter, or needs to be on-call, they should mention to the hostess that they need to have their phone nearby, or preferably, they should discreetly place the phone in their pocket, on their lap, or behind them on the dining room chair seat.

No-no: Playing music too loud. If dinner music is played, it should be so soft that everyone can carry on a normal conversation. Nothing is more disconcerting than not being able to carry on a civilized conversation and being forced to raise one’s voice due to the overzealous sound of music.
May the joyful sound of jolly laughter and merriment fill your house during this holiday season! 

XX,
Holly

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Holden Punch

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Holden Punch

What fun we had filming a video about Holden Punch! My darling daughter-in-law, Karen, convinced me to share the secret recipe.

Why not serve a festive punch for all of your holiday gatherings this year?  Your guests will be pleased… as punch! 

Our “Holden Punch” has become a traditional libation that our guests now have come to expect at Fox Hall… and they are rawwwther disappointed if it does not greet them!  In addition to having a bar, I find it easy to offer a punch versus a signature cocktail because the punch is prepared in advance and voila, guests can also help themselves too! 

Where did “punch” originally come from?  Well, British sailors brought it back to Europe from their travels to the colonies in India during the 16th century.  Nutmeg was the most valuable product imported from there and it was also the spice used in punch.  Because of that, punch became fashionable for aristocrats and the elite in Europe, and eventually in America too.  In 1655, Jamaican rum became popular when it was brought back from the West Indies, and rum punch became favored in the Western World.

The word punch may have come from the Hindu word, panch, meaning “five” and translates to the five ingredients found in most punches: sweet, sour, spice, alcohol and water.  This is certainly applicable to Holden Punch!

At Fox Hall, Holden Punch is presented in a large, silver Revere bowl on a silver platter, along with a punch ladle. A floating ice ring with sliced lemons, limes, cherries, and even holly leaves dresses it up with a pretty garnish on top.

My ice ring was just released from the mold and is ready to be placed on top of the punch before serving. 

I find that punch cups are too small and dainty for my party guests so I use my own rendition of a punch cup: crystal brandy snifters!  When placed around the punch bowl, they add a festive sparkle! 

Our punch bowl is placed at one end of our dining room table for large cocktail parties or on the sideboard when we have a smaller gathering.

The “secret” recipe to Holden Punch:

4 cups light rum (can also be dark!)

2 cups brandy (your choice!) 

2 cups lemon juice- use “ReaLemon” in a bottle (even better, freshly squeezed lemon juice!) 

1 cup sugar

½ cup peach brandy

⅛ teaspoon nutmeg (for tradition!) 

Mix the above before the party in a mixing bowl or pitcher. 

5 lbs ice 

When ready to serve, pour the mixture in a punch bowl and stir in the 5 lbs of ice!  Add the ice ring as a garnish and serve with a ladle. 

Add more ice as needed.

Note: This is half of the recipe and it makes enough for 35 people - double it and it's enough for 70-75!  It is very similar to Fish House Punch. 

Grandmillennial Tips:

A glass, porcelain, or silver bowl can be used, or simply serve the punch from a pitcher. 

If you don’t have brandy snifters, use “old-fashioned cocktail” glasses. 

Make an ice ring in a round or crescent shape gelatin mold.  I first line the mold with Saran Wrap because it makes the frozen ice easy to remove!  Then, sprinkle slices of lemons, limes, cherries, raspberries, strawberries, or oranges in the mold, cover with water, and freeze. 

Holden Punch is indeed alcoholic and only for adults.  For children, I serve sparkling cider, which can be in a punch bowl too, or simply served in a pretty glass along with a cherry or two, as a special drink for them. 

Punch is also a festive libation to serve at ladies’ showers, club meetings, evening book clubs… it definitely contributes to a jolly atmosphere! 

Cheers! And, Happy Thanksgiving wishes to all of you!

XX,
Holly

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THE Perfect Pecan Pie!

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THE Perfect Pecan Pie!

While baking this pecan pie, Fox Hall was filled with the most divine aroma, and as I took it out of the oven, I was suddenly surrounded by my grandchildren and family visiting. They watched me like a hawk, and nudged me to “hurry up and finish the photograph.” They couldn’t wait to have a piece of the warm pie. True confessions? I couldn’t wait either!

Thanksgiving is upon us and I have been requested to share my secret Pecan Pie recipe.  It is absolutely divine and I have kept it close to my heart, never divulging it before!  I am exceptionally “thankful” to you for subscribing, and for inspiring others as well.  So, consider yourself a cherished friend because today, my secret recipe is now your secret recipe too! 

For you, my darling “international audience,” I know you are aware that Pumpkin Pie is the traditional pie served at an American Thanksgiving.  But did you know that Pecan Pie is truly an American creation, because pecans are native to our country and were propagated by Native Americans?  Georgia is now the largest commercial grower of these nuts.  It is debatable where the first recipe originated, most likely in Texas in the late 1800s.  The recipe was published in 1898 for a church cookbook in St. Louis, but its popularity truly began in the 1920s when the manufacturer of Karo syrup printed the recipe on the bottle… and the rest is history! 

Yes, there are negative connotations associated with corn syrup, but the dreamy combination of eggs, butter, vanilla, sugar, whole pecans, and yes, Karo syrup, is required for a traditional Pecan Pie.  The substitutes, like maple syrup, just don’t make the grade in my opinion.  So, prepare to indulge any time of year, because, unlike Pumpkin Pie, it is savored year-round. 

Some variations to the recipe include adding chocolate, coconut, bourbon, or whiskey.  But my secret variation, which I first developed as a young bride, is the addition of Grand Marnier liqueur. I still have a penchant for Grand Marnier!

I enjoy making this pie for my family and for many of my long-standing dinner-party guests who continue to request it…the ultimate compliment!  It is a joy to make and present one as a hostess gift too because it can easily be frozen for future use. 

Oh, one more tidbit for you.  How do you pronounce the word “pecan?”  There are several variants, including the most common mistake: PEE-can.  Mummy told me, “ A 'PEE-can' is something you place under the bed,” if you understand what I mean!  So, if you make my yummy pie recipe, here is how to correctly say “pecan” when you serve it:  I hope you enjoy my “Pee-KAHN” Pie!   

Holly’s Perfect Pecan Pie

You will need one 9” unbaked pie shell.  You can make a pie crust, or simply buy a Pillsbury rolled-up pie crust in the refrigerated area of the grocery store, and place it in a 9” pie plate…. easy-peasy. 

Ingredients:

2 large eggs

1/2 cup sugar

1 cup DARK Karo corn syrup, which is half of a bottle.  Karo is found near the maple syrup.

1 teaspoon vanilla

1 ½ or 2 tablespoons Grand Marnier liqueur (or more!)

1  or 1 ½ tablespoons of orange rind, finely grated (a must ingredient to complement the Grand Marnier)

¼ cup melted butter (salted)- only use butter!

¼ teaspoon granulated salt

1 ½  cup whole pecans 

In a bowl, add the sugar and Karo syrup to the beaten eggs.  Then, add the salt, vanilla, Grand Marnier, melted butter, and the grated orange rind to the egg mixture.  Best to mix by hand with a whisk or spoon, and don’t overbeat it to avoid foam on top of the pie.

Place the pecans evenly on the bottom of the pie crust, and pour the filling mixture over the nuts. The nuts will rise to the top. 

I use a child’s silver fork to score the unbaked pie crust edges. When I poured the pecans in, one of my decorative fall “pheasants” hopped in! I use him to garnish hors d’oeuvres platters during Thanksgiving, but he obviously wanted his picture taken with my pie before I baked it!

Bake at 350 degrees for 40 minutes.  Start checking the pie at 35 minutes, and depending on your oven, it may take 45-50 minutes to get a desirable brown on the pecans! 

Serve warm!  You may add a dollop of whipped cream made with Grand Marnier instead of vanilla…I told you I adore it!   

Grandmillennial Tips:

If you buy the Pillsbury pie crust, unroll it, place it in the 9” pie plate, fold over and crimp or score the edges so that the crust looks homemade.  I usually press the edge with the tines of a small fork, for that added “home-made-ness” appearance!  And, if you want to, brush some beaten egg yolk along the uncooked pie crust edges. This adds a golden glow to the crust once the pie is baked. 

The pie is done when the pecans are medium or toasty brown, but NEVER burned.  

There should be a slight jiggle to the center of the pie when removing it from the oven.

I prefer to use a glass or a pretty porcelain pie plate versus a metal one.

To give an attractive appearance when presenting the pie on the sideboard, or while serving it at the dinner table, I place the pie in a silver pie dish. 

When I give a pie as a hostess gift, I either purchase a new glass pie plate and give that along with the pie, or I use a disposable tin pie plate.  Either way, I do not want to impose on the gift recipient to have to return the plate back to me! 

Serve your pecan pie warm, and offer a dollop of whipped cream with it. Oh, Yummm!

I hope you enjoy my secret recipe.  I would love to see photographs of your Pecan Pie at Thanksgiving, or for that matter, any time of year! 

XX Holly 

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Paint Tips Part II: Ceiling ideas & the perfect pink!

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Paint Tips Part II: Ceiling ideas & the perfect pink!

Painting your ceiling a complementary color can be a subtle, yet intriguing detail! The front hall at Petite Fox has the same color pink on the ceiling as on the walls and ceiling in the adjoining living room. I specified 6” wide stripes on the walls. The green is BM Tint of Mint #851, in a flat finish, and the white is BM White Dove OC-17, in semi-gloss finish which adds interest to the surface. The Venetian Murano chandelier contributes to the pink and green theme.

Many have kindly inquired about the color pink on the walls and ceiling in my living room at Petite Fox, our pied a terre in Palm Beach. I am most happy to share my secret recipe! 

First, let’s chat about ceilings!  Ceilings are considered as the 5th wall, one which can be an unexpected treat for your guests’ eyes.  Typically, most guests rarely look up to the ceiling until they begin to feel notably comfortable within their surroundings.  When a person first enters a room, naturally, their eyes gravitate from the floor… up to the ceiling. 

Contrary to this human behavior, when one is in the presence of a spectacular domed edifice, ornate plasterwork, or a ceiling with gilded embellishments, it is natural to want to look up at the ceiling!  Historically, grand ceilings painted by extraordinary artists were meant to impress.  This brings back a fond memory of filming my television series in the Music Room at Highclere Castle (aka Downton Abbey), where Lady Carnarvon and I enjoyed afternoon tea and discussed interior design. The baroque ceiling, painted by Francis Hayman in the 1730s, is positively mesmerizing and a pure delight when viewed from below.  (The eye candy in this episode is probably why the episode garnered an Emmy nomination!)

The ceiling in the Music Room at Highclere Castle is stunning. The original canvas was cut to fit the ornate ceiling plasterwork design. Photo credit: Chris McLaughlin / Pinterest

For a historic house, unless there is a precedent for an original design or plasterwork, I honor the tradition of a white ceiling.  When the trim is white, then I will specify the same white color on the ceiling, versus an ordinary “white ceiling paint,”  Benjamin Moore (BM) in White Dove OC-17, flat finish, is my first choice. 

But, for a 20th-21st century interior, and especially for a tropical resort house, why not consider painting your ceiling, the 5th wall, another color besides white?  Try using the same pastel wall paint color on the ceiling too, as I did in Petite Fox. 

Note how the semi-gloss on the trim adds a lovely hint of sheen against the walls, which are in a flat finish.

So, here is…. my pink paint recipe!  BM Pink Peony # 2078-70,  cut in half with 50% white, and then use that for the ceiling, so the color is more muted than the walls.

Consider painting the ceiling in a powder room, kitchen, billiard room, baby's room, or laundry room in a shade other than white.  You can also request that the wall color be lightened with 50% white. 

A ceiling can become the perfect canvas for clever and whimsical art, too.

Painting the ceiling pink in a powder room, bathroom, or dressing room is charming and the color will create an atmosphere that is most becoming to anyone’s complexion!

Grandmillennial Tips:

When your wood trim is painted white, i.e. Benjamin Moore (BM) White Dove OC-17 semi-gloss, consider painting the ceiling in White Dove too, but in a flat finish.  This gives a room a quiet, understated uniformness.  

Consider painting your ceiling a different, yet complementary color to the walls, just for fun! 

A flat finish is my first choice for walls.  If you have children, an eggshell finish is a bit more forgiving for wiping away those “darling” little fingerprints!

The soft blue walls and ceiling in our bedroom at Petite Fox are BM Winter Ice #866, cut with 25% white, in a flat finish. Both the trim AND the lacquered furniture are in BM White Dove OC-17, in semi-gloss.

When choosing a color, order the large paper samples of the paint color you are considering for your walls, and place them on various walls during the day and night.  Better yet, purchase small samples of your paint and try it on the walls.  Natural light and artificial lighting make a huge difference in how color is perceived.  Your furniture and curtain colors can also have a reflectability on your walls to take into consideration too. 

XX Holly 

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Timeless "white" paint colors and other paint tips!

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Timeless "white" paint colors and other paint tips!

Choosing the appropriate white paint color for your wood trim is worthy of your time and consideration. The white trim on the pediment and the surrounding trim that frames the original c.1803 front foyer mahogany door at Fox Hall is my secret, and most trusted, white paint color from Benjamin Moore paints!

There are a myriad of “white” paint color options.  It can be a daunting task to choose the appropriate “white” for various interior applications, wouldn’t you agree?!  

“White” paints can have hidden undertones, which tend to be either cold or warm.  I believe that the best way to accurately see the complexity of the white color you have chosen is to place your color swatch on a piece of white paper.  It will reveal its true color right before your eyes.

Over and over, I am asked to divulge my “go-to” white paint color for wood trim, walls, and ceilings.  Today, I am delighted to share my favorite, tried and true white colors with you! 

But first, let me share with you why I specify Benjamin Moore (BM) paint.  Their paint has a depth of color and a richness in pigment which is stellar.  It is durable and fade-resistant.  Their color swatches and paint fan deck colors are exceptionally accurate… now, that’s an alleluia unto itself! 

Pure white, as in BM Super White 02, has a coolness that works well for modern interiors on both the walls and the trim.  Personally, I am attracted to warmer, softer whites: 

BM Atrium White OC-145 is creamy with peachy undertones.  

BM Linen White 92 is a warm beige.  The walls in the baby’s room at Fox Hall are Linen White because it is neutral and complements the celadon and peach floral chintz for both the curtains and bed hangings very well. 

BM China White OC-141 has a grey tonality and works with grey and black accents.  

BM Opal White OC-73 is a VERY pastel peachy-pink, which enhances anyone’s complexion… hence, it is on my office and dressing room walls!

My office at Fox Hall has semi-gloss Dove White trim and flat Opal White on the walls.

But, my MOST trusted and favorite white, especially for wood trim, is:

BM White Dove OC-17. 

It works exceptionally well in historic houses, but also in new homes.  I have specified White Dove, in a semi-gloss finish, for all of the white wood trim in the several houses we have owned!  It brings a soft warmth to an interior while still looking white. 

Even the furniture that I had lacquered in Palm Beach was in a glossy White Dove.

I have also used White Dove in a flat finish on walls when the wood trim is in a contrasting color. Our living room at Fox Hall is an example of this combination: flat White Dove on the walls and a bespoke blue, semi-gloss on the trim.

The living room at Fox Hall has a bespoke blue trim. Mummy gets credit for this unique blue trim color! Twenty-three years ago, when we first purchased Fox Hall, we immediately commenced the renovation, as most of the house was either painted brown or black! I had the walls painted flat Dove White, and tried a historic blue color for the living room trim. When Mummy observed the sample of blue that the artist painted on the mantelpiece, she suggested adding a hint of black to the paint- and voila, the handsome blue color is what remains today!

Grandmillennial Tips:

When painting your house, try to use the same color for all of the trim, throughout the house. This makes it effortless to touch up the trim, at any time. Between vacuum cleaner bumps, dog scratches, and shoe knicks on the stair risers, there are never-ending touchups at Fox Hall, because it is a family house which is happily “lived in!” That brings to mind a dear friend. She has a stunning house which exudes the perfect balance between elegance and European sophistication. She calls her house, “The Ding House.” When I inquired why, she responded, “I have four boys, hence, constant dings around the house!” Don’t you just love that?!

Per your requests, I will reveal my “secret pink” color on the living room walls in our Palm Beach abode, Petite Fox, in next week's letter!

XX Holly 

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