Holly's Secret Easy First Course Asparagus Roll-ups

One of my secret recipes for a first course is my asparagus roll-ups! Not only are they quick and easy to prepare, but they look pretty on any porcelain design, can be made several hours ahead, and may be served at room temperature.

Prepare one bundle per person.

Ingredients:

~Asparagus: steamed until soft but still slightly crunchy.  I allow between three and four stalks per person.

~Boursin Cheese: you can use any variety, including truffle-flavored.  

(Alternative: use cream cheese and simply mix in some fresh garlic and herbs)

~Prosciutto Slices: allow one thin, presliced piece per person/bundle.

Cut ends off: make the top of the stalk to the bottom about 4-5” long.

Steam or simmer the asparagus (or place it in a microwave) until still green, soft, but slightly firm.  

Spread about a teaspoon or more of Boursin cheese in the center of the prosciutto slice.

Place 3-4 stalks of asparagus in the center, lengthwise, on one end of the prosciutto and roll up. Place the seam on the bottom. 

Optional Garnish:

Slice tiny tomatoes lengthwise, toss in olive oil, and add a dash of salt. Sprinkle over the plate and the asparagus for additional color.  Add a touch of chopped parsley, too, if you have some!

This was a ladies' luncheon I hosted for Baroness Marion von Linsingen when she flew over from Germany to Palm Beach.

That’s it! It is so simple and can be served any time of year. I hope you enjoy making them, too!

 Xx 

Holly

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Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: Holly's Secret Design Idea!

In the living room at Fox Hall, the mid-eighteenth-century English bull’s eye mirror is hung over the mantelpiece.  The “hippocam” that crowns the mirror is a subtle reference to my passion for horses. 

The artwork you choose to present on your walls provides a window into your interests and tastes, and Mummy instilled in me never to buy reproduction art. The cost of a mirror is quite often only a fraction of the cost of a painting.  It’s always better to purchase a lovely mirror than inferior artwork. 

In my first book, The Pretty and Proper Living Room, the chapter, “Magnificent Mirrors and Wall Art,” discussed how mirrors can enhance the design of a room. They are similar to a living painting because they reflect life in a room, and occasionally an outside view too. 

Mirrors (referred to as “looking glasses” in England), have been used historically to increase the daylight or candlelight in a room before there was electricity.  Candlelight placed in front of a mirror doubles the “romantic” lighting.  

When selecting a mirror, ensure that the frame complements the furniture and architecture of the room.  Formal surroundings deserve formal mirrors.  Hepplewhite, Chippendale, and Adam-esque mirrors continue to reign supreme in classically tailored interiors.  

I adore antique Venetian mirrors, especially for a resort house, as I have done in Palm Beach, because they add a touch of glamour and whimsy!  

An antique mirror is preferable to a new mirror because of its well-earned patina on the glass. One can never have too many mirrors!

My Pretty and Proper Living Room book features a page about mirrors. The top mirror shown is in my office. It is the first mirror that Stuart and I ever bought as newlyweds. We thought it was an antique because we purchased it in an “antique” store on Cape Cod. When we went to hang it, we discovered underneath the backside paper that it was a new reproduction- lesson learned, but we still love it! 

Grandmillenial tips:

There can be more than one mirror in a room.  Consider creating a design theme in a room around a collection of mirrors!

When hanging a mirror over a fireplace mantelpiece, decide what you intend to display on the mantel first, and then hang the mirror, so that the decorative pieces on the mantel do not block the details on the bottom of the mirror frame. 

Place a sculpture in front of a mirror, so that one can appreciate the back of the sculpture in the reflection of the mirror. 

When placing a mirror over a sofa, bring the mirror up far enough so that when someone is seated, and their head accidentally tilts backward during a jolly good laugh, their head will only strike the wood frame, not the glass!

Forbidden Faux Pas:

No-no: To resilver or replace the mirror glass on an old mirror. Imperfections are part of the charm of an antique mirror.  Embrace the well-earned patina on the glass. 

No-no: To spray cleaners directly on the front of the mirror, because the liquid can drip into the frame and also begin to disintegrate the silver coating on the back.

Instead, spray a soft cloth with the cleaning solution. Then, gently wipe the front surface of the mirror.  Water and liquids can drip into the frame and begin to disintegrate the silver coating on the back.

No-no: To vacuum the back of a mirror or to dust the frame too vigorously. The suction of the vacuum, or the action of abusive dusting, will challenge the integrity of the back, which protects the silver layer. 

Here’s looking at YOU! 

 Xx 

Holly

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The Launer: A discrete fashion accessory fit for a Queen!

Ladies use three distinctive terms to reference just ONE essential fashion accessory, one that they carry each day!  Can you guess what it is?  Of course, depending on where one lives in the world, the three names may be interpreted with a uniquely different meaning.  Soooo, which name do you use: pocketbook, handbag, or purse? 

The term "handbag" is often used in England, while "pocketbook" is favored in the South, and a "purse" can reference a small clutch or handbag, a wallet, or a coin holder. 

Whatever name you use, I know you can recognize a beautifully elegant one when you see it!  With that in mind, I am thrilled to introduce you to Launer London, renowned for its understated luxury leather goods and especially for its stunning handbags.  Because they are made in the U.K., "handbag" is the term I shall use.  I have admired Launer handbags... forever.  Every aspect represents quiet, understated elegance.  Launer earned a Royal Warrant in 1968 and continues to be "discreetly famous" (now that's an oxymoron!). 

The Launer "Traviata" handbag was one of THE favored accessories HM Queen Elizabeth II carried on her arm for decades. It is named after the opera La Traviata, written in 1853.  Various sources have mentioned that Her Majesty owned over 200 of them.

HM The Queen was carrying her traditional choice for a handbag, the Launer Traviata, which features a bespoke longer top handle that fit comfortably over her arm.

Launer continues to be a well-loved accessory with royalty around the world, the choice for dignitaries and lovely ladies worldwide. Scully & Scully, on Park Avenue in NYC, has been selling Launer handbags for the past eight years. They are the only brick-and-mortar store to carry them in America and align closely with their brand.  Since 1934, Scully & Scully has been a luxury store that serves an internationally distinguished clientele.  Their must-have mail-order catalog is most tempting, filled with treasures that Mr. Michael Scully personally sources worldwide, and is a trusted resource I refer to for my clients, too.

Recently, I discovered that Launer debuted a new bubblegum pink color, and my heart went pitter-patter!  I shared the news with my husband, Stuart.  It was not long before a gift box arrived at our door in Palm Beach as a surprise... he is a keeper!

I adore the petite size of the Launer "Judi" handbag and the coordinating pocket mirror. It was named for Dame Judi Dench by Gerald Bodmer, the wife of the CEO of Launer. It is smaller than the Traviata, which Queen Elizabeth II carried. 

Launer handbags are lined in soft suede with an optional shoulder strap and a darling little pocket mirror.  Unlike the large logos emblazoned on many other brands, the signature gold-plated rope clasp is charmingly discrete.

I posed a few questions to Scully & Scully about Launer handbags to share with you:

What tends to be the most popular color or style? 

The Traviata is best-selling, specifically in black or white. 

Can one order custom details/features on a bespoke Launer handbag? 

One can order any color combination but what we carry are top sellers around the world.  They can be ordered with different animal skins (snake, lizard, etc.), and custom lining and handle size.

I think the two-tone color combinations are quite attractive. 
Photo: Scully & Scully, NYC

Now you know all about Launer handbags!  If you own one, or decide to order one, share a photo with me as I would love to see the color and style you choose. 

Xx

Holly

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Flower Power: Unlocking the Mysterious Language of Flowers!

Pink peonies from “Stuart’s garden” at Fox Hall, intertwined with mountain laurel, was a centerpiece that I arranged for a dinner party.  Did you know that the mountain laurel, the state flower of Connecticut, symbolizes achievement and perseverance, and pink peonies relay the beauty of marriage and love at first sight?  Together, these two flower varieties offer a loving tribute, in the secret language of flowers, to my darling husband of 48 years!

Do you know the secret language of flowers?

Every day is perfect for giving, receiving, or admiring pretty flowers!  But are you aware of the secret language of flowers?  Besides merely admiring them, the color and the variety of various flowers can have a symbolic meaning behind them... a secret language. 

During the Victorian ages, the language of flowers was an ingenious way of expressing intimate, romantic feelings to another, back when it was taboo to do so blatantly.  The color and type of flower chosen was a silent dialogue.  I was unaware of this lovely language until I discovered a precious little book about the secret language of flowers at my mother-in-law's charming Cape Cod house.  

I was intrigued and enthralled because I adore flower arranging and I asked myself, "What secret message am I relaying with the flowers I give to others?"  Not that the recipient would ever know, but it is amusing to consider. 

Christian Dior was passionate about Lily of the Valley and chose it for his classic perfume, Diorissio. The symbol of Lily of the Valley means purity, a return to happiness, and humility.  Coco Chanel adored the white Camellia (or Chinese Rose), symbolizing everlasting love and devotion.  Oscar Wilde wore a green carnation on his lapel, which was his secret hint that he was a man who loved other men. 

This classic arrangement of white roses at The Ritz Hotel in London represents, in flower language, a sign of purity and a symbol of respect, which is why they are often featured in bridal bouquets.

What do specific flowers relay?

Anemones: anticipation and good luck
Red Carnations: pride and beauty
Daisies: new beginnings 
Gardenias: purity and secret love 
Hyacinths: playfulness and constancy 
Lilacs: (magenta) love and passion; (purple) first love
Lilies: purity and refined love
Peonies: a happy marriage and good fortune
Tulips: perfect love

What do the colors of flowers relay?

Red: A bouquet of red roses indicates romance, because the color red signifies love and passion.  Roses are red, violets are blue, kiss me, and I'll love you!
White: purity and grace
Pink: gratitude, admiration/femininity, gentility, and elegance 
Peach: gratitude
Yellow: joy and gratitude
Purple: enchantment, love at first sight, and success
Orange: enthusiasm and energy

Grandmillennial Tips:

Consider sending cut flowers without a vase to a hostess the day before a dinner party.  She can then arrange them in a container of her choice before the party commences.

When giving flowers to someone you don't know or have never visited, specify the flowers as white or send a white orchid plant.  White can be placed in any room in a house!  

Incorporate the secret language of flowers in your centerpiece as an acknowledgment to the guest of honor.  If you give a toast, share why the flowers were chosen and integrate their meaning into the toast you compose. 

In honor of Lady Carnarvon’s visit from Highclere Castle (aka Downton Abbey) for a luncheon I hosted, I gave each guest a little container of flowers as a memento gift.  Carnations originated in England, hence the pink carnations.  The horse sculpture served as a nod to our mutual passion for horses, which we shared in the PBS “You Are Cordially Invited” episode here.  

So, what flowers and colors will you give for Valentine’s Day? I am sending my love to you with a bountiful bouquet of PINK PEONIES! 

Xx

Holly

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Slipcover Secrets!

The Brunschwig & Fils floral chintz in the classic Campanula pattern on a period chair in the living room at Fox Hall. I introduced a solid blue chintz as a ¼” contrast welt and a 1 1/2” flat welt to edge the skirt.

Mummy always said, “To get your house in order, host a party or invite house guests.” It is amazing what one can get done with that incentive! Look around; a charming slipcover can be THE perfect remedy for tired or stained upholstery.

Slipcovers, aka ‘loose covers’ in the UK, are a charming way to spruce up a tired piece of upholstery by covering it temporarily. In England, loose covers are just that… slightly loose. In America, they tend to be more snug and fitted.

A slipcover is a custom-made cover that can dress up an upholstered piece and be removed for cleaning.  They can be made with just about any fabric, but traditionally, they are made of cotton, chintz, linen, damask, or even white muslin.  Slipcovers can be changed for the seasons and used to protect furniture from dust and sun. 

The historic Governor's Palace in Williamsburg, Virginia, features simple, checkered cotton slipcovers with a loose fit. They always capture my attention as a timeless and sensible element that protects many upholstered pieces in the Palace. 

Ways to embellish a slipcover:

~ I like to incorporate a contrasting welt (the piping that adorns the seams) for a patterned fabric. Then, the welt is in a solid-colored fabric, which serves to complement a color within the overall fabric design. 

~To accent a slipcover made with a plain colored fabric, I specify a multi-colored ¼” cord with tape.  Then, the cord becomes the decorative detail.

~If there is a skirt, I often trim it with a flat,  ¼” welt along the edging, in a complementary solid-colored fabric.

Even though the fireside chair in the Hunt Room at Fox Hall is not slipcovered, it serves as an example of how a contrast welt works well as an accent and a tailored detail. The Ralph Lauren hunt-print fabric (now discontinued) has a burgundy, solid-colored chintz, which I used for the contrast welt, the edging, and the buttons.  

Zippers and sometimes buttons are applied to a seam on the side or backside to remove a slipcover so they are less noticeable.  

While filming with Lady Carnarvon at Highclere Castle (aka Downton Abbey) in the “Morning Room,” I was enchanted to discover that the pretty English floral patterned chintz loose covers did not have zippers. Instead, they had the sweetest row of ‘‘hooks-and-eyes” along the back corner seam!

Grandmillennial Tips:

Slipcovers on dining chairs are a sensible way to protect the underneath upholstery from children and their sticky hands.  

Dining Room chairs are perfect candidates for slipcovers. The scalloped skirt adds a touch of whimsy. 

Slipcovers can also be laminated, depending on the fabric, preferably a non-textured fabric.  This technique offers brilliant cleanability, especially in the kitchen! 

Be clever and order two sets of slipcovers for the seasons: one for summer in a cool cotton, linen, or chintz fabric, and one for winter in a soft wool or cotton velvet to give warmth and texture. Depending on the other decorative aspects in the room, consider a happy floral design for the summer and a handsome wool or tartan for the winter. 

Slipcovers continue to be a tailored, old-school touch found in the most distinguished houses. My first design book, The Pretty and Proper Living Room, features many more examples!  

Xx Holly

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The Perfect Companion to Protect Your Wardrobe!

With my new Holly Holden Collection of clothing, I was inspired to protect each piece and reached out to Barbara Harman, the founder of The Butler’s Closet. She is THE renowned expert on how to protect clothes as well as upholstered furniture. Your clothes, like my new collection, are a serious investment… so I was “seriously interested!” 

Barbara was the former CEO of Parfums Nina Ricci. She was gifted many beautiful clothes from the ready-to-wear and couture collections and searched online to find the best cotton garment bags to protect them, along with cotton dust covers for their newly built weekend house furniture. Nothing was out there to buy! A lightbulb moment. 

She worked with two very experienced and accomplished textile conservators to understand what materials they recommended. The answer?  Storing clothes in 100% cotton, breathable garment bags made from fabrics free of chemicals. So, in 2011, she launched The Butler's Closet, offering products with undyed and unbleached fabric to preserve clothing, shoes, and furniture. The clothing and furniture covers are made from the same fabric conservators use at the Metropolitan Museum. 

Protection begins in the closet! Even if you dress casually, you always need clothing for special occasions (weddings, business conferences, galas). We all know that timeless clothes can last for years if they are maintained properly. Collected dust can harden on jacket shoulders and on top of shoes, and moths love to discover those favorite, rarely used pieces. And, speaking from experience, light makes fabrics fade! Case in point: my daughter once hung her appointed bridesmaid dress on the front of her closet door near a window. Two months later, she returned to get the dress for the wedding, only to discover that due to its location, the afternoon sun had created fade marks across the front of the dress… a disaster!

There is nothing like what The Butler's Closet offers out there.  Each piece, from wardrobe and garment bags, to flannel shoe bags and shoe stuffers, are all made with the utmost quality. The Butler's Closet has customers all over the world, and now I know why! Have questions? Just contact Barbara who is passionate about her business of caring for fine possessions. 

My most favorite pieces in her line? The shoulder covers! They are simple to use, and I can easily see what the outfit is in my closet. I also adore the deluxe cotton storage bags for sweaters. The suit covers for Stuart's white dinner jacket, Black tie and tails are great too! 

Forbidden Faux Pas

No-no: To keep your clothes stored in plastic dry-cleaning bags. Petroleum-based products can emit gas that may cause fabrics to deteriorate.

What is done: Textile conservators recommend storing clothes in 100% cotton, breathable garment bags free of chemicals. 

I thought you may wish to know about The Butler's Closet too. So… guess what my special dresses, jackets, gowns and heels are going to bed in now?! 

Xx

Holly

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Afternoon Tea: Are you MIF or TIF!?

Afternoon tea was served to me in Cliveden House’s library, commencing with a glass of champagne… the absolute PERFECT welcome to this grand house steeped in history.  

Having just returned from Merry Old England, I wanted to share a colloquial term I was introduced to while having afternoon tea at Cliveden House.  The English lady I was with asked, "Do you drink your tea ‘white’?” “Yes, I like milk in my tea whilst in England,” I answered. (I prefer lemon when in America) And then she asked, “Are you a MIF or TIF?” with an amused smile and a wink! 

The tradition of pouring afternoon tea has many nuances, but this reference was new to me. I soon found out that it refers to “Milk in first” or “Tea in first” when pouring the tea from a teapot into the cup. 

It was considered refined to pour the milk into the cup after the tea (TIF), and more “downstairs” to pour the milk in first (MIF).  The theory was that pouring the milk in first would protect the cup from possibly cracking from the boiling hot tea, and cups were expensive to replace. Alternatively, if you could afford fine porcelain and have cups to spare, the milk would be poured in after the tea (TIF). 

This is similar to the “What goes on your scone first, the clotted cream or the jam?” question.  (The “Devon” method is when the clotted cream goes on first, and the jam is applied on top, while the “Cornish” method has the strawberry jam first, topped with a layer of clotted cream.) Still fiercely debated! It is your preference, although now, scientists are saying that the milk blends chemically better when you have a MIF pour!  Ha… my British father would have insisted on TIF, no questions asked! 

The soft sunlight poured in the window to highlight Nancy Astor’s ribbon design on the plates and the scrumptious goodies served at Cliveden’s afternoon tea.

GrandMillennial Tip:

What do you do if you make your tea with a teabag in a mug? Your only choice is TIF because you must wait for the teabag to brew in the cup, and then one should remove the teabag and then add the milk.  The milk cannot go in first as it will cool down the hot water, and the teabag will not brew/ steep correctly.   

Forbidden Faux Pas:

No-no: To refer to “afternoon tea” as “high tea.”

What is done:  “Afternoon tea” is more formal, with delicate tea sandwiches, scones, lady-like cakes and sweets served mid-afternoon.  Many Americans mistakenly say “high tea” when, in fact, they are referring to “afternoon tea.”  Here is the difference: “High tea” is served as a more wholesome meal, not delicate goodies, and is served after work or in the evening, not in the afternoon. 

The charming traditions in England are so enchanting. So, are you “Miffy or Tiffy”... now that you know the difference? 

Xx

Holly

PS: English tea time tradition was first invented at Belvoir Castle in England in the 1840s. Her Grace, the Duchess of Rutland, is hosting an inaugural gala on February 10th at The Breakers Hotel in Palm Beach to benefit “The American Friends of Belvoir Castle.” She was my Honorary Chair when I chaired the Salvation Army Paradise Ball in 2022.  I had the honor of being a houseguest at Belvoir in 2023. I can attest that the castle is vast (used as a double for Windsor Castle in The Crown), and maintenance is an ongoing challenge, as with any historic edifice.  Consider attending; it will be a ball, and I would love to meet you! It is not too late to purchase your ticket here.

The noble art of needlepoint!

This needlepoint eyeglass case once belonged to Mummy, so I had it inset using a  pretty Scalamandrestriped silk fabric to frame it as a petite pillow, and it continues to be a sweet memory for me. Remember, a pillow does not have to consist entirely of the needlepoint canvas. You can cheat a little by adding more fabric around the canvas! 

Here is a lovely idea to commence 2024: create a needlepoint pillow! The art and implementation to create a needlepoint creates a sense of calm and a quiet time to savor. What you create will give joy and bring back distinct memories. 

Needlepoint pillows are a timeless staple in classic, preppy interiors as well as in noble residences, especially if made by a member of the household. They can add a touch of whimsy and give a glimpse into your interests. The design you choose can pique a conversation when others admire it.

I devoted an entire chapter to needlepoint pillows in my first book, The Pretty and Proper Living Room… I adore them!  But, true confession: once I start a piece, I cannot stop. I become a sleepless addict, staying up until I finish it. Heaven, help me! 

My talented sister-in-law made this adorable needlepoint belt for me. When I outgrew it, I had it cut in half, inserted into some bubblegum pink shantung silk, and made into two kidney pillows for the tellie room.

From my experience, a house that has a few handmade needlepoint pillows is a crystal ball that indicates a truly charming home. I know that I am in the presence of an enchanting needlepointer! Every needlepointer that I have ever known has been clever, intelligent, talented, well-traveled, and charming. Now, that is a big statement and has always held true for me. From Princess Grace to Barbara Bush, Marie Antoniette, my mother and sister-in-law, and precious friends, they are all part of the distinguished needlepoint society. 

Down the street from Fox Hall is the former home of Anna Roosevelt Cowles, the older sister to President Theodore Roosevelt. Her daughter-in-law was an avid and very accomplished needlepointer. A few of her creations still adorn the Cowles house, along with a breathtaking carpet that she stitched, featuring the design of the Chippendale front gate that graces the front of the historic home.  A carpet... talk about being a devotee to needlepoint! And the tradition carries on to this day, in the same house. 

Lovingly made, these three pillows each have a story behind them, which I find to be a simply enchanting aspect of handmade needlepoint pillows. 

I do hope you will be inspired to take up needlepoint if you haven’t already. Or, if you are not inclined to learn this time-honored pastime, you can embellish your house with the needlepoint pillows offered at Scully and Scully, which are perfectly charming.

GrandMillennial Tip:

Have a zipper enclosure inserted along the bottom edge of your pillow so that you can easily remove the cover and have it dry-cleaned. 

Forbidden Faux Pas:

No-no: To have pillow inserts made of foam rubber. Traditionally, pillows are always filled with down feather inserts.

No-no: To have so many pillows on a chair or sofa that a guest cannot be comfortably seated!

Xx 

Holly

Thoughtful holiday gestures!

The little white box, given to me as a hostess gift from a dear friend, held hand-rolled toffee candies that were made from her cherished family recipe from England.

Being with family and friends is always a merry occasion, especially during the holidays.  Here are a few thoughtful tips Mummy shared with me… and I am passing them along to you!

As a host:  

Make the extra effort to welcome your guests at the door and greet them with JOY! 

As a guest: 

Bring a little gift, preferably something homemade (always the best gift)! Whether it is your unique recipe for spiced nuts, a yummy pecan pie that can be frozen for future use, a box of your signature cookies, a coffee cake, or a breakfast casserole for the following day, a homemade gift will relay the love in your heart to your hosts.

Write a little note to accompany your gift, and compose a sentence or two on why you are grateful for your friendship.

A longtime friend made this fruit topiary for me at a workshop, hosted by the Colonial Dames of Connecticut and was led by my friend, Ruth Loiseau, the White House floral designer. It is visually lovely, and my grandchildren will delight in plucking the fruit off at our Christmas morning breakfast- double joy!

GrandMillennial Tips:

If you are contributing to a party, place a little piece of masking tape on the bottom and write your name on it. It will be easy for the hostess to distinguish your pan or serving piece from similar ones.

In the South, it is an unwritten rule of graciousness that if you return a pan or serving piece to someone who brought food on it to your house, you never return it empty. It doesn’t have to be much; it is the thought that counts!  Include a little goodie (cookies, nuts, or some flowers) along with their empty serving piece.  For example, when a hostess friend returned the tray that I used to serve my cheese blintzes on at her party, she returned it with a jar of her homemade wild Cape Cod grape jam… oh, goodie! 

If you gift a Christmas ornament, use a gold or silver marker to write the date on it and personalize it, if space allows! Use the same marker on a bottle of wine or champagne to write the date and sign it with your best wishes. These personalized gestures will remind the recipient about the occasion, bringing them even more joy in the years to come.

Wishing you and your darling loved ones joy, happiness, and peace on earth during this advent season.

Xx 

Holly

Embracing Elegance: The timeless art of graceful deportment!

My favorite painting, “Dancers in Pink” by Edward Degas, is one of many treasured artworks featured in the living room at the Hill-Stead Museum in Farmington, Connecticut. A pretty flutter of pink… with perfected ballet posture! 

In a world where technology consumes our attention, good posture and graceful deportment can often be overlooked!

While attending an afternoon tea in NYC, a lovely young lady approached me to chat. I admired her posture and the way she held her head high; she was incredibly graceful. After a while, I inquired if she had been a dancer. It was no surprise to learn that she had performed ballet internationally. Her balletic walk and stance were poised, effortless, and not exaggerated. She appeared confident and elegant. Her refinement inspired me to stand even taller… good posture can be contagious!

The art of smiling and standing tall is a form of communicating. It is a respectful acknowledgment of another person’s presence. The genteel art of deportment relays grace and poise and is a quiet sign of refinement. Remember when your Mum reminded you to “Stand up straight and pull your shoulders back!?” Standing tall is equivalent to a firm handshake and a “How do you do?” It exudes confidence and polish.

To me, elegant deportment and good carriage are commensurate with wearing a beautiful outfit, conveying tenacity and a self-assured spirit. Start the new year by making a concerted effort to walk taller, sit with an elegant purpose, and greet others with smiling eyes… then watch to see if others around you follow suit! 

Grandmillennial Tip:

A renowned plastic surgeon friend shared with me that this “generation of cell phone users” is continually gazing down at their phone screens, which causes premature aging. The remedy? Position the center of your phone or computer screen so that your eyes are looking at the center, not below it! This secret golden nugget of advice may save your neck from premature aging… I'm listening. My phone screen will be held “upward” from now on! 

I hope you pirouette into a stunning new year! 

Xx

Holly

Cultivate The New Year With Gratitude!

Cheers!  Happy New Year 2024! 

These darling, hand-painted cocktail napkins were a gift from Lemondaisy. I sent this photograph to her to acknowledge my gratitude and how I use them. 

After Christmas, Mummy gently, but firmly, encouraged me to write my thank-you notes for the presents I received from relatives. As I wrote, I longingly observed my friends playing outside… it felt like torture!  Yet, due to her insistence, gratitude became ingrained in me- it’s not innate. You are not born with gratitude; it is a learned mannerism. 

The Episcopal girls' school in Richmond, Virginia, where I attended, has a motto: "What we keep, we lose; only what we give remains our own." Expressing gratitude is among life's paramount endeavors.

Beyond a handwritten note, try to demonstrate to your gift-giver how you use their gift or express in person the joy it brings. This additional "nod of gratitude" is a kind and thoughtful gesture that will always be appreciated.

Wearing a gift when anticipating the gift-giver's presence or sharing your experience with a gifted item via email or phone call are simple ways to extend “additional gratitude.” Tell someone when you have used their recipe and how successful it was. Send an email photograph of a gift book while reading it on holiday, or show the champagne bottle you enjoyed for a special occasion. It does not take much effort to share additional gratitude… even when it is long after the gift was given to you.

A big kiss to you, my dear subscribers, for inspiring others to join in. You are keeping gracious living alive with an ever-growing international audience. 

To my dedicated team- Sabrena, Kristen, and Jenn- thank you for your tireless efforts in bringing this newsletter to the world and nurturing the growth of my business. What fun 2024 will be!

May 2024 be a gentle and gracious year filled with gratitude and prayers for peace on earth. 

With gratitude, 

Xx

Holly

How to repurpose napkin rings!

This Coalport horse and rider napkin ring was a gift to me many years ago. He jumps over boxwood and faux berries onto my Christmas platters every year! 

For your Christmas dinner, consider the idea of repurposing a napkin ring by transforming it into a darling  “petite adornment” to enhance food on a tray or table, or even in a powder room. 

Slip just a few sprigs of holly, pine or some flowers into a napkin ring, and voila! You'll have an attractive, Lilliputian-sized arrangement, and it only takes seconds to make. 

A little background about napkins rings: 

Napkin rings were created in France in the 19th century. Decorative napkin rings made of silver, porcelain, and other materials became popular in America, especially in the 20th century, and it continues today. Napkin rings were meant to identify napkins for family members and house guests so that the napkins could be used more than once before washing. 

Mummy only used her silver napkin rings for our family or her house guests, but never for a dinner party. She adhered to the old-school rule that using a napkin ring for a dinner guest would indicate that the napkins would be reused! Those words have stayed with me, as I only use my silver napkin rings for family members or house guests too. 

I started collecting polished pewter napkin rings (no polishing required!) for the birth of each grandchild with their name and birth date engraved on it.  

While visiting my daughter, Alexandra, in England, I plucked some pretty pink heather from her garden and placed it inside my granddaughter’s napkin ring to adorn her pink Herend Chinese Bouquet platter for an impromptu cocktail party.

GrandMillennial Tips:

Silver napkin rings are often considered a  thoughtful Christening present and appropriate for the birth of a baby. It is a lovely tradition to have them engraved to mark the baby's name and the occasion or date. It is also quite a practical gift, as the parents can use them too!

Another benefit of having napkin rings with the names or initials of family members is that children enjoy placing their personalized rings where they wish to be seated at the table, similar to a place card. 

My wishes to you for a most joyous holiday with family and friends.  Merry Christmas, dear ones! 

Xx

Holly

What is a "white dinner jacket" dress code?

As the Co-Chair of the Salvation Army of Palm Beach’s “Christmas in Paradise” 2023 gala this coming December 16th, I believe it will be a magical evening, dancing under the stars to the sounds of Sinatra!  The dinner dance is set around the stunning Olympic pool, which overlooks the ocean at The Beach Club in Palm Beach. The color scheme? Well, you guessed it: pink & green! 

The invitation sets the scene with this description on the insert: 

“Once upon a time, old Palm Beach was a very glamorous place, especially in the 50’s!  While Sinatra and the Rat Pack sang, gentlemen danced in their white dinner jackets with elegant ladies bejeweled in flowing dresses… and hair perfectly coiffed.  This intoxicating party scene was de rigueur!”

What is the dress code for this gala?

 It is “white dinner jacket.” 

“What is the difference between “white dinner jacket” versus “white tie?”  

A BIG difference!  Let me explain:

A white dinner jacket is equivalent to black-tie (aka tuxedo). But the major difference between the two is that white dinner jackets are worn only in the warm summer months or in a tropical venue (preferably at an outside function).

“White tie” is also called “tails” and is the most formal attire for gentlemen. Ladies are required to wear long gowns, never cocktail dresses. 

What do you do if you do not have a white dinner jacket?  

Wear black-tie (tux) because they are interchangeable, except that a white dinner jacket is worn ONLY in warm or tropical locations and would never be worn in the winter. Black-tie can be worn any time of year, in the summer or the winter.

What do ladies wear when the dress code is white dinner jacket or black-tie?  

They can wear a short, dressy cocktail dress OR a long gown.  

Is it too late to purchase a ticket to attend the Salvation Army’s “Christmas in Paradise” gala? 

No! Call by tomorrow to purchase a ticket, as this is the final cut-off for the headcount! Email: michelle.rodriguez@uss.salvationarmy.org  or #561-686-3560.

 I would be thrilled if you would attend!  So, join me and meet charming supporters of this exceptional charity, one that makes a stupendous difference around the world, and that I am honored to support.

Xx

Holly

Giving the gift that keeps on giving!

Miss Charlotte, my granddaughter, helped make some of my recipes for a Christmas party. She was intrigued by my worn and well-loved family cookbook.

For a special occasion and for the upcoming holidays, giving a handmade (or bespoke) gift is the ultimate expression of love! It doesn't have to be grand- it's the thought and effort that matters. So with that in mind, I have a “simple and meaningful” gift idea for you. It's a gift that was given to me that I have lovingly used for over 25 years… a family cookbook!

When my daughter, Alexandra, graduated from Trinity College, she lived at home for a month before she started her new job in Boston. Alexandra thought of a gift for me when she realized that she didn't know where to look for my “classic family recipes” within my collection of dog-eared cookbooks. She asked me to find our favorite family recipes and dictate them to her. She had me include my tried-and-true notes, which I tend to scribble alongside the recipes of “what to do and what not to do” having made it. 

She typed while I dictated the recipes! (We laughed as I tried to explain some of my tweaks. For example, how much is a “pinch” of an ingredient?!) For a few of the longer recipes, she xeroxed copies of them. These were then assembled in a large 3-ring notebook binder. She slipped the recipes into both sides of clear plastic sleeve pages. Colored separators delineated the sections (nibbles, party food, salads, desserts, etc.). In her handwriting and artwork, she created the cover page which she slipped into the front of the notebook.

Talk about a present that keeps on giving! I simply adore this cookbook and think of her each time I use it… which is all the time. It not only saves me from hunting down the recipes in my various cookbooks, I can also add new recipes to the binder.

Millennial Tip

Create an extended family cookbook:

My clever and creative sister-in-law, Jessie, created a hard-bound book of cherished recipes which she gathered from each of our extended family members to give as a present to her Mum for her 85th birthday. She also added family photos from years past to embellish the pages. Copies were given to each family too. We all adore the sweet memories and yummy recipes sprinkled in this cherished gift. 

So, think about sharing your recipes to give to your family members who cook, even if it's just a handful of handwritten index cards in a little file box! Or, xerox duplicate copies of recipes- I made a copy of my family cookbook to give to my daughter, Caroline, and daughter-in-law, KK, too.

Xx

Holly

Introducing the "Holly Holden Collection" of dresses!

Choosing fabrics with Maria Pucci of Gramercy Atelier for my Holly Holden Collection is always a delightfully rewarding experience! I am wearing the wonderfully detailed and Bavarian-inspired “Paley” blazer.  Photos by:  Vlad Larvin Photography NYC

Dear Ones,

Happy Thanksgiving! How grateful I am for you, my ardent subscribers… and thank you for the interest many of you have expressed in my wardrobe on Instagram.  On that note, it is with extra glee that I am able to share my newest endeavor with you and introduce my new line of clothing, The Holly Holden Collection,  in collaboration with Maria Pucci of Gramercy Atelier in NYC! I have been designing my wardrobe since I was 16, so it is truly a dream come true for me.  Maria and I share the same appreciation for classic, well-appointed fashion with stunning fabrics and detailed embellishments; our collaboration fits like a pair of white kid opera gloves!  And I am proud to say that every piece is made in America.

 The debut theme for my twelve designs is the “Swan Collection,” which embraces the admirable aspects of “old Palm Beach.” Are you familiar with Truman Capote's “Swans?”  They were a group of stylish, glamorous, and well-connected women in the 1950s-70s who were part of his inner circle, which included Lee Radziwill, Marella Agnelli, Gloria Guinness, C.Z. Guest, Dina Merrill, Mrs. Marjorie M. Post, and Babe Paley. Capote admired their intelligence, wit, and independence.  Their generous philanthropic lifestyle symbolized a bygone era of elegance, glamour, and graciousness.   I was inspired to use their first names to grace the various pieces in my collection.

Elegance is a timeless and refined attribute slowly disappearing in today's society and fashion… so to that end,  my “Swan Collection” features twelve graceful pieces, each classically designed as “quiet showstoppers.” They are not trendy; instead, they are notably understated and elegant. 

 In my office at Fox Hall, while choosing an exquisitely embroidered fabric for the “Marella” cocktail dress.

What color reigns supreme in my Palm Beach-inspired collection?  Yes, you guessed it: PINK!  Pink is a joyful color that evokes happiness, the “paradise" aura of Palm Beach.  My signature “Holly Holden detail?” A darling bow which embellishes the back side of each dress. 

 The signature Holly bow on the back vent of the “Lee” silk dress. 

Often referred to as “the ladies that lunch,” today's Swans are legends with their commitment and devotion to charities such as The Salvation Army, Cancer Alliance, and organizations like The Garden Club of America, The Colonial Dames, and The Order of St. John’s. These ladies serve on prestigious Boards, as well as being notable business leaders. Swans, then and today, are gloriously well-traveled, clever, and fun!  My Holly Holden “Swan Collection,” in collaboration with Gramercy Atelier, is dedicated to ladies who devote their time to joyfully and stylishly making the world a better place. Please peek here to see my Holly Holden Collection of “Swans!"  

The “Dina” dress is a must-have piece for your wardrobe! The elongated seaming and scalloped neckline are so becoming. It is perfect for day or evening events, and the 100% silk makes it lightweight for travel.

I would be SO grateful if you shared this email with like-minded friends on the hunt for that elegant and classically designed outfit.  I started this line because I could not find anything like it… so I had to create it! My fingers are crossed that you will find the perfect piece you have been searching for. Let me know what you think. I would LOVE to see you in one of my creations!  I will have a private showing in my Palm Beach residence in January, which you will be invited to.   Happy Thanksgiving!

Xx

Holly

Party Time! Cheers to Linen Cocktail Napkins!

Collecting a medley of pretty cocktail napkins through the years has given me a delightful selection to choose from for every type of party! 

"Party time is 'pretty' time!"
-Holly Holden

The little details you use when entertaining are the elements that make your guests feel honored and comfortable. 

In light of this, with Christmas, and the holidays approaching, raise the bar by offering your guests pretty little linen cocktail napkins! Nothing says ‘welcome’ more than greeting your guests at the door with a glass of bubbly along with an elegantly designed cocktail napkin. Voila, the scene is set and the party commences!  

Mummy used to say that paper napkins are for picnics and linen napkins are for lovely guests. Linen napkins can be personalized with embroidered monograms or whatever is meaningful to you, whether the name of your house, family crest, horses, endearment names, your personal quote, or anything else. There are such clever selections of cocktail napkins available that one could potentially collect a pretty set for every possible occasion, and why not?! 

Two additional benefits of using linen cocktail napkins are that you will be going green by reusing them and that they tend to cost approximately the same as nice paper ones if you buy in bulk. On my YouTube channel and in my book The Pretty and Proper Living Room, I also share some more examples of this practice, since it is one of my signature details when I entertain guests at Fox Hall.

Millennial Tip

Consider ordering some custom embroidered linen cocktail napkins as a gift to a hostess, for a bridal shower, birthdays, holidays, or 'just because.' I like to think that a bespoke gift is one that is always cherished. Custom linen cocktail napkins are a blank palette to get creative for any occasion!  

As for me, The Lori Jayne Store in Palm Beach is my go-to for cocktail napkins. The store has a precious array of designs, along with the capability to embroider whatever you wish to create!
 

Xx

Holly

Hostess Gifts: Unique and Thoughtful!

This gloriously beautiful “white flower arrangement” was thoughtfully sent to me by my precious friend, Jacqui, the day before a dinner party she attended at our first apartment in Palm Beach.  They were so stunning that I used them as a centerpiece!

With the holidays approaching, “party time” is in the air!  It is important to show your appreciation to your host or hostess, especially knowing the effort put forth for the party you are attending. Your joyful self, along with complementary verbal sentiments, will be music to the ears of the hostess.  Bringing a hostess gift to the party is a lovely idea too, but I want to share two other gestures you can give your hostess… prior to the party.

 Food:

A very dear friend recently responded to my invitation for a celebratory cocktail party at Fox Hall and remarked how thrilled she and her husband were to accept, and complimented me on how pretty the invitation was (always appreciated by the host).  And then, she extended an exceptionally gracious offer, one I had never heard of before. It inspired me to share it with you, too! She knows that I like to prepare and cook almost everything (as my gesture of love for my guests), and said, “I know you have tried-and-true recipes that you like to prepare for your parties, so if you share one with me, and give me the serving vessel you wish to use, I will make your recipe and deliver it back to you the day of the party. One less thing you have to do!” WOW, such a considerate gesture, right?!  

I am not suggesting that you do this too. Often, guests may offer to bring something, but I may not necessarily accept their kind offer when I am hosting a party. But the above, unique overture, coming from such a close friend (who just happens also to be a gourmet cook), meant the world to me. So, an alternative hostess gift would be to send, or drop off, a box of chocolates, petit-fours, or homemade goodies the day before the party, so the hostess can decide to serve your gift, and how best to present it. (Don’t be offended if you do not see what you gave her, as it is her prerogative to choose what to serve!) 

Flowers:

Drop off or send the hostess an arrangement of flowers (remember that white flowers can easily be placed in any room and with any color scheme) the day before the party! This will be an unexpected surprise, and receiving them the day before will enable the hostess to decide where to display them and/or transfer them into her own pretty vessel versus the generic florist vase.  

(Keep in mind that in Asian culture, “white” flowers are a symbol of death, so you may wish to send an alternative color depending on the recipient.)

If you are talented at arranging flowers, offer your expertise to the hostess to fill one of her vases with flowers and ask for the color of her choice. (Pink, please!)

My darling son-in-law sent this festive red foral Christmas Eve centerpiece before he arrived; the colors complemented the Santa hats and table adornments brilliantly!

If you are the guest of honor or want to give a more substantial hostess gift, offer to make (or order) the centerpiece… but only after you ask what colors, which kind of flowers, what arrangement style, and which container she wants, because this is the table's focal point! 

Happy Holly-Days!

Xx 

Holly

The Best Spiced Pecan Recipe You'll Ever Try!

Spiced pecans and sherry always go well together! This cherished bottle was given to Stuart and me when we attended a lunch with the Earl of Spencer at Althorp ( Princess Diana’s childhood home) years ago. Mummy taught me to always have sherry, in a decanter, readily available in the Living Room to serve to  impromptu guests… along with my pecans, which are easily retrieved from the refrigerator. 

The holidays are quickly approaching! Having lived in the South, I know that serving pecans, in any form, continues to be a cherished culinary treat and a timeless aspect of the traditional, gracious culture of the South, especially during the holidays. 

Homemade spiced pecans are a classic to serve and oh-so-simple to make! Perfect as nibbles during cocktail hour and festive during the holidays, they can also be a thoughtful hostess gift for any occasion too. 

Pecans can be stored in an air-tight container or ziplock bag in the freezer until you are ready to make this recipe.  Once made, they can be stored in an air-tight container in the refrigerator for weeks.  They are perfect to pull out to serve for impromptu guests quickly! 

Holly’s EASY Spiced Southern Pecans

Heat oven to 375 degrees

Ingredients:

4 Cups of pecan halves
4 Tbsp salted butter, melted
2 Tbsp brown sugar
2 Tbsp chopped, fresh rosemary
1 Tsp salt
½ Tsp cayenne pepper (or more, depending on how spicy you like them!)

To Make:

Mix all of the ingredients and spread on a baking sheet

Bake for 10-12 minutes at 375 degrees

NOTE: You want them brown but not burnt, so start checking them every minute after 9 minutes

Cool and serve immediately or store for weeks in the refrigerator in an air-tight container. While at it, double the recipe so you have some to give away! 

“Pecan” is pronounced “Pee KAHN!” and never as “Pee-Can.” Why? A “pee-can” goes under the bed… get it? Wink wink!

These spiced pecans are so yummy that they always seem to disappear in a flash! I like to serve them in a pretty silver porringer or a cut glass dish and always try to add sprigs of fresh rosemary for more color! 

Xx 

Holly

Halloween Decorating: An Elegant Approach!

 The English tea table in the foyer at Fox Hall is decorated with a quiet nod to Halloween.

BOO!

On Halloween, I prefer to decorate my home in a subdued, elegant way rather than a spooky one.  I have never been keen on over-the-top Halloween decorations or costumes; instead, I strive for a more understated, elegant, bewitchingly beautiful style!

Yes, my family carved pumpkins and went trick-or-treating. I enjoyed creating and reusing some of my own past costumes for our three children, including a formal Japanese kimono (wig and all!), a colorful Hawaiian grass skirt, and a much-loved Dutch girl outfit. We continue the longstanding “Holden” tradition of having hamburgers and milkshakes for Halloween dinner (nothing like a bit of sugar just before commencing this candy-gathering evening!).

But, regarding decorating our house, I prefer more low-key decorations. I embrace the challenge of repurposing several items that I already own. It is SO easy to embellish a Staffordshire dog with an orange ribbon collar, collect mums from the garden,  and fill a silver basket with candy corn!  I want the Halloween aura to feel fashionably festive, not scary.

Three years ago, my daughter-in-law, Karen (then pregnant with our grandson!), and I made a video about Halloween decorating.  The YouTube video shares some tips for creating a festive Halloween atmosphere without going “overboard.”  We had such fun… along with my ol’ Victor the Vulture, who, after 30 years, has become rather feather-bare! 

So, what about you? How do you decorate for Halloween?

I hope you have a boo-utiful Halloween!

Xx, Holly

The #1 Must-Have for Every Silk Scarf Lover!

 Two of my most cherished scarf rings!

It's that time of year again when silk scarves come out of the closet, and I love nothing more than to add a splash of color to my outfits with one of my favorite accessories. Scarves become my magic “travel wardrobe” because they are lightweight and enable me to pack my suitcase with interchangeable monotone outfits; a plain outfit is elegantly transformed with a scarf. I can add my signature splash of pink… my happy color!

But, what about scarf rings? These clever little accessories can enhance your scarf in so many ways, and they're not as intimidating to use as you might think. Scarf rings are often overlooked, despite the fact that they can add a touch of elegance and sophistication to any outfit. Take a peek here at how I use one of my favorite scarf rings, which is a triangle of three riding spurs.

Fold the scarf on a diagonal, slip the ring onto one end, then up to the center. The scarf ring enables the scarf to become a lovely accent to your neckline and is less bulky than just a mundane knot at the end of your scarf.

Grand Millennial Tips:

The three-spur Hermes scarf ring was a gift to me from my dear friend Carolyn Lewis of Louisville! What a fabulous gift, right?  So, if you know someone who wears scarves, consider giving a scarf ring. It's the perfect present!  

Scarf rings can also be used to create a belt with your scarf. 

For even more options and inspiration on how to use scarf ring styles, watch this YouTube video: “Cranleyplace, Scarf Rings: A Must Have.”  

Because silk scarves can be rawwther expensive, I pack both my scarves and scarf rings in my carry-on luggage. If my checked luggage gets lost or is delayed, I can simply add a scarf from my carry-on bag to enhance almost any temporary outfit. 

To keep your pressed scarves from wrinkling in a suitcase, fold them into a square and slip them into a gallon-sized zip-lock bag. It works like a charm! 

Colorful designs on a scarf will add a lovely and lively dimension to the most straightforward black or monotone outfit. My daughter Caroline cheered me on when I introduced my television series to the American Public Television convention in Salt Lake City. 

There are more of my “scarf-tying” ideas here, in a YouTube episode that my daughter-in-law, Karen Holden and I created.  

I hope you will consider adding scarf rings to your accessory wardrobe. They are versatile and will hold your scarf in various positions to enhance your ensemble. 

XX

Holly