Secret "Mirror Magic!"

Creative and decorative ideas for mirrors!

Double the delight and visual pleasure with a mirrored wall!  In my book, Pearls of Palm Beach, the Irish House chapter features this stunning, regally designed front hall.  The mirrored wall heightens the experience for guests to admire the elegant painting of The State Ballroom, Dublin Castle, c. 1845 by F. J. Davis.  It serves as a stellar introduction and sets the scene for one of the largest privately-owned collections of Irish Art. 

Mirrors can bring the outside in and can add sparkle to any space, especially when the mirror reflects candlelight and chandelier light. I was inspired to share a few design ideas with you on how mirrors can be used to enhance your interiors. 

A thoughtful subscriber from North Carolina shared how her guests love seeing the reflection of the crystal chandelier lights, along with the candlelight on the table, in her mirrored Dining Room ceiling.

The Palm Beach mirrored ceiling amplifies the beauty of the rich cerulean-blue hallway, adding to its sophistication and intrigue and is featured in my book. 

Small spaces can grow exponentially with the addition of a mirrored wall.  Because Fox Hall was built in 1803, bathrooms did not exist, so a small area of the Master Bedroom was portioned off to create a bathroom.  When we renovated, I had the “sink vanity wall” mirrored floor to ceiling.  Even though it appears that we have “two loos,” due to the reflection, it does indeed make a marvelous difference visually and enhances the diminutive space.  

Every time I visit Paris, I am enchanted by how artwork is often hung on top of a mirror.  This technique gives depth to both the art and the mirror.  Consider hanging a piece of art on top of your mirror, or over a mirrored wall.

The divine L’Espadon dining room at the Ritz Paris Hotel features these three grand mirrored areas, each with artwork hung over the mirrored wall. The artwork appears to be floating in a window. 

Another idea is to hang a decorative mirror atop a mirrored wall, which adds an illusion of depth and interest. 

An antique Venetian mirror is hung on top of the mirrored vanity wall in our bathroom in Palm Beach. 

Install a mirrored backsplash over a built-in bar, behind the shelves, to add additional sparkle to your crystal glasses. 

Consider applying a trellis-work design over a mirrored wall as we did in our dining room in Petite Fox, Palm Beach.

Instead of using glass panes on a door, consider “mirrored panes.”  This gives a magical and glamorous aesthetic.  I did this for my wardrobe closet doors in the dressing room at Fox Hall. I adore it!

One of the salons at the Ritz Hotel in Paris features mirrored doors.  

A mirrored wall can also serve as a wardrobe mirror to admire and adjust one’s attire.  

Here's looking at you, dear ones! 

Xx

Holly 

PS Please take a peek at the exquisite jewelry pieces that Elizabeth Gage presents on he website link here! I hope you will inspire a friend to subscribe HERE🌸

Marvelous Coconut Macaroon Cookies!

My “Coconut Macaroon Cookies” are Stuart’s favorite.  (And, mine too because they are so simple to make!) 

If you are ever in a pinch to make some quick and easy, but insanely yummy cookies, I have the recipe for you- my coconut macaroons! 

I imagine you have all the ingredients already on hand, especially if you keep a package of sweetened “Baker’s” coconut in your freezer.  I  use coconut for several recipes, so I always have a bag or two available!

The recipe is on the back of the Baker’s coconut package, BUT I do a few things differently, making them even more divine. My secret? I use self-rising flour, add more almond extract, and whip the egg whites until they are very frothy

Heat the oven to 325 degrees.

You will need:

• 1 14 oz bag of sweetened coconut (Baker’s if possible)

• ⅔ cup sugar

• 6 tablespoons flour (I use self-rising, but regular will work too)

• ¼ teaspoon salt

• 1 teaspoon almond extract (or a touch more!)

• 4 egg whites (beaten to a froth, but not stiff)

Mix the coconut, sugar, flour, and salt in a large bowl. Beat the egg whites to a froth and add them to the dry coconut mixture. Add the almond extract. Mix and let sit for 3-4 minutes so the coconut absorbs the moisture.

Drop a teaspoon or large tablespoon of the mixture (depending on the size of cookie you want to make) onto a baking sheet sprayed with Pam. Keep the mounds loose, not a tight ball! They will not spread, so you can place them an inch apart. How you drop them will make them irregular in size and shape, making them look lovingly homemade. This is key! 

Pop into the middle of the oven for 20-30 minutes, depending on the size of the mounds.  Watch to see when the edges are brown, and then remove them.  

These cookies will give your house the most divine aroma as they bake! 

Depending on the size of the mounds you create, you may get approximately 20-30 cookies! Cover them with plastic wrap once they are cooled to keep them moist… if they last that long! 

Xx

Holly

PS I am so honored that my "Private Luncheon" at Fox Hall on September 20 filled so quickly, so I am hosting another one the next day on September 21. The last few spots are open. I hope you can attend! Please email whitney@hollyholden.com if you are interested in attending on September 21 and she will provide all the details! 

Ceilings: The 5th Wall!

Painting your ceiling with a complementary color can be a subtle and intriguing detail! Our front hall in Palm Beach has the same pink color on the ceiling as on the walls of the adjoining living room. The Venetian Murano chandelier contributes to the pink and green theme. 

Think of ceilings as your fifth wall! Most guests rarely look up to the ceiling until they begin to feel notably comfortable in their surroundings, so something other than white can be an unexpected treat for your guests’ eyes to discover. 

Historically, grand ceilings painted by extraordinary artists were meant to impress. This brings back a fond memory of the Baroque ceiling by Francis Hayman in the Music Room at Highclere Castle (aka Downton Abbey). The original canvas, from the 1730s, was cut to fit the ornate ceiling plasterwork design. Photo credit: Chris McLaughlin

I honor the tradition of a white ceiling for historic or classically designed houses. When the trim is white, I will specify the same white color on the ceiling (versus an ordinary “white ceiling” paint). My wood trim color of choice is Benjamin Moore White Dove OC-17 semi-gloss, and then I use the same color, but in a flat finish, for the ceiling.

Another option, especially for a resort house or a 21st-century interior, is to consider painting your ceiling the same pastel color as the walls, or another color. 

The ceiling and walls are the same pink. Note how the semi-gloss on the trim adds a lovely hint of sheen against the flat finish on the walls.

My secret pink recipe is Ben Moore Pink Peony # 2078-70, cut in half with 50% white, with a flat finish!  

Remember, you can ask to have any paint color on your walls cut in half with 50% white (or more) for your ceilings. Cutting the color in half will soften the color considerably for the ceilings.

A ceiling can also become the perfect canvas for clever and whimsical art. See the artwork on our daughter Caroline’s bathroom ceiling here, which has a “blue sky with puffy clouds” at Fox Hall.

Grandmillenial Tips:

-A flat finish is my first choice for walls.  But if you have children, an eggshell finish is a bit more forgiving for wiping away those “darling” little fingerprints!

The soft blue walls and ceiling in our former Palm Beach bedroom are Ben Moore Winter Ice #866, cut with 25% white in a flat finish. The trim and lacquered furniture are in BM White Dove OC-17, semi-gloss. 

When choosing any color, order large paper paint samples and place them on various walls during the day and night. The light in a room changes during the day and at night, so the hue of the paint color will change, too. Or, try painting actual color samples on the walls.

-Remember that your furniture, art, and curtain colors may also have a reflectability on your walls, so consider that too.

-My dear friend and talented designer in Palm Beach, Katherine Shenaman, recommends “Sherwin Williams Mountain Air 6224 cut by 25% white for ceilings or walls, and it looks nice with Chantilly Lace (Ben Moore-OC 65), a soft cotton white; a happy pairing!” 

So, are you inspired? What will you do with your 5th wall?!

Xx

Holly

PS I am so honored that my "Private Luncheon" at Fox Hall on September 20 filled so quickly, so I am hosting another one the next day on September 21. The last few spots are open. I hope you can attend! Please email whitney@hollyholden.com if you are interested in attending on September 21 and she will provide all the details! 

Holly's Secret, Simply Scrumptious Strawberry Pie!

Our darling friends sweetly hosted a “Welcome back from England” dinner party for us. I offered to bring a strawberry pie and garnished it with a few mint sprigs from the garden. A dollop of my whipped cream, enhanced with almond extract, was added to each slice just before it was served for dessert! 

As a 21-year-old bride, I quickly discovered my darling husband’s predilection for pies! It was not long before I compiled a repertoire of easy but very yummy pie recipes! The season of sweet summer strawberries is almost over, so here is my secret recipe, “easy as pie” to make!

My 5 Simple Ingredients:

-One Pillsbury refrigerated pie crust
 OR a 9” graham cracker crust pie shell
-3 pints of strawberries
-1 cup of Sugar
-3 tablespoons of cornstarch mixed with 2 tablespoons of lemon juice, and add in…
-My secret ingredient: 1-2 tablespoons of Grand Marnier Liquor, to taste. (This is optional but adds a delightful dimension to the pie's sweetness! You can use more lemon juice as an alternative to Grand Marnier.)

Bake the pie crust as directed until lightly brown. Place in the refrigerator to cool. 

Take the stems off and slice 1 pint of strawberries in thirds, and place in a saucepan.

Stir in the sugar.

Add cornstarch with lemon (and Grand Marnier). When mixed, this mixture will become a thick paste. Pour into the saucepan. 

Cook the above on the stovetop over moderate heat, stirring until the mixture becomes thick and clear.

De-stem and halve (or keep whole) 2 pints of strawberries and stir into the above semi-cooled mixture.

Pour into the semi-cooled, baked pie crust.

Refrigerate until well chilled.

Optional Additions:

Add a dollop of whipped cream to each slice: Whip a cup of heavy whipping cream with confectioner sugar to taste, and add ½ teaspoons (or more) of almond extract! 

Sprinkle in blueberries if you wish, perfect for the 4th of July. 

Garnish with a few mint sprigs if you have any.

GrandMillenial Tips:

-Keep a Pillsbury pie crust in your freezer so you can easily make ANY kind of pie at a moment's notice. 

-My secret touch: Use a fork to make a “tine” imprint around the edges of the pie crust before it is baked, and voila, it resembles a homemade pie crust!

Life is better with strawberries and kisses. I do hope it is love at first bite for you! 

Xx

Holly

PS: I am thrilled and honored that the “Private Luncheon at Fox Hall” was filled within three days... we will have such fun! More requests have continued to come in. I decided to host another luncheon the very next day, Saturday, September 21st. If you would like to attend this additional luncheon date, please email whitney@hollyholden.com. Your kind regrets are not necessary; only interested parties need to email. It will be the same joyful agenda as the day before, so I hope you can attend! 

 PSS: Take a peek at my private meeting in London with Elizabeth Gage, the exquisite jewelry designer here! 

The Simple Act of Kindness

La-ti-dah… Boarding the plane on my way home with a very happy heart! 

How quickly life can change! I had spent the morning at Buckingham Palace, interviewed the Chairman of The Goring Hotel, took a lovely ride to Heathrow, and then said a joyful farewell to my dear “LondonTown.”

It was a delight to meet Chairman David Morgan-Hewitt, for an interview in the glorious dining room at the five-star Goring Hotel, the only hotel with a Royal Warrant. The Late Queen Elizabeth II dined here and knew David well, and Princess Kate stayed here the night before her wedding.

Before I knew it, I was blissfully asleep on the plane home, with my eye mask perfectly in place….

And, WHAM!    

Suddenly, out of nowhere, a large stainless steel thermos came crashing down… right onto my face… a rawwther rude awakening! Fortunately, my nose and teeth were spared, though I did end up with a VERY black eye. (I'm grateful this didn’t happen ON our way to London… not a good look with my pink attire for the “Live Royally" event!)

The crew was incredibly attentive and helpful. Here is the kicker: The passenger who opened the luggage rack above me never said a word about the thermos hitting my face. In today’s litigious society, some people are afraid to admit mistakes due to potential legal consequences and being sued.

This incident had me thinking, what happened to the simple act of apologizing or acknowledging a person when one has made a mistake or caused an accident? It used to be an expected social norm, right?

So, the moral of my story is twofold. First, be careful when opening a luggage rack on an airplane, per the flight attendant’s advisory spiel before take-off! Second, and more importantly, teach your children the value of admitting mistakes and saying, “I’m sorry.” These words can go a long way, along with showing a little concern and kindness in fostering a considerate and civil society. This experience has reminded me to admit when I am wrong more often... and perhaps... to place a pillow or two over my head on long-distance flights!

Xx

Holly

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How to Repurpose Silver Pieces!

Because of its slender size, the English silver syphon (siphon in America) c. 1880 works well on a side table in Palm Beach. I use it to chill a bottle of wine or sparkling water.

Mummy taught me how to repurpose silver pieces, which she did brilliantly out of necessity. My parents moved 33 times during my father’s career. I hope to inspire you to think outside of the box!

The English silver syphon (above with a wine bottle) doubles here as a flower vase. The English biscuit box, c. 1975, is filled with ice on our drinks table. It can also hold cookies for my grandchildren or dog biscuits. The Sheffield basket holds chocolates here, but I also use the basket to serve my biscuits at dinner. 

Here are 14 of my secrets to “repurposing silver pieces” in a diverse, unique manner: 

1. A silver champagne cooler can be transformed brilliantly into a stunning flower vase or a plant cachepot.

2. A silver baby cup can be a hors d’oeuvres toothpick holder and also a small flower vase.

3. A small silver cream pitcher is perfect for bedside flowers and also to serve warm syrup for pancakes.

4. A silver canister can hold spices, pepper, and powdered sugar.

5. A silver tray can “frame and enhance” the flowers and catch pollen or falling blossoms when placed under a floral arrangement. 

6. Silver chargers are a splendid size to pass hors d’oeuvres on.

7. Silver napkin rings can be filled with greenery to garnish a serving platter of prepared food. 

8. A silver cigarette holder can serve candies, nuts, or toothpicks/skewers.

9. A silver punchbowl can be used to serve biscuits for a large party.

10. A silver mint julep cup can hold make-up brushes, toothbrushes, Q-tips, or flowers.

11. A silver coaster is the perfect size to place chocolates at your guest’s bedside.

12. A silver baby rattle works brilliantly as a carving knife rest.

13. A silver basket can hold biscuits, chocolates, cookies, bread, crackers, nuts, and petit fours. 

14. A silver picture frame can be transformed into a standing mirror by inserting a piece of “mirrored glass” in place of a photograph.

Mummy’s silver umbrella was a chic cigarette holder for her bridge parties in the 60s. I transformed it into a toothpick holder to go alongside hors d'oeuvres… much more chic than smoking!

I hope you will look at your silver pieces and be inspired to use them differently!

I adore receiving your entertaining and interior design questions— aka lovely living! You inspired me to host an intimate luncheon at Fox Hall, allowing me to share more of my secrets and answer your questions. An invitation will be emailed to you. I do hope you can attend on September 20th. Please keep a lookout for it…what fun we will have! 

Xx

Holly

Wish Granted!

What is it called when you have a plan that exceeds your expectations? I think it is “a wish granted, a dream come true,” like this moment at Blenheim Palace. 

Last week, Stuart and I had the honor of Chairing “Live Royally!” an extraordinary five-day event that CEO.org (Chief Executives Organization) hosted in England for only 34 members/spouse attendees. Drawing from my experience filming my PBS TV series in England, I was inspired to create a regal yet entertaining and informative experience. The challenge was on! 

Stuart and I landed in London a few days early to be on our game and adjust to the time. A driver picked us up at Heathrow (4 a.m. our USA time). As we drove toward London, he politely announced, “Mr. and Mrs. Holden, the King is passing us presently on the right side of our vehicle.”  Really? OH, my! There he was in a handsome Rolls with two police escorts. Right on cue, this set the scene perfectly for “Live Royally!”

We arrived at the glorious Dorchester Hotel and ate a petite breakfast in the lobby. A few moments later, I was off to meet Elizabeth Gage. There was no time to change, so wake up, Holly… two pots of tea, please!   (I am wearing the “Paley Jacket”)

Elizabeth Gage creates uniquely bespoke, hand-made, stunning jewelry; her boutique is in elegant Belgravia, London. Her pieces are exhibited in museums and feted worldwide. She received an M.B.E. from the Late Queen Elizabeth II.  (See “Welcome New Sponsor” below) It has been a few years since we last saw one another at a dinner party we hosted for her at Fox Hall. How exciting to see her again… jet lag was not an option!

The next day, it was time to focus on our “Live Royally” event! We were excited to execute our plan after taking two “scout trips” to England with Stacy Bailine, the ultimate and extremely professional Director of Events for CEO.org. Off to Cliveden House to commence the event!

Thanks to the CEO.org “Dream Team: Stacy, Sarah, and Payton,” every detail was executed like “Big Ben” clockwork! Our 34 attendees were charming and enthusiastic, traveling from Canada, Hong Kong, and the USA… we adored them all! Our educational resources were brilliantly insightful, the venues splendid, and the cuisine yummy!  The British weather? Blue skies and puffy white clouds. It was all magical if you ask me!

Thank you, Tim and Louise, International CEO Chairs, for inviting and trusting us to Chair this event! The tagline “only-in-CEO experiences” rang true each day. To name a few: wine tasting and dinner at Baron Alfred de Rothschild’s Waddesdon Manor, a book discussion with the Duchess of Rutland, Emma Manners, luncheon with Lady Camoys at her family home Stoner Park, a luncheon with Peter and Eleanor Buxton at their home Kirtlington Park, an engaging talk from The Royal Butler- Grant Harrold, and cocktails with the Earl and Countess of Carnarvon at Highclere Castle. The grand finale? A pink-themed dinner/dance at Blenheim Palace.

When we pulled up to the magnificent Blenheim Palace, a UNESCO site, my heart went pitter-patter; I consider Blenheim Palace the most important and significant palace in the world.  Lady Henrietta Spencer-Churchill, my dear friend and the elder daughter of the 11th Duke of Marlborough, greeted every guest as they entered the Great Hall, introducing them to her family home.  She just penned her 12th book,  Blenheim: 300 Years of Life in a Palace, which will debut in September 2024.  We filmed a PBS episode together at Blenheim.   (I am wearing my newest creation from Gramercy Atelier’s Holly Holden Collection.) 

As we departed Blenheim Palace at midnight, to my surprise, the exterior was lit up in pink… a Cinderella moment!

“Live Royally” was officially over. We spent the last two days in London for R&R at the glorious Goring Hotel. We took a walk toward Buckingham Palace, next to the Goring Hotel, when a darling, 30-something young lady walked past, stopped, turned around, and took a second glance. “I read your newsletters- You’re Holly Holden!” Maybe it was my bright pink coat. Whatever it was, I am in awe of how gracious my subscribers are. Thank you for introducing yourselves to me worldwide and allowing me to share my experiences with you. How VERY fortunate I am to have an audience who shares the same appreciation for a genteel way of life. Long live gracious tradition!

In summation, “Live Royally” was a dream come true.  My wish was granted!

xx

Holly

Some of your best ideas may come while on holiday!

Secrets to Lovely Living endeavors to cover topics I hope will enrich your life. With that in mind, I am honored to present my daughter, Alexandra, to you. She just may enhance your life! Thank you for indulging me.

Vacation gives you time to start implementing simple micro habits, to think about navigating a career move or even pushing out of your comfort zone and finally starting that business you’ve been contemplating!

This summer, if you're pondering questions about your present status, future, or workplace challenges (universal concerns), or if you know someone who is, you may wish to consider hiring a coach. From recent college graduates to established CEOs, we all face challenges at some point. 

My daughter, Alexandra Terhalle, is a University of Cambridge-certified Coach dedicated to helping professionals all over the world, at all levels, find clarity and purpose, unlocking their unlimited potential. Her expertise, which includes Executive Coaching, Relocation Coaching, and Career and Confidence Coaching, is a testament to her ability to catalyze growth and inspiration with transformative coaching. 

An accomplished coach can be extraordinary for your personal growth. Alexandra’s  portfolio includes international executives from Fortune 500 companies (Apple, Google, MARS, 3M, American Express, etc.). She coaches worldwide on Zoom from her office in Berlin, Germany. 

If you know someone ready to grow exponentially, please do consider passing along Alexandra’s website. I was lucky enough to have her coach me… and she helped me find the courage to accomplish many of my personal and professional goals! 

May summertime give you time to reassess your goals, where ever you are! 

Xx

Holly

PS “Freebie!” 15 BEST BOOKS to Inspire You This Summer, click here! 

The Powder Room: A Perfect Place for Artwork!

Besides the pretty celadon green striped wallpaper by Brunschwig & Fils, the decorative aspect of this charming Powder Room is the artwork.  I have admired this Powder Room, which belongs to dear friends, because it is adorned with art that is meaningful to them.  The medley of assorted silhouettes and miniatures, collected in London by their family years ago, adds to the room's charm.  The history of each piece has been dutifully recorded on the backside, which is a smart idea.  The two seashell gouaches are by artist John Gould, the “Audubon of Australia.”

Consider adding even more charm to your Powder Room walls with lovely artwork.    

Typically, most guests do not expect to discover important artwork in a Powder Room!  While silver picture frames, replete with meaningful photographs, pique the curiosity of your guests in other rooms, pretty Powder Rooms can be the perfect backdrop to display some of your most alluring artwork for guests to admire unexpectedly... albeit privately!  

Both photographs and artwork are what I refer to as “subtle bragging rights.” Nothing is overtly prominent but, instead, discreetly intriguing to others.  Photographs in your house offer a peek at important moments.  Artwork, especially in a Powder Room, can be a surprise, revealing your interests, family background, or personal stories. 

A Powder Room is intended for guests.  This is where ladies powder their noses and apply pink lipstick… in private. Think of the walls as premium space to be clever and reveal your treasures, whether lavish or simply what you hold dear. Typically, Powder Rooms do not have a shower or tub, hence, the artwork will not be at risk from an abundance of moisture.  A well-appointed Powder Room can easily be transformed into a “gem box” of a private art gallery. 

 Silhouettes from London. 

Once, as I was a dinner party guest at a distinguished historic house, a stunning “art” discovery was made.  During cocktail hour, the Director of a prestigious art museum returned from the Powder Room and asked the host what he knew about the watercolor hanging near the sink.  “Yes, it was purchased by my grandfather years ago on his travels,” he responded. The signature was diminutive and hard to decipher. The Director recognized the artwork, which was painted by a world-famous artist and was exceptionally valuable.  Now, this is another reason to hang artwork in your Powder Room.  It may be discovered as being more prized than you could ever imagine!

Powder Rooms tend to be rather feminine in decor, but not ours!  Because Fox Hall, our c. 1803 house, was built before indoor plumbing, our Powder Room was cleverly slipped in under the main staircase.  The door leading into it is part of the Hunt Room bookcase. The dark green Scalamandre wallpaper with Jack Russell terriers seemed fitting to complement the burgundy walls and horsey theme for the  Hunt Room.  The artwork displayed has an intriguing story of how and why we collected it.

The art you display will create a brief and unique experience for your guests to relish and remember.  Choose an exceptional mirror and soft lighting for your Powder Room.

The pilot episode for my public television series, You Are Cordially Invited, was filmed at a grand house, Eyrie Knoll, in West Hartford, Connecticut.  The Sullivans’ attention to detail in every room was exemplary. Their distinguished collection of du Paquier porcelain (Vienna 1719) was once a featured exhibition at The Metropolitan Museum.  When Julia Child was a dinner guest, she exclaimed that their Powder Room was the most beautifully, well-appointed one she had ever visited. Note the hand-painted design on the wood floor and cabinet, the attractive mirror, and the shaded electric candlelights. 

Grandmillennial Tips:

Remember, the paint or wallpaper colors in your Powder Room should complement the artwork and adjoining room. Create a calm but captivating oasis for your guests. 

Whether you have a collection of museum-worthy artwork, or simply hang a multitude of porcelain birds on wall brackets, framed children’s artwork, or a collection of something meaningful, consider salon-style hanging as an option, where the sky's the limit. The walls can be adorned from top to bottom!

Xx 

Holly 

Bridal Pictures: How and Where to Display Them!

The Smoking Room at Highclere Castle features a console table behind the sofa, sprinkled with stunning bridal pictures of various relatives.

A lovely tradition in classically designed houses is a table devoted to bridal photographs as an homage to various brides within the family tree. In the past, the assembled portraits only featured the bride in a formal black-and-white pose, but they have now morphed into pictures of the bride and groom in black-and-white and also in color.

The Duchess’s butter-yellow sitting room in the Private Apartments at Blenheim Palace in Woodstock, England, ranks as one of the most beautifully appointed rooms I have ever seen. While filming my television program there, I admired the magnificent bridal photograph of Lady Henrietta Spencer-Churchill and her other relatives as brides on the table behind me. 

Bridal photographs are traditionally grouped together and displayed in the living room on a side table, a grand piano, or a table behind a sofa. Formal bridal portrait photographs in English country houses and palaces are traditionally black and white or in a sepia tone. 

The formality of the house and the photograph dictate the style of the picture frame, which can be ornate or sleek and modern. The most traditional bridal picture frame is sterling silver or silver-plated. A French enamel frame is another stunning choice. Italian fine leather with gold embellishments or antique gilded frames are other options. 

It was an honor to tour the ravishing Rienzi House at the Museum of Fine Arts in Houston, Texas, with Carroll Goodman, the granddaughter of the owners who built it. Carroll wore her mother’s wedding gown, and this charming tradition continues with other brides in her family line. The antique console table in the living room features several family bridal portraits, including Carroll.  

In my book, The Pretty and Proper Living Room, I discuss how and where to engrave a silver picture frame.  If the wedding photograph is just of the bride, then a monogram with her new married name initials is in order. If it is of the husband and wife, then their joint initial monogram is appropriate. The wedding date is a lovely addition, too.

Xx

Holly

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Wedding Wisdom Part II: What No-No's to Know!

Our joyful wedding day was almost 49 years ago, at The Country Club of Virginia in Richmond. I was thrilled and honored to wear my mother-in-law’s wedding gown. Our get-away car? A Bell helicopter picked us up on the putting green by the terrace (that would never happen today!). Then, we were off to Bermuda to begin our married lives together. 

Why is June the most popular month for getting married? 

June is derived from Juno, the goddess of marriage and the protector of women. A wedding in June is considered auspicious, so the couple will be blessed with happiness! 

How grateful I am to have such a tradition-minded, international audience who takes the time to share their thoughts and experiences with me!

Case in point: while wearing an ALL-white outfit as a guest attending a wedding in the USA is a no-no, bridesmaids have often worn white in British weddings. The Late Queen Elizabeth II chose white for her bridesmaids, which continues to be a common practice in the UK. Royal wedding participants, i.e., Maid of Honor, Bridesmaids, and usually the children. It is a tradition from centuries ago when they believed white would repel evil spirits. I did not explain this before, so thank you, B.M. and L.C. 

Wish to hear more wedding no-no’s?  

Here are a few that you kindly shared with me: 

~ The biggest no-no in my mind is to accept an invitation and then not show up… especially considering the cost of a sit-down dinner!  

 J.M. 

~ Arriving late to a marriage ceremony is a no-no! Guests, please plan to arrive at least 20 minutes early so that you may be escorted to your seat and not hold up the ceremony. 

P.S.

~ Please tell guests to send their wedding gifts sooner rather than later. Send your wedding gift within a week or two after you have received your invitation! Bringing a gift to the reception is a no-no; a bride should not be burdened with organizing the delivery of any presents from the reception venue.  Also, I am a recent bride, and getting a thank-you note out before the wedding versus after is much easier!

A.C.
~ It is a no-no to make the bride inquire about who may have sent a gift, so be sure your card is securely attached.

B.D.

~ Ask the bride or mother of the bride the best address to send your gift. The address on the invitation and response envelope may be the address of the bride's parents or even the wedding planner. It may be easier for the bride to have the gift sent to her address instead!

A.M.H. 
 

Thank you all for inspiring others to subscribe to my newsletter—wow!! 

Please know how grateful I am to you for being so graciously appreciative and supportive. 

Sending pink wishes,

xx

Holly

Wedding Guest No-No's: What you need to know!

The bells of the Berlin Dom were ringing as Alexandra and Maximilian walked down the stairs after their wedding ceremony 17 years ago!  

Love, laughter, and a “happily ever after!”

It’s June, the month of roses and weddings! 

Being a guest at a wedding is a treat, but more importantly, witnessing a marriage ceremony is an honor.

Several mother-of-the-bride subscribers have shared their experiences with me about what a guest should NOT do at a wedding!  Weddings are truly personal. Times have changed, from pink wedding dresses to ceremonies under the sea. Today, anything goes.  But for those of you whom cherish tradition, here are some “No-Nos,” as a little reminder, for guests attending a wedding.  

No-no: To not follow the dress code.
 

What IS done: When in doubt, contact the bride or the mother of the bride to determine what to wear. If the invitation indicates a term you are unsure of, such as “resort chic,” be sure to ask what is expected for attire!
 

No-No:  For a lady guest to wear ALL white.
 

What IS done: Accessorizing with white is fine, but an all-white outfit is reserved for the bride. (Yet when Catherine Middleton, now the Princess of Wales, was a bride, her sister Pippa wore an all-white gown… times are a-changin!)  Also, refrain from wearing black. Why? It is a joyous day of celebration, so choose your dress with that in mind. You may wish to inquire what color the bridesmaids will be wearing, so you will not be wearing the same color. 
 

No-No:  To ask if you may give a toast at the last minute.
 

What IS done:  If you wish to give a toast, ask the bride and groom for their blessing well in advance of the wedding.  Toasts are traditionally delivered by the bride's father, the best man and the maid of honor, and are planned before the wedding date.

Our son, Stuart III, and his new wife, Karen, joyfully departed The Everglades Club in Palm Beach. Their wedding inspired me to write my second book, Pearls of Palm Beach. 

No-No:  To say “congratulations” to the bride.
 

What IS done: Say “best wishes” to the bride. Why?  “Congratulations” is reserved for the groom because he was fortunate to have “caught and married” such a lovely lady. This is an old Victorian tradition. Yet, it continues in old-school etiquette.  As an alternative, guests may extend their “best wishes” to both the bride and groom. 
 

No-No: To wear sunglasses in church or during any professional wedding photographs. 
 

What IS done: An old-school rule of thumb: don’t wear sunglasses to a wedding ceremony or reception. But, in this age, sunglasses are permissible on a sunny day outside, but kindly remove them when asked to be in a photo. 
 

No-No: To take photographs in the church.
 

What IS done:  A photographer has been hired by the bride to document the wedding ceremony, so let them do their job. As a guest, your responsibility is to show up and respectfully savor the ceremony with your eyes. Take photos after the ceremony outside of the church or ceremony venue.

 

No-No: To keep your cell phone on during the marriage ceremony in a church or any venue. 
 

What IS done: Turn your phone to silent. Also, without “vibration mode” because subtle noises can be distracting during the marriage ceremony. 
 

No-No: To post photographs of the wedding without first asking permission from either the bride, groom, or mother of the bride.

Our youngest daughter, Caroline and her new husband, Edward, departing Marble House in Newport, Rhode Island.

What IS done: It is always thoughtful to ask before posting. The bride may want to choose from her professional photographs to be posted first on social media on their actual wedding day. 
 

No-No: To take flowers from the reception tables after the reception.
 

What IS done: If you have been invited to take the flowers, then, do so.
 

No-No: To not promptly (within one week) R.s.v.p. to the wedding reception invitation.
 

What IS done:  Respond to the wedding invitation as soon as possible (preferably within 48 hours) of receiving your reply card. This tends to be the biggest challenge for brides and requires them to reach out to guests before the wedding date to get an accurate headcount. 
 

No-No: To indicate a “wedding gift registry” on a wedding or bridal shower invitation. 
 

What IS done: Guests may contact the bride or the shower hosts and ask where the bridal couple is registered. A wedding website, which can include their registry, may be indicated on the “Reserve the Date” card. 
 

No-No: Asking to bring a guest (someone other than the person indicated on the invitation envelope) is a no-no.
 

What IS done: Honor and respect whoever is indicated on the invitation. If your children or “and Guest” is not mentioned, they are not invited. 
 

No-No: To change your place card seating at your assigned reception table.
 

What IS done:  You have been placed where you are for a reason! No matter how tempting it is to change your seating to be close to friends or whomever, do not. Honor your seating assignment. Then, once the meal ends, you can excuse yourself to the dance floor and mingle with others. 
 

No-No: To stay seated when the bride enters the church. 
 

What IS done: Standing is a show of respect and admiration.  Keep your eyes on the mother of the bride.  When she stands, the guests should stand. If she stays seated, the guests should conform and follow suit. 

Stuart and I hold hands when the bride and groom say their vows. It's our quiet way of acknowledging our vows for each other. Cheers to joyful wedding ceremonies!

Xx

Holly

Holly's secret "white" trim paint color!

Choosing the appropriate white paint color for your wood trim is worth your time and consideration. The color shown on the pediment and trim around the c.1803 mahogany door at Fox Hall is my secret “white” paint color!

Dear Ones, 

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Xx Holly

Now, let’s talk white paint!

There are a myriad of “white” paint color options. I am frequently asked what my favorite white paint color is for walls, ceilings, and wood trim.  Because “white” paints can have hidden undertones that tend to be cold or warm, it can be challenging to decipher which white to choose. 

So, what is my secret, tried-and-true white paint color for trim?  

It is Benjamin Moore: White Dove OC-17. 

Why do I specify White Dove?

White Dove’s tonality brings softness and warmth to an interior while still looking white. It works exceptionally well in historic houses. I have it on the trim in ALL of our houses and specify it for my client's newer houses, too.

What trim paint finish do I prefer?

A semi-gloss finish on the wood trim in most rooms and a high-gloss finish for the trim and cabinetry in kitchens, children’s rooms, sunrooms, and bathrooms. 

Why do I specify Benjamin Moore's paint?

It is durable and fade-resistant, has superior coverage, expands and contracts with weather fluctuations, and is rich in pigment. From experience, I think their color swatches and paint fan-deck colors are exceptionally accurate, making my job easier. 

Here are a few other “Holly” options for Benjamin Moore (BM) whites for trim and walls:

BM White Dove OC-17 When I want white walls, I use this in a flat finish and on the ceiling to match the walls. 

BM Opal White OC-73 is a soft, pastel peachy-pink that enhances anyone’s complexion!

I like it on walls in a flat finish, with White Dove semi-gloss on the trim. This very becoming color is on my office and dressing room walls!

BM Linen White 92 is a warm beige. 

Linen White is on the walls in the baby’s room at Fox Hall in a flat finish, with a semi-gloss White Dove on the trim, which complements the celadon floral chintz on the curtains and bed hangings. Our carriage house, Little Fox, also has Linen White on most walls, with White Dove on the trim, keeping it all neutral for the Airbnb tenants. 

BM Super White 02 has a cool tonality and works well for more modern interiors, both on the walls and the trim.  

BM Atrium White OC-145 is creamy with peachy undertones.  

BM China White OC-141 has a grey tonality.  It works with grey and black accents.

My office at Fox Hall has flat Opal White on the walls and ceiling, with semi-gloss White Dove trim.

I had the furniture lacquered in Palm Beach in glossy White Dove, which blends in with the bedroom's White Dove trim.

White Dove, in a flat finish, is lovely on walls and ceilings, especially when the wood trim color contrasts, as exemplified in our Living Room at Fox Hall.

GrandMillennial Tips:

The best way to accurately see the complexity and true tonality of any white color you choose is to place your “white” color swatch, or the actual paint, on white printer paper. It will reveal its true color right before your eyes.

When painting your house, try to use the same color for ALL of the trim! This makes it effortless to touch it up at any time. Between vacuum cleaner bumps and shoe knicks on the stair risers, there are never-ending touchups at Fox Hall. This family house is happily “lived in” with eight grandchildren, a dog, a gardening husband, and constant entertaining! 

If your trim is in White Dove, paint your ceiling in a flat White Dove to blend in with the White Dove on the trim. 

So, what is your go-to “white” for trim and walls? I’d love to know!

What is my “secret pink” for the Living Room walls at Petite Fox in Palm Beach?

BM 2078-80 Pink Peony, cut 50% with white!  I use a flat finish on the walls, with White Dove semi-gloss on the trim. Then, I have the BM 2078-80 made in an even softer shade for the ceiling, so it is cut with 75% white, which gives the ceiling just a hint of pink!  

It has been an honor to share my “secrets” with you. Thank you again for helping me to meet my challenge to double my subscriber numbers. I know we can do it!  

Xx 

Holly

Grosgrain Glamour! A timeless and tailored decorative trim.

A simple, quietly understated 1” wide grosgrain ribbon trim adds a tailored touch to a classic Bob Collins chintz dust ruffle in Palm Beach. 

What decorative trim is timeless, tailored, and unbelievably cost-effective?  It is used to enhance curtains, valances, upholstery, pillows, dust ruffles, and it even graces dresses, hats, shoes, and ponytails.

It is a grosgrain ribbon! (Pronounced: GROW-grain)

Grosgrain is a very versatile ribbon. It has a distinctive ribbed texture which also serves to enhance its durability, more so than satin or silk ribbons. Its matte finish is not flashy, making it a quiet classic. 

I have used Samuel & Sons grosgrain ribbons for years for my clients.  This kind of ribbon can also be easily obtained on the internet, like this roll of 2” white ribbon.

Grosgrain in the 17th century referred to a garment fabric that was black and durable.  In the 1920s “grosgrain ribbon” was introduced, and now, there are a multitude of colors and printed designs available. 

I like to think of grosgrain ribbon as having a “distinguished appearance.” It continues to embellish evening wear, like the bow on a gentleman’s formal black evening pumps.

It was love at first sight when Stuart purchased these shoes in London for me with the pink grosgrain ribbon bow! 

Consider applying a 1” to 2” wide grosgrain ribbon along the leading edge and bottom hemline of your curtain panels.  Choose a complementary color to the fabric design or room scheme… or simply choose a neutral color, like white. 

These curtain pull-panels have 1½” white grosgrain ribbon. It is applied one inch off of the leading edge of the panels.  

I specify a grosgrain ribbon trim to be sewn about ½” to 1 ½” off the leading edges on a curtain panel.  Where it is placed depends on the pattern of the fabric, the height of the room, and the width of the curtains. Two or more smaller ribbons can be added, too. 

This grosgrain ribbon has “picot” edges which adds a touch of femininity. This bow pulls back the bed hangings on my daughter’s bed at Fox Hall. 

Have fun, be clever, and think outside of the box when designing with grosgrain ribbon.  Ever since I was sixteen, I have applied grosgrain to my dress designs and hairbands… I never tire of it! 

XX

Holly

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The secret to properly popping a champagne bottle cork!

Pink champagne is traditionally served at Fox Hall for just about any occasion! 

When champagne is served, it instantly becomes a celebration!  Our daughter, Alexandra, and her husband, Maximilian, are hosting a Black-tie celebratory party here in Berlin. It is a “Trifecta,” as both their birthdays and anniversary are all within one week of each other in May! 

My granddaughter offered to help serve champagne, so the topic arose: How does one properly pop the cork on a bottle of bubbly?  

I have observed my darling husband open countless champagne bottles throughout the years. His technique is quiet and the popped cork remains in his hand. One may think that the loud “POP” sound, accompanied by a “darting cork" is the way it is done (as often portrayed in the movies) however, the quieter the “pop” of the cork, the more elegant “the pour!” 

So, how does one properly open a champagne bottle? Twist the bottle, NOT the cork! 

Champagne was created in France BY accident, and if you are not careful to remove the cork correctly, you can have AN accident!  The cork can become a dangerous projectile, a flying bullet.  The pressure behind a champagne cork is approximately 90 psi, equivalent to three times the pressure in a car tire!

As we arrived at Chateau de Villette, outside of Paris to attend a stunning wedding, we were greeted with gentlemen servers in the grand hall, who poured champagne into the quintessential “coupe” glass. This glass shape became fashionable in the 1700’s and has a unique history about its shape… that’s a whole other topic!

More secret champagne tips:

-Be sure the bottle is chilled, preferably to 45 degrees Fahrenheit.  

NOTE: if the bottle is NOT cold enough, the cork can release even more quickly because of the pressure inside the bottle. A bottle of champagne at room temperature has more pressure, which creates a bigger pop and more effervescent spray than a chilled bottle!

-Pop the cork away from anyone or anything valuable… no secret there! 

-Hold the bottle at a 45-degree angle. Untwist the wire cage counterclockwise, and lift it off while also keeping pressure on the cork. 

-Twist the bottom of the bottle, not the cork!  Keep pressure on the cork with your hand, and pull the bottle down as you twist it.  By twisting the bottle, you can control the release of the cork. 

GrandMillennial Tips:

Using a mixture of 50 percent water and 50 percent ice is an expedient way to quickly chill a bottle of champagne. Use this 50/50 mixture in a pretty ice bucket and fill it a third of the way up.

Draping a folded linen napkin over the cork while removing it is a simple and elegant precautionary measure.

Overlooking the stupendously beautiful gardens at historic Chateau de Villette while sipping French champagne was simply glorious and transported me to another time, one of pure elegance.  

My mother-in-law lovingly says, “Tiny bubbles taste better!”  She always has a few chilled bottles of champagne on hand to serve for any occasion. That’s a lovely gesture to adopt, right?!

Cheers to YOU from Berlin! I am most grateful for your enthusiastic support and wish you many joyful “bubbly” celebrations! 

XX

Holly

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A secret magic wand for "Brown Furniture!"

Here is the “after” photo of a bed that had “the secret magic wand” treatment!

Have you heard talk about how younger generations no longer want “brown furniture?” Yet, on the other hand, they want sustainable, good-for-the-environment furniture. Well, guess what? Using “brown furniture” is a way to go green! If you don’t like the brown color, then transform “brown” into something you’ll love and use. 

I’m not speaking about superlative antiques, but let’s say you have inherited a piece of furniture that has sentimental meaning to you but is… humdrum?  Or you have a piece of furniture that remains quietly sequestered in the garage or basement?  These are “Cinderella” pieces awaiting a magic wand to transform their beauty into showstopper caliber.  

Want a wand?  Here it is: lacquer paint!  Lacquer paint can immediately revamp any piece of wood furniture, even kitchen cabinets, because it instantly enhances their outer beauty. 

Can you see the outer beauty in this ugly stepsister, homely-looking bed?  It is the same, “fit for a princess”  bed shown above in lacquer with a semi-gloss finish! It is in “Dove White,” which is my go-to white.

Lacquer is thin in consistency, but stronger than paint. It can be tricky to apply because it dries very quickly, much faster than paint (hence it needs to be sprayed on). If not applied correctly, it can bubble and crack.  

Lacquer has a very durable finish and cures within 24 hours, whereas oil enamel paint can take weeks to cure. There are many versions of lacquer paint, and each artist uses their own formula. Experts in lacquer application know what combination works best for each specific application. 

To find an expert source that specializes in spraying lacquer paint, ask your local paint store such as Benjamin Moore or Sherwin Williams, or ask a designer for their recommendations. In Palm Beach, I worked with Javier Tovar who studied at Faux Effects International School.

I discovered this Asian-inspired curio cabinet at a W. Palm Beach consignment shop.  It is now black, high gloss lacquer with gold accents and is repurposed as a bar cabinet for our wine glasses. 

The two lacquer finishes that I specify are semi-gloss and high gloss, depending on the piece. Start your lacquer trial with a small piece of furniture to see how you like it, and then work up to larger, more significant pieces. 

A tired, old piece of furniture that is professionally lacquered can instantly metamorphose into a newer, younger-looking piece- consider it a “facelift” for brown furniture! Watch out… you may get hooked with this radiant transformation process. Lacquering pieces in white is perfect for tropical locales, such as Palm Beach!  

Xx 

Holly

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Have you named your house?!

With my affinity for foxes, an English painting of a running fox is prominently placed above the second landing in our front hall.  One of Fox Hall’s notable architectural triumphs are the two Palladian windows located on the same wall in the front hall.  It is one of the only houses in America with this distinctive feature.  The name we chose included “hall” and hence,“Fox + Hall” was a fitting appellation for our home. 

When my daughter Alexandra lived in England with her husband, both of their houses came with a name.  It was then that I realized that an English country house is actually required to have a name. The house name is used as the mailing address versus a house number and street address as we do in America. 

Create a name for your house or apartment and have fun with it! 

For two hundred years, our c.1803 house has historically been referred to as the General Soloman Cowles house, and it will always be associated with the house, but we created our own name, Fox Hall soon after we moved in twenty-five years ago. 

On the cover of my “Pearls of Palm Beach'' book is “The English House.” Their linen closet is filled with towels and linens embroidered with the house name, shown in the Darling Details section of my book. 

Not only is it delightfully dignified to have a name for your house, it is also a reason to have towels embroidered, stationery engraved, and a multitude of treasures created with the name and/or theme. From a doormat to a bespoke mailbox, tissue box, waste bin, ice bucket, butter mold, door knocker, and bookplates for your books, there are endless options! Create a name that you adore and that has a unique meaning to you, or has a historical reference. 

When we decided to name our carriage house, we took a family vote and “Little Fox” won.  The  same scenario for our abode in Palm Beach.  “Petite Fox” became the appointed name!

My embroiderer created a unique “Little Fox” design for the linens at our carriage house. 

Grandmillennial Tip:

Using the name of your house can be used to personalize gifts you give to others. We filmed the pilot TV show for my public television series in a stunning house in West Hartford, Connecticut. The owners gave me a limoge box as a memento gift which has a rendering of the house on the front and the house name they created, Eyrie Knoll, on the back. I smile at the memory it brings whenever I see it! 

What is your house name?!

Xx 

Holly

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Is Holly Holden a "dress" designer or an "interior" designer?

This was taken as we were filming an episode of my PBS series in the Drawing Room at Highclere Castle, aka Downton Abby. As a designer, I was enamored with the silk damask wall upholstery, matching curtains and stunning tassels, all of which were a gift to the 5th Countess of Carnarvon by her father, Alfred de Rothschild.

Photo credit: Deb Key

Storytime… a mini peek about me, so pour a cup of tea!

Quite often, I am asked “when and why” I began to design dresses, especially since my business is interior design. Well, it is probably not what you think- I have been designing dresses for longer than you may imagine. Here is my story: 

My darling Daddy, whom I loved and adored, died suddenly from a heart attack when I was sixteen… I was devastated. On top of that challenge, my Mum did not have access to any money in the bank for over six months because of a mistake the bank made. I never understood why,  but it happened, and she was too proud to let her family help us. 

During that time, I was invited to dances, debuts, and cotillions, which required a long and short party dress wardrobe. It was time to make lemonade out of lemons!

Our neighbor knew how to sew, so I asked her to teach me. As a novice, I thought it would be “easy peasy.”  “I’ll start with a dress,” right? I worked diligently on the pretty pink (a given!)  silk fabric. I never thought to try it on until I finished inserting the final touch: the gosh-darn zipper. I was so proud and excited until… I tried it on. “Dolly-size” comes to mind; that is how small the neck was! Live and learn. 

Practice, practice… before long, I could make a skirt in an hour and a long gown in a day. I added grosgrain ribbon embellishments and a small bow to the back of my creations. I adored going to the fabric store, choosing the fabric and decorative ribbon details, and creating my signature “Holly” designs. 

A Christmas article for Town & Country magazine at The Homestead in Hot Springs, Virginia featured my daughter, Alexandra and me. I designed and created my black velvet and gold embroidered brocade ballgown. 

Then, as a bride of 21 on a limited budget, I continued my sewing creativity, from colorful saddle pads for my horse to formal swag and jabot curtains for our CT historic houses, to Lilly Pulitzer fabric dresses, and brocade ballgowns. 

When our three children were young, I started an evening handbag business made of woven grosgrain ribbons. 

Learning how to sew turned out to be a lifetime gift. When I started my interior design business at age 35, I knew how to communicate with seamstresses and upholsterers. I understood fabrics, linings, and trims. I studied dress and curtain designs up close at every historical museum, couture store, or 5-star hotel we visited in Europe and took notes on how they were fabricated. 

Between my business and busy family, I had to stop sewing altogether. But a decade ago, my sweetheart husband, Stuart, indulged me and introduced me to his Hong Kong tailor on a splendid trip there, and encouraged me to design dresses with him. Oh, this tailor could execute masterful details, just like the well-made suits he created! We then began to meet two times a year. I would sketch out my vision and choose the fabric, and his workroom would then create each piece with precision and flair. 

Maria Pucci of Gramercy Atelier discovered me on Instagram three years ago and reached out. We met in Palm Beach at the Brazilian Court Hotel. I saw firsthand her magnificent bespoke creations at her trunk show. Maria is known for her custom designs, especially for the Mother of the Bride, special occasion dresses, and jackets. Her classic designs and attention to detail spoke to me. I had met my twin and we just HAD to work together! Her workroom could create my dresses for a larger audience. 

So, in January 2024, we collaborated together to create the “Holly Holden Collection '' with some of Gramercy Atelier's signature fabrics and styles as part of the collection- a dream come true for me.  We designed 12 pieces which includes my signature dresses available as a ready to wear collection online at Gramercy Atelier’s website.

Our first parlay was the ballgown I designed as the Chair of the Palm Beach Salvation Army’s Centennial White-tie “Paradise Ball.”  She had a muslin mock-up made and sent it to me in CT. I  modeled it, and we made a few tiny tweaks easily over FaceTime. I sent the sample dress back to her workroom in NYC. A few weeks later, I received the finished ballgown in the mail. It fit me with kid-glove perfection! (See the video of my HH Collection below)

I named each dress after stylishly “generous to charity” Palm Beach philanthropists from the 1960s. My dresses represent timeless and classic designs and are elegantly chic and feminine.

Take a peek at the collection HERE. Various colors and options are also available. What a joy it would be to know you are wearing one of my creations! I would be so grateful if you would help me introduce my collection worldwide.

Xx 

Holly

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Holly's Secrets to a Memorable Dinner Party!

Mummy always said, Everything tastes better in candlelight!” And, I do believe it does! 

Some hosts have a natural affinity for hosting memorable dinner parties effortlessly. Within moments of arriving at a home, you know whether it will be a jolly affair… or not.

I was asked what two elements a successful host should strive to master: joyful energy and elegant ease! 

I realize how fortunate I was to observe my parents, who entertained constantly. We moved worldwide, and within two weeks, Mummy would host an elegant dinner party with ease… she had a gift.   So, by osmosis, mimic, and practice, I learned.  Stuart and I love to entertain. Several of you nudged me to share a few of our secret tricks! 

Moments before our guests arrive:

We savor a few cherished moments and sip a glass of wine in anticipation of our guests' arrival. This is not always easy to accomplish, as there are always last-minute details one must attend to, right?!  But, it is well worth the effort, if possible. We enjoy each other and admire the house's appearance in eager anticipation of our guests, before the party commences. 

-Stuart selects the wines and will always pre-pour some glasses of red, white and also, some pink champagne and then, places them on a table near the door so he can greet guests with a glass of their choice straight away. Or, they can choose another drink to bring to them. By having a few glasses pre-poured, it is seamless to offer a drink to an arriving guest. (Let’s get this party started!) 

Cocktail Hour: 

~ If a guest has sent flowers in advance, I thank them and acknowledge the gift when they arrive. 

-Have vases readily available should a guest arrive with cut flowers from their garden. 

-When receiving a hostess gift, I thank them and place it on a nearby chair or table. You only need to open it after they leave. Your job is to greet guests.

~Most people like to stand and mingle because  know they will be seated and stationary at dinner. Let them stand! Others may choose to sit down.

~People like to be close together; “herd animals” comes to mind! Let them be close!  I laugh out loud because the hallway at Fox Hall is rawwther spacious, yet time and time again, I find clumps of guests squeezed next to one another inside the living room and hallway doorways. This is a natural instinct. Let them be! 

-Turn the lights down exceptionally LOW, or turn them off, and light the candles in the dining room. Guests glow under candlelight! 

After you light your candles, turn the lights off or dim them so the candlelight creates an enchanting space to dine. 

~ To announce that dinner is being served, I go to the kitchen, retrieve the antique Swiss cowbell our daughter, Alexandra, gave us, and start ringing it as I walk toward the guests. It is loud yet charming! (In Palm Beach, I use my little red tinkling Salvation Army bell!) This tradition of ringing a bell always brings a smile and a sense of excitement for the next chapter of the evening.

Dinner:

~ Use place cards for your dinner guests or use my unique seating assignment technique.

~ PS Guests: Always keep a place card at your assigned seat; NEVER move it!

~ Have a tray of chocolates, candied ginger, or something sweet to pass after everyone has finished their dessert. It is unexpected, and most guests happily indulge! 

~ Invite your guests to make a wish! As we adjourn to the next room, I occasionally invite lingering guests to choose a candle on the table and blow it out. A few of them stay, close their eyes, and blow the flame while wishing; it is such a sweet gesture. (By the way, this is an important, non-negotiable tradition that our children and grandchildren take VERY seriously. I often have to relight candles so everyone gets a wish. Little Stuie IV insists I light it several times… for many wishes!)

~ If you adjourn into another room for coffee or brandy, at some point, serve old-fashioned cocktail glasses filled with ice water or Perrier to your guests.  Late in the evening, water is always appreciated.

Departure:

~ If you have additional cookies or sweets, wrap them up (preferably have this done before your party) and give them to your guests upon departure. 

~ Always walk your guests to the door or elevator to say goodbye.  If it is a single lady or elderly guest, the host should accompany them to the car.  

Nighty-Night!

Take a moment to relish the evening before you go to bed.  If you have staff to clean the dishes, lovely, but if not, do them in the morning. End your evening with happiness in your heart before you collapse into bed and count your blessings! 

Xx 

Holly 

Avert Dinner Party Dilemmas: Ask your guests this question!

My carrot soup with fresh ginger makes an easy first course to serve and is a perfect option for any vegetarian guest. 

Many years ago, in my entertaining roster of memories, I learned a valuable lesson, one I wish to pass along to you!  When you invite guests to your house for dinner (or any meal for that matter), once they accept, I urge you to then ask them “THE question”: 

“Do you have any food allergies or dislikes?!”

Oh boy, I learned this the hard way. At one of our first big dinner parties Stuart and I hosted years ago, I made my foolproof beef tenderloin with a bearnaise sauce… divine, right? Well, JUST as our ten guests were seated at the table and dinner was being served, one couple announced that they were vegetarians! Really? Why did they not advise me of this when they accepted my invitation? It is the guest’s responsibility to tell the host.

What did I do? It just so happened that I had a box of organic butternut squash soup. (Adding a few red pepper flakes and a dash of Madeira wine, it tastes delicious… in a pinch!) I asked our server to warm up the soup and serve it to them. Phew, my “hostess dilemma” was diverted. From that day on, I always ask the guests “THE question” once they accept my invitation. 

Once, I was planning to serve my chicken cordon bleu recipe, which is rolled in a mustard and sour cream sauce and then breaded. I found out that one of my guests was allergic to mustard… go figure, mustard?! (No cordon bleu for you- change of menu!)  One only knows what allergies someone has if they ask, or if the guest offers to share with the host in advance. 

I would rather know if someone doesn't like something, too. If you don’t like lamb or lima beans, you are probably not going to tell me that in advance unless I ask you. Once I know your dislikes, I can try to accommodate and change the menu. 

GrandMillenial Tips:

~It is your responsibility as a guest to tell your host if you have allergies or are vegetarian, etc.  The purpose of their invitation is for you to have a most enjoyable experience.

~It is a good idea to have a vegetarian, quick and easy backup to serve.For example, a baked squash or additional vegetables….or, you can always just give a double portion of your mashed potatoes!

Here is one of my secret go-to recipes for an hors d’oeuvres:

~Many people now have wheat or gluten allergies, so I substitute bread rounds with cucumber rounds for one of my favorite, one-bite, passed hors d’oeuvres.  I thinly slice the cucumber rounds, spread them with chive Boursin cheese, place a piece of smoked salmon on top, along with a few capers on top of the salmon (and a tiny sprig of fresh dill if I have it).  Ladies love it because cucumbers have fewer calories than bread. It is always a winner!

I hope you will forward this to your darling friends and family.  By asking guests about allergies or food dislikes in advance, it may save you, and your guests too, from an uncomfortable and unnecessary “sticky situation.” 

Allergies or not, what host doesn’t love a party that is joyful, seamless, and filled with merriment for their guests? Cheers to that!

Xx 

Holly