Easy Holiday Recipe: Little Cheese Blintzes

Christmas is coming! Karen, Miss Charlotte, and I  made these little cinnamon cheese blintzes a week before our grandson, R. Stuart Holden, IV, was born... and we just celebrated his fourth birthday!  We will make some this week, freeze them, and bake them on Christmas morning.  They are a yummy nibble to enjoy as we open presents (and we are indeed up early with little grandchildren!) before Christmas breakfast is served.  Note: These complement a glass of Christmas champagne too!

You will need the following:
1 loaf of white bread (about 20 slices) with the crust removed
12 oz. softened cream cheese
1 1/2 tsp. vanilla
1 egg yolk
Optional: 1/4 tsp. almond extract
1 1/3 sticks of softened butter
3/4 cup sugar mixed with 1/4 cup cinnamon

To-Do:
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees.
Flatten the bread until thin with a rolling pin.
Cream together the cream cheese, vanilla, and egg yolk (and almond extract if you choose).
Spread the cheese mixture onto the bread.
Roll the bread tightly and cut it into quarters.
Melt the butter.
Roll the bread pieces into the butter, followed by the sugar mixture.
Heat, covered, for 15 minutes, and uncovered for five more minutes.
Serve warm!
 

Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas!  I  wish you days filled with joy and happiness. 

Xx 

Holly

My Paradise Ball Recap!

As guests entered the Grand Ballroom, they were greeted with a spectacular candy table! It was kindly donated by one of my fellow Salvation Army Ambassadors, sweet Suzanne Mott Dansby, and created by her designer in Atlanta, Mr. Don Chestnut.  Photo source: CAPEHART PHOTOGRAPHY, Palm Beach.

The Paradise Ball was a grand and glorious tribute to the Salvation Army of Palm Beach County’s 100th anniversary, since 1922! The Salvation Army, located in 131 countries and in every zip code in America, marches to the drum of love, and their politics are that of kindness… both much needed in our world today. 

Having surprise elements at any party contributes to a festive and memorable experience for guests.  Our group of darling synchronized swimmers posed with their white parasols, in their retro pink suits and flowered caps, alongside the pool.  Halfway through the cocktail hour, they slipped into the pool for a stunning performance to classic Sinatra songs. The swimmers were the brilliant idea of Susan Cushing, an exceptional Slim Aaron’s style artist, and party planner extraordinaire.  We loved creating this event together, and now have a lifelong friendship from our efforts! 
Photo source: CAPEHART PHOTOGRAPHY, Palm Beach.

The stupendously elegant invitations from Dempsey & Carroll, NYC, were engraved and alluded to a stately evening ahead: the essence of old-world elegance.  “Mrs. Post’s Paradise Ball” was the title of the event. She purchased the property for her Palm Beach home in 1922, the same year the SA was founded in Palm Beach. Marjorie Merriweather Post was smiling from above as the guests at the Paradise Ball reveled in “old Palm Beach” graciousness.” Gentlemen in tails and ladies in glittering ballgowns contributed to the elegant, jubilant, and PINK atmosphere.  

Not many people know this tidbit, but Mrs. Post adored acknowledging her midwest background at her renowned lavish parties with… Square Dancing!  We invited the Jr. Committee to practice their do-si-do’s, courtesy of the Colony Hotel’s ballroom, with a professional “caller” prior to the Ball. So, at 9 pm, the caller invited them to the floor, and after two dances, they were happily joined by the other guests! This is a definite must-do again! SO MUCH FUN! 
Photo source: CAPEHART PHOTOGRAPHY, Palm Beach.

Photo source: CAPEHART PHOTOGRAPHY, Palm Beach.

Our goal was to dust off the image of the Salvation Army and also rejuvenate it with new energy.  Farley Rentschler was my Chair of the Jr. Committee and invited the creme de la creme of Palm Beach to be on her committee… and energized they were!  (Farley is in center with the colorful Marchesa gown, and my daughter-in-law Karen is behind her in red, along with my son, Stuart, on her right.)  Patrick Le Tourneau, a Jr. Committee member, kindly brought his vintage Rolls Royce and parked it at the end of the pool for added "Mrs. Post ambiance!" It’s just hard to see it there with so many on the committee! I am so proud of them all. 

How elated I was that my Honorary Chair, the Duchess of Rutland, Her Grace, Emma Manners, came over from Belvoir Castle, UK,  to attend and support me. Lady Henrietta Spencer-Churchill, my other Honorary Chair, could not make the event, but was there in spirit.  Photo source: CAPEHART PHOTOGRAPHY, Palm Beach.

I was so thrilled to be the Chair of this celebratory event; it was pure joy to work alongside an army of dedicated and inspired people. This was their first major Ball, so I am elated that over 450 people attended! Because of generous sponsors, donors, and guests, the costs for the entire event were underwritten.

Photo source: CAPEHART PHOTOGRAPHY, Palm Beach.

The most important person I have to thank, among many others, is my darling husband, Stuart.  He was my biggest cheerleader and sacrificed our time together for a year. Thank you, my love.  

Xx 

Holly

P.S.  I received many inquiries about my Ballgown. Maria Pucci of Gramercy Atelier, NYC, and I designed my ballgown together and I love it! And, the white kid opera-length gloves were a kind gift from Cornelia-James in London.

White-tie Dress Code for Ladies

The Paradise Ball also honors Mrs. Post, who purchased her home in Palm Beach in 1922, the same year as the Salvation Army of Palm Beach County was founded. A double centennial celebration! Her gracious entertaining and philanthropy was world renown. She is elegantly dressed in this portrait, perfect for a White-tie Ball.

It is finally happening! After months of planning, and the joyful execution of three pre-celebratory events, The Salvation Army of Palm Beach County’s 100th anniversary, Paradise Ball, will take place this weekend!

While I have already discussed White-tie attire for men in a previous newsletter, a few of your inquiries prompted me to cover these additional details for ladies.

White-tie dress code for ladies:

The appropriate dress is a floor-length gown. If you always wanted to wear a Cinderella ballgown, this is your moment. Ballgowns and floor-length gowns contribute to the gracious old-world elegance of a White-tie Ball. Cocktail attire, semi-formal dresses and pantsuits are not worn. Think White House State dinner, or a Buckingham Palace Royal State Dinner. 

Shoes: 

Heels with a closed toe are traditionally worn, and not an open-toed shoe. Glass slippers? Doubtful! What about Dorothy’s “click-your-heels-sequin-sparkly” shoes? Definitely! Glittering silver or gold is always festive!  The most classic shoe of all is covered in peau de soie (silk/satin weave fabric) and may be in any color to complement the gown. 

Gloves:

Gloves are not required but are considered de rigueur. If you do choose to wear opera-length gloves, a bracelet may be worn over one glove, not both. Rings are not worn over a glove- and I doubt they would fit anyway! Remember, one may drink with gloves on, but one does not eat with gloves on. When dining, both gloves are either removed, folded in half, and placed on one’s lap, or unbuttoned under the wrist so the hand portion of the glove is tucked up inside the glove. 

Jewelry:

A must! This is the perfect opportunity to sparkle! Drop earrings, diamonds, and pearls, or other gemstones chosen to complement your gown will enhance your overall glamorous aesthetic. Brooches are worn over your heart, on your left side. 

Tiaras:

Tiaras (preferably inherited from the family) are only worn by married women or a bride. While appropriate for a White-tie event, they are traditionally worn only when the invitation indicates “White-tie with Decorations.” Although protocol has become more relaxed in America, many opt to wear a tiara to a White-tie event regardless.  

Hair:

If your hair is long, it should be pulled back or swept up in an updo. (Your drop earrings will have an opportunity to be seen and shimmer!) 

Evening purse:

Elegantly small in size, and in silk, satin, kid leather, or one that is jewel-like (my preference!). What do I carry inside my purse?

A tiny silver purse pen, two personal calling cards, lipstick, a tiny comb, a tiny powder, a tiny perfume, a safety pin, mad money (a $20 bill), and if space allows, a little embroidered hanky. My phone and eyeglasses never seem to fit, so my husband Stuart gets that privilege… one that he would gladly relinquish! 

What an honor to Chair the Paradise Ball! It has been a dream to work alongside my stellar and supportive team. This is a charity I truly believe in. Located in 131 countries and every zip code in America, the Salvation Army can be counted upon to be there in support of disasters and so much more. Each day, this faith-based charity feeds over 25 million people, including providing more than 225 million meals total and nearly 10 million lodgings. And most importantly, more donated dollars go directly to those in need than to overhead, unlike many other notable charities. Case in point: The Paradise Ball was underwritten with generous sponsors and ticket sales… thanks to many of you!

When you see the red kettle- think pink! Come and get involved with me. I am looking forward it seeing many of you, my darling subscribers, at the Ball. 

Xx

Holly 

What makes a proper dinner guest?

Do you need to sing for your supper? Oh yes, indeed you do!

As a guest, you are being treated to dinner, and your host is going out of their way to entertain and nourish you with their gracious hospitality, food, and drink. A proper guest knows how to acknowledge and show gratitude by being engaging and conversational with the other guests, as well as polite and appreciative. It is up to you to contribute to the evening by being charming with your conversation and joviality, especially if you want to be invited back! Nothing is worse than a guest who expects to be entertained or is a bore.  

Protocol for a proper dinner guest:  

Respond to an invitation within 48 hours or sooner! This affirms how enthused you are to attend.

Hosts go to great lengths to choose an invitation for an event. When you open up a stunning invitation, remark on it.  It is music to the ears of the hosts to learn that a guest is pleased to have received the invitation.

If you have allergies, food dislikes, or are a vegan or vegetarian, let the hostess know in advance of the party. This is your obligation as a good guest.

When you bring a gift to a party, do not expect the hostess to open it then. 

If you bring a gift bottle of wine, do not expect or ask for it to be served. The host has already chosen the appropriate wines to complement the dinner.

If you are unsure what the dress code is, ask the host in advance.

Know when to leave! This is paramount. You may think that you are the life of the party, but do not assume that your hosts want you to stay until the wee hours. 

If you are the guest of honor, it is up to you to leave first and say your adieu, so the other guests may leave after you. Remember, if your hosts genuinely want you to stay longer, they will convince you to do so! 

As a guest, take a moment to show your gratitude. Dinner parties take considerable effort to execute, so be the first to put pen to paper and write a meaningful thank you note (not an email!) to the host. Remark on specific details and efforts which made the evening magical and memorable.

Forbidden Faux Pas:

No-no: Forgetting to R.s.v.p. in advance of the party date.

No-no: Bringing a guest without getting approval from the host well in advance.

No-no: Changing your place card from where it was placed to a different spot on the table.

A host puts thought and consideration into how guests will be seated, even if it is a small gathering, so never be tempted to move your place card.

Grandmillennial Tip:

If you bring flowers to a dinner party, bring them in a vase so that the hostess does not have to leave her guests to arrange them. Having flowers delivered earlier in the day, or even the day before, is always a thoughtful gesture. If you do not know the color scheme of the host's house, send white flowers… a safe choice any time of the year!

XX 

Holly

Chargers: When NOT to use them!

For formal dinner parties, silver chargers are often used to enhance a festive dinner celebration at Fox Hall.

This is the week many of you will be setting a table for Thanksgiving! With that in mind, the topic of chargers came to mind. 

A “charger” is a plate that is more significant in diameter than a dinner plate. It is also referred to as a service plate or an underplate.  While chargers are used for decorative purposes these days, they were primarily used to protect the table from hot plates being placed directly on top of the table’s wood surface. They date back to the 15th century. Chargers vary in size from 11-14" in diameter.  

Food is never served on the actual charger. Instead, the dinner plate is placed on top of the charger.  Additional courses may be served on the charger too.  

Do you know when NOT to use a charger?  The dessert course!  A charger is permanently removed before the dessert course is served.

Chargers have become a popular decoration for dinner tables in recent decades and are made of various materials with endless color options. The most traditional style of charger is made of porcelain or silver. For formal dinner parties, I prefer silver because I think it complements the other silver accouterments on my table (candlesticks, wine coasters, flatware, serving pieces) and adds a hint of glamour. 

A charming “ladies' luncheon” was hosted in my honor as the Chair of the Paradise Ball for the Salvation Army in a very notable Palm Beach home. The hostess had a perfectly divine buffet arranged in the dining room, and as the guests entered the “party sunroom,” they were greeted by the pretty floral Herend serving plates at each place setting.

Chargers are often used to decorate the table for visual interest and then removed, as is often done in private clubs or restaurants. For example, at the Palm Beach Yacht Club, a handsome cobalt blue and gold charger featuring the Club insignia greets guests at the table. When a cocktail is ordered there, it is served on top of the charger. The charger is then removed before the guest's first course is served.

Chargers are rarely used in a proper English country house. My dear friend, the Executive Director of The English Manner, William Hanson, with his brilliant British sense of humor, summarizes the use of chargers: “They serve no practical use as you do not eat off one and are - frankly- a waste of money!"

At a White House dinner, a handsome gold-enhanced charger, created in honor of President Dwight Eisenhower, adds to the formality of the table.

Grandmillennial Tips:

I like to think of ways to repurpose silver.  My service plates (chargers) are occasionally placed underneath flower arrangements.  It not only collects the fallen pollen but also serves to enhance, reflect and frame the arrangement!

Pretty porcelain chargers may also be used as unique artwork by using plate hangers to create a design on a wall.

Consider using a charger to serve hors d'oeuvres. They are the perfect size for small gatherings.

A charger can also be used to enhance your flower arrangement!

Happy Thanksgiving to you all!  I am ever so grateful for your worldwide support and subscribership. You will be counted in my blessings. Gobble gobble! 

XX 

Holly

Perfect Punch: The “Secret” Holden Party Punch!”

What fun we had creating a video about Holden Punch! My darling daughter-in-law, Karen, convinced me to share the secret recipe with you.

It is that time of year again! The Holidays are coming. So, why not serve a festive punch?  Your guests will be pleased… as punch!  

My secret “Holden Punch” has become a traditional libation that our guests have now come to expect at Fox Hall and Fox Worth… and they are rawwwther disappointed if it does not greet them! In addition to having a bar, I find it easy to offer a punch versus a signature cocktail because the punch is prepared in advance, and voila, guests can also help themselves! 

Where did “punch” initially come from? British sailors brought it back to Europe from their travels to the colonies in India during the 16th century. Nutmeg was the most valuable product imported from there, and it was also the spice used in punch.  Because of that, punch became fashionable for aristocrats and the elite in Europe, and eventually in America too. In 1655, Jamaican rum became quite popular when brought back from the West Indies, and because of this, rum punch became favored in the Western World.

The word punch may have come from the Hindu word “panch,” meaning “five” and translates to the five ingredients found in most punches: sweet, sour, spice, alcohol, and water. This is certainly applicable to Holden Punch! 

At Fox Hall, Holden Punch is presented in a large, silver Revere bowl on a silver platter, along with a punch ladle. A floating ice ring with sliced lemons, limes, cherries, and even holly leaves dresses it up with a pretty garnish on top.

My ice ring, released from the mold, is ready to be placed on top of the punch before serving.

A traditional punch cup is just too small and dainty for my party guests, so I use my own rendition of a punch cup: crystal brandy snifters! When placed around the punch bowl, they add a festive sparkle! 

My punch bowl is placed at one end of the dining room table for large cocktail parties or on the sideboard for smaller gatherings.  Back by popular demand, here is my recipe!

The “secret” recipe for Holden Punch:

4 cups light rum (can also be dark!)

2 cups of brandy (your choice!) 

2 cups lemon juice- use “ReaLemon” in a bottle (even better, freshly squeezed lemon juice) 

1 cup sugar

½ cup peach brandy (or a scant more!)

⅛ teaspoon nutmeg (for tradition) 

Mix the above before the party in a mixing bowl or pitcher. 

When ready to serve, pour the mixture into a punch bowl and stir in 5 lbs of ice! Add the ice ring as a garnish and serve with a ladle. 

Add more ice as needed.

Note: This is half of the recipe. It makes enough for 35 people- double it, and it's enough for 70!  It is very similar to Fish House Punch. 

Grandmillennial Tips:

A glass, porcelain, or silver bowl can be used.  Another option is to serve the punch from a pitcher… easy! 

If you don’t have brandy snifters, use “old-fashioned cocktail” glasses. 

Make an ice ring in a round or crescent-shaped gelatin mold. I first line the mold with Saran Wrap because it makes the ice ring, once frozen, easy to remove! Then, for color, sprinkle slices of lemons, limes, cherries, raspberries, strawberries, or oranges in the mold, cover with water, and freeze. 

Holden Punch is indeed alcoholic and only for adults. For children, I serve sparkling cider, which can be served in a punch bowl too, or simply served in a pretty glass along with a cherry or two, as a special drink. 

Punch is also a festive libation to serve at ladies’ showers, club meetings, and even for an evening book club. It definitely contributes to a JOLLY atmosphere! 

Cheers! And, Happy Thanksgiving wishes to all of you! 

xx Holly

Soft Lighting: A secret to elegant entertaining!

The hall chandelier, along with five other large fixtures, were all candle-lit when my family and I moved into Fox Hall twenty years ago. Lighting the forty-seven candles necessary to entertain in the evening was a bit daunting, so over time, we replaced them with electrified chandeliers!

Soft lighting is an essential aspect of entertaining because it enhances your guests’ visual experience by creating a dreamy, mystical, and almost magical ambiance to interiors. Candlelight and soft dimmed light impart an enchanting mood that your guests will experience in the evening. The artwork, food, and decorative details suddenly transform from the expected normal bright daylight (which creates harsh shadows) into a more captivating and romantic encounter. Everything and everyone looks more attractive with soft, diffused lighting!

When renovating or building a house, remember that you can never have too many dimmers installed. Use them to your advantage! For lamps, install forty to sixty-watt soft light bulbs in lamps, or have a three-way switch to lower the bulb's light. Soft pink bulbs in lamps offer exceptional light to anyone seated nearby- an entertaining secret that ladies adore!

At dusk, my chandelier lights are a wee bit brighter than when it becomes dark. Once it is dark outside, I make a concerted effort to dim overhead lights more than you would expect because it immediately transforms a room and the guests within... in a very positive way! A key part of entertaining is making the effort to ensure that your guests are comfortable.

I will never forget the majestic evening when Stuart and I dined at Buckingham Palace in the Picture Gallery for the 75th anniversary of The Animal Health Trust. Princess Anne was the patron. The only light present at this intimate dinner was the picture lights gracing the momentous artwork hung upon the coral, silk damask upholstered walls, and a few softly lit wall sconces with silk shades... magical!

xx Holly

Charming Centerpieces!

Saddle up! I hosted an impromptu “debut-dinner party” to celebrate my new line of porcelain, the Equestrian Collection, with a few dear friends and chose a few equine decorative accessories to complement the place setting. (Ever wonder why some horses have a red bow tied on their tail? The red bow serves as a visual warning to other riders: Watch out… he is a “kicker!”)

Setting a table and choosing a unique centerpiece is similar to choosing the right invitation design: it sets the scene for a memorable party. Sometimes, I stop and look at a particular piece in Fox Hall or Palm Beach, which will then spark an idea for a theme for a dinner party. A sculpture, a piece of porcelain, or a unique decorative accessory, and I’m off to the races! 

The centerpiece is the focal point on a dining room table.  Flowers certainly are a traditional choice, but it can be rewarding to think out of the box to decorate your table with one pretty piece or several unique objects from around your house. The table can become a miniature stage; let your creativity soar. I am such an advocate for “repurposing” beautiful objects that you already own!  

When you collect art that speaks to your heart, your pieces tell a story and reflect your passions and hobbies, a justifiable reason to collect goodies that you enjoy seeing and using daily. (Horses and foxes come to mind!)  Almost anything is fair game to set the scene on your table, as long as it does not block the view of your seated guests.

Unlike a floral centerpiece, a silver sculpture is a stunningly timeless decorative element that will last forever!

Create a centerpiece that complements the guest of honor, the theme of the celebration, and the room design. The plates you choose should harmonize with the centerpiece. For the Equestrian Collection, I was inspired to use a horse sculpture, antique Staffordshire “huntsman” place card holders, and silver mint julep cups filled with roses. If I had enough of Tootsie Roll’s snaffle bits, I would have used them too!

Speaking of snaffle bits, forgive my unbridled enthusiasm! I am beyond excited about how well-received the Equestrian Collection has been. Thank you for your splendid orders. Please share this link with others to order today!
 

The Equestrian Collection: a premium porcelain five-piece place setting elegant in design with a modern flair suited to dress the table of every Equestrian Aficionado.  Life is a gallop and a dash!
 

Xx

Holly 

White tie Dress Code for Gentlemen

Photo credit: @bespokennotbroke

There is something magical about attending a White tie Ball!  An elegant, festive aura surrounds a ballroom when graced with ladies in sumptuous long gowns, sparkling with jewelry and handsome gentlemen, dapper in tails; an image that reflects a gracious, romantically genteel time. 

With the upcoming “Paradise Ball” celebrating the Salvation Army of Palm Beach County’s centennial, several young gentlemen have contacted me and inquired about the correct aspects required for a White tie dress code. Here we go!

A White tie dress code has been the most traditional “formal” attire since the 1800’s. It is also cited as “full evening dress” and informally referred to as “tails.”  

Our son, Stuart III, in White tie, escorted our daughter, Caroline, when she was presented at The Infirmary Ball in NYC in December 2002.

A proper White tie ensemble includes the following:

• A black tailcoat (with tails) and matching trousers

• A waistcoat (vest) in white cotton pique

• A white shirt with a white pique bib front

• White suspenders

• Studs with matching cufflinks

• A white pique hand-tied bow tie

• Black silk over-the-calf socks

• Black shiny patent leather pumps

Optional accessories: white kid-leather gloves, a white evening scarf in silk or cashmere, a gold pocket watch, or a black top hat.  (The “Putting on the Ritz” cane? Leave that behind!)

A fond memory: Stuart and I before meeting Prince Edward at a White tie ball in London at St James Palace, twenty-five years ago. White tie dress code has not changed since the 1800's…talk about timeless attire!

A black tailcoat features a pair of tails reaching the back of a gentleman’s knees. The black trousers, in the same fabric, have either a double or single stripe of satin or grosgrain ribbon along the two outseams of each pant leg. 

 The trousers do not require a belt, so they must fit well and have a higher cut at the waist so that the waistcoat (vest) will cover the waistband of the trousers. White suspenders hold up the trousers.

A proper waistcoat (vest) in white pique fabric (aka Marcella in the UK) is similar to a vest. It is backless and has a U-shape or V-shape opening in the front.  A single-breasted waistcoat is closed with 2-3 buttons, while a double-breasted one has four buttons.  The buttons may be covered in white pique fabric, made of mother-of-pearl, or with custom studs.  It has an adjustable neck strap to raise or lower the length of the waistcoat as needed.  The white waistcoat should be longer or NOT peek out under the black tailcoat. Well-made waistcoats may offer a loop that attaches to the waistband of the trousers so that the waistcoat will not raise, exposing the trouser waistband. 

The White tie winged dress shirt is different from the Black tie dress shirt, even though both are white.  The White tie dress shirt has a distinctive, inset “bib-like” front. (The Black tie shirt has pleats in the front.)  The shirt may have a detachable, wing-tip collar with buttons to attach it to the shirt. Some shirts offer a loop in the back of the collar to hold the bow tie in place.  The shirt cuffs require cufflinks to match the button studs in the front of the shirt. Traditionally, a  ¼” of the white cuff peeks out from under the tailcoat sleeves. 

The bow tie is the same white cotton pique fabric as the waistcoat. To be noted, the bow tie must be hand-tied, not “pre-tied.”  The butterfly bow tie has a curved shape to the bow. The other option is the batwing bow tie, which is straight, not curved. (I prefer the butterfly shape.) 

While “no socks” are the chic norm in Palm Beach, for a White tie event, black silk (or a silk/wool blend) over-the-calf socks are a must.

Proper shoes are shiny black patent leather pumps, preferably with a grosgrain bow, also called opera pumps or court shoes. The second option is lace-up black patent leather dress shoes. (Not my preference.) 

In place of a white pocket square, a white boutonniere may be pinned over the pocket on the tailcoat, but not both. (A white gardenia boutonniere continues to be my traditional favorite.)

If an invitation indicates “White tie with Decorations,” another level of formality is expected, with honorary medals, sashes, and neck badges worn by the recipient that received/earned them. I will discuss the protocol for this at another time. Decorations are not worn to a White tie event unless specifically indicated on the invitation. 

 No-no’s to know!

No-no: To wear a pre-tied bow tie.  

The white pique bow tie should always be hand-tied. (When in doubt, practice tying a bow tie around your leg. It is similar to tying a shoelace!) 

No-no: To wear a belt.

One does not wear a belt with evening wear. 

No-no: To mix and match any part of Black tie attire, suit attire, or a white dinner jacket, with a White tie ensemble.

My darling daughter, Alexandra, on her wedding night, with her husband, Maximilian. They are listening to a joyful toast being made to them at their White tie reception in Berlin, Germany.

To be noted, at The Paradise Ball, Black tie may be worn in lieu of White tie.

If you do not own a White tie ensemble and wish to rent one in Palm Beach, The Tux Shop Palm Beach is kindly offering a discount for a White tie outfit if you mention “Salvation Army- Paradise Ball!”  Located at 4550 PGA Boulevard, Palm Beach Gardens, FL.  (561) 626-8899

To purchase Paradise Ball tickets click here! 

Ready to dance the night away, gentlemen?

Xx

Holly 

Menu Cards!

When I hosted a ladies' luncheon for fifty in May on the verandah at Fox Hall, I chose to slip the menu card inside the top of each napkin so that a breeze would not blow it away.

With the upcoming Salvation Army of Palm Beach County’s “Paradise Ball”approaching, we will be designing a menu card. After the food and wine tasting have taken place, we can then choose what the menu will be on the menu cards. Having a menu card for an event elevates the occasion and honors the celebration. 

A menu card enables guests to know what courses to expect, which also allows them to know what will be served and to avoid potential food allergies. 

A menu card can become a keepsake for guests to take home, which is a good reason to indicate the date and occasion on the card.  It can also commemorate a guest of honor. 

Menu cards are printed vertically and are approximately 5" x 8" in size (give or take an inch in each direction).  My menu cards are a custom-made, 120-pound stock white paper with an image of Fox Hall printed on the top center and are 4 1/4" wide x 5 1/2" high.

Round edges on the card, which is a European touch, are an aesthetically pleasing detail.  Black is the most classic and formal ink color, although gold or colored ink can be used to complement the design on the card and the theme of the occasion too.

Menu cards can be placed in various positions on the table setting: to the left of the forks, on the butter plate (sans butter), on the dinner plate, or on top of the napkin. It may also be placed upright in a menu card holder which is similar to a place card holder, and stand above the dinner plate or the butter plate. For large charity functions, it can be printed within the program to be more cost-effective. 

Include the date and year on your menu cards as a memento of the celebration.

My husband, and two other darling friends, share a similar birth date in April with the zodiac sign of the Ram, hence the title "Rambunctious Rams!” As our guests adjourn from dinner, often Stuart will create a festive firework display that can be viewed from the verandah at Fox Hall.

This menu card represents a VERY memorable dinner for me at Dr. and Mrs. Paul R.C. Sullivan's stunning home. I was seated next to Jerry Franklin, the CEO of Connecticut Public Television. How serendipitous! Jerry and I ended up creating a pilot TV episode in that very same house, which led to my television series. This menu card is a “keeper!”

These are two royal invitation images I found:

Grandmillennials:

Menu cards, without the menu, can also be doubled as impromptu note cards. 

Remember, as a gracious guest, take responsibility to alert your hostess well before the event date if you have food allergies.  Nothing is worse for a hostess than finding out one of the guests is a vegetarian or has allergies after they have been seated at the dinner table! 

Xx

Holly

The House of Scalamandre: You are invited!

Exemplary trims from the House of Scalamandre complement the magnificent silk from their stunning line of Tassinari and Chatel. Photo credit: tassinarietchatel

The name “Scalamandre” conjures visions of interior design elegance.  When I started my interior design business in 1989, the one trade account I could not wait to open was with the world-renowned House of Scalamandre!  Besides their magnificent handmade French trims (dreamy) and their stunning fabrics and wallpapers (timelessly exquisite), it was their selection of exceptional silks that gave me visions of sugarplums and continues to inspire me to create sumptuous curtains, “palace-worthy” wall upholstered rooms, and the regal decorative details that serve to enhance and complement inviting interiors, the rooms you never want to leave.   

With that said, come, see and experience the enchanting House of Scalamandre showroom for yourself! You are cordially invited by Scalamandre to join me in NYC this Wednesday, October 12th, at noon, at the D&D (Decoration and Design) building, in their Scalamandre Showroom!  They are graciously hosting a lovely Pink Party reception, with yummy libations, which will then be followed by a panel discussion with Vincent Pennetier of Tassinari and Chatel, the exceptional silk weavers since 1680 (of Lyon, France), and me.  

Tassinari and Chatel have been producing world-class silks for over three centuries.  They grace the most notable palaces and residences in the world.  You will be treated to stunning visuals and learn the captivating history and present-day application of silk fabrics, the historical use of vibrant colors, and you will understand the charm of hand-woven silks… the appreciation of imperfections as an art form. Documentary fabrics with historic provenance have always appealed to me because there is an intriguing story behind the design, adding authenticness. Our informative twenty-minute presentation will delight your eyes and serve to inspire you cleverly.

Photo credit: lelievreparis

Following our discussion, the reception will continue, and I will be signing my interior design books, The Pretty & Proper Living Room and Pearls of Palm Beach.  I am tickled pink to be at Scalamandre in NYC to celebrate the world of classic design and prettiness with you. I would adore meeting you in person, so I truly hope you can attend!  RSVP here! 

It is my honor to also be one of the Keynote Speakers for the D&D Fall Market. For those of you “In the Trade,” please join us at 11 am, before the Scalamandre event. The topic, “From Castles to Cottages and Everything In Between,” will be discussed with a stupendous panel of world-class designers, one of which is Brian J. McCarthy, whom my daughter, Caroline, had the privilege of working with for five years in NYC. I can’t wait!  

Xx

Holly

A Diamond Tiara: The Protocol For Wearing One!

Her Majesty The Queen is seen here wearing the lovely Queen Mary’s Girls of Great Britain and Ireland tiara, which is thought to have been one of her favorites, passed down from her grandmother and lovingly referred to within the family as “Granny’s tiara.” It was a gift to Queen Mary from her ladies-in-waiting on her wedding day to King George V.

A sparkly diamond tiara! Who wouldn’t want to wear one?! 

A tiara is often considered the most prized jewelry piece in a ladies’ jewelry repertoire. Its noble history and elegant sparkle lend a stunning aura to any lady who wears it. There is something magical, majestic, and tres grand that a tiara represents. So, if you are tempted to wear one, you may want to be privy to the appropriate protocol:

~ Tiaras are reserved for formal events: a White-tie ball, an occasion of state, coronations, royal dinners, and for a bride to wear at her wedding.  

~ According to English protocol, diamond tiaras are only worn by married women or members of the royal family. (Most royals wear their first tiara on their wedding day.) An unmarried woman does not wear a tiara.  Hence, a diamond tiara brilliantly serves as a status symbol for a married woman, equivalent to a wedding ring. It is an outward display that she is married and, hence, not looking for a husband. 

Kate Middleton, on her wedding day in 2011, was lent the Cartier Halo tiara by The Queen. It was originally bought by The Duke of York for The Queen Mother, and then given to The Queen on her 18th birthday.

~Traditionally, a bride will wear her first tiara on her wedding day, which comes from her family’s collection.  Lady Diana wore her Spencer family tiara on her wedding day. (Quite often, the tiara is given as an 18th birthday present but not worn until her wedding day.)  Nowadays, however, it is acceptable to wear the future husband’s family’s tiara. The bride will change over to her husband’s family’s tiara, if there is one, once she is married. A long-established tradition is to have a diamond tiara passed down through one's family. 

~ Like the old-school “no diamond jewelry while the sun is up” rule,  tiaras are reserved for events after five in the evening or after sunset. (The exception is that a bride may wear a tiara at a daytime wedding.) 

~ Conventionally, tiaras were worn only in private residences (not in a hotel or public space), except for a bride’s wedding day. This rule has become more relaxed, and tiaras are acceptable at formal events outside of a private residence. 

~ A tiara is supported by a metal frame that is covered in velvet.  The velvet should be the same color as the lady’s hair, to blend in inconspicuously. Often, an additional braid of hair is added so that the metal frame can be sewn onto the braid to secure it.

~A tiara only covers half of the head because it is semi-circular, whereas a crown is circular and covers the whole head. 

As an interesting aside, Meghan Markle can no longer wear a tiara for diplomatic and royal functions since she’s relinquished her royal duties and no longer has the HRH title. And, I read that Queen Mary wore a tiara when she dined in private with her husband, George V.  While candlelight enhances the dinner table, I imagine dinner tastes even better with diamonds overhead! 

Grandmillennial Tip: 

If you do not own a tiara and are attending a formal event, consider using your diamond brooch to pull back your hair or embellish an updo, but ensure the jewels are well secured into your hair, so they do not fall out while dancing!

Xx

Holly

Opera-Length Evening Gloves- A White-Tie Event!

A pinnacle of regal elegance, HM The Queen, remains in our hearts worldwide.

As the Chair of the upcoming Salvation Army of Palm Beach County’s “Paradise Ball,” a centennial celebration this December, I have received several questions about the appropriate attire for a White-tie Ball. White-tie has been around for centuries and is the most formal dress code. 

For ladies, a floor-length evening gown and jewels are appropriate, and for gentlemen, a black jacket with tails (tails reach the back of the knees), accompanied by a white tie. (As an alternative to tails, a black tie tuxedo may be worn but is considered less formal.) I will address attire details at a later date.  

Let’s discuss opera-length gloves! Opera-length gloves are de rigueur for a White-tie event. They reach over the elbow and are the epitome of formal elegance. 

Ever since Queen Elizabeth II’s honeymoon, Cornelia James, who holds a Royal Warrant, made her gloves for over 70 years. I had the brilliant honor of speaking with Mr. Lawson, the MD of Business at Cornelia James, and his mother, Genevieve James, Creative Director and the daughter of Cornelia James. (She wrote this recent article about The Queen)

Opera-length gloves can be in leather, silk, or satin.  The most traditional, and my preference, are the very elegant, “white leather, full-length opera gloves with mousquetaire.” 

When our youngest daughter Caroline (in white) made her debut at The Infirmary Ball in New York City, it was a few days before Christmas. It was a magical evening with family and friends who came from afar to celebrate with us! It was the perfect occasion to wear opera-length gloves.

Here are a few etiquette guidelines you may wish to be privy to when wearing opera-length gloves:

Can you eat with gloves on?

Eating with gloves on, whether you’re standing or seated at a dining table, is not done. The mousquetaire “button” option allows one to unbutton the buttons under your wrist and semi-remove your gloves to dine.  Once the buttons are undone, a lady can then pull her hand out from the opening and tuck the remainder of the glove neatly up the wrist and inside the gloves.  

Alternatively, one may gracefully remove the gloves completely by gently pushing down the arm portion toward your wrist whilst pulling each finger until the glove slips off.  

If the gloves do not have the mousquetaire buttons, where does one place the evening gloves once they are removed while seated at a formal dinner?  

After you remove your gloves, fold them in half, and place them on your lap with your napkin over them. The gloves may be removed before being seated or at the dinner table. 

After dinner, one may put the gloves back on by first placing the hand in and working the glove up from the wrist, then gradually smoothing the glove up the arm. Try not to pull from the top.

Can you drink with gloves on?

Yes, it is acceptable to drink with your gloves on. 

May jewelry be worn on top of your gloves?

Yes, an evening bracelet may be worn over a glove, but not rings. (Note the photograph of Queen Elizabeth II above.) 

May I wear gloves other than the color white?

Yes, look at the color options that Cornelia James offers. 

Do you want to completely cover your arm with your opera gloves?

No, a bit of your arm should be showing.  So, if you have a capped sleeve, you may wish to rouche the top of the opera-length glove down a bit, because a portion of the arm should always be visible.

Do you wear evening gloves while dancing?

Yes, indeed! (Visions of the Ball in the movie, My Fair Lady, come to mind!) 

Should you wear your formal gloves when shaking hands or while standing in a receiving line? 

Yes, you may shake hands with evening gloves on, except when shaking hands with the President, the First Lady, or a high-ranking church or government official. 

When presenting your hand to be kissed, should you take your glove off? 

You may keep your glove on when your hand is being kissed by a gentleman. This is such a charming, old-world European tradition. I will never forget when my German son-in-law kissed my hand upon our first meeting… I thought to myself, he is a keeper. And he is! 

Grandmillennial Tips: 

It is important to have the gloves fit your hand and your arm perfectly, therefore it is best to have bespoke gloves. They are a timeless investment. Mr. Lawson kindly offered a 10% discount link to those ordering bespoke gloves. The measuring chart is below. The turnaround time is under two weeks at Cornelia James.

More detailed instructions on how to measure HERE.

It is such a delight to discuss various aspects of old-world elegance, a gracious time when gentle manners mattered.

Xx

Holly

The New York Social Diary- David P. Columbia!

Looking as dapper as ever, David Patrick Columbia embodies the essence of New York society with his clever wit and positive attitude.

Who is the mastermind behind THE New York Social Diary? 

I found out firsthand that David P. Columbia is a genius at storytelling. Imagine that! Our interview lasted two hours, but it felt like two minutes! 

The nature of social journalism is people interested in other people!  In 2000, David Patrick Columbia (DPC) created his legendary weekly online newsletter, the New York Social Diary (NYSD), where he cleverly chronicles NYC's social, historical, and cultural life, because people have aspirations and want to be inspired! There is a fine line between having a gossip publication and a socially informative one, the latter of which is the essence of NYSD. David’s writing is like fine wine. It tastes like velvet with subtle but complex nuances, with just the right touch of intrigue.  With one sip, you’ll only want more!  

Holly: I admire how you do not disparage people in NYSD.

There is a fine line between a gossip publication and a socially informative one. The latter is the reputation of NYSD.

David: If it is an interview, I ask questions… anything I want to ask. But if I am invited as a guest to your table, and I really don’t know you, I do not intrude on your privacy with any questions.

This is the team that created the New York Social Diary, Jeff Hirsch and David P. Columbia. They have been working together for over twenty-four years!

Holly:  Given all the brilliant parties you have attended in your life, does one sparkle in your memory bank more than any of the others?

David: One of the greatest dinner parties that I have ever attended in my life was hosted by Edie Goetz in LA.  Why?  Because it was perfect in every way!   Edith “Edie” Mayer Goetz hosted legendary dinners at her ‘Holmby Hills’ mansion, which was the epicenter of Hollywood for over twenty years. She was the “Queen of Hollywood!” The saying was, “What Edie wants, Edie gets!” Her father, Louis B. Mayer, built MGM into the most prestigious studio during Hollywood's golden age. Her sister, Irene, married Gone With the Wind producer and studio executive, David O. Selznick. And Edie's husband, Bill, ran 20th Century Fox and then Universal-International.

Holly: I read that Edie had over sixty Impressionist paintings, which echoed the smooth elegance of her persona. 

David:  Edie had a beautiful house.  I don’t know how many there were numbers-wise, but they filled the walls of her library, Living Room, Dining Room and entrance gallery, and bedroom. Over the fireplace was a van Gogh self-portrait. Actor-turned-decorator William Haines designed the pastel interiors.  She never discussed the interiors of the house, ever.  They were intended to look like her natural choices and collections. She created a very proper social atmosphere with staff and chefs, which complemented the elegant decor of her house. It was a beautiful environment; it was very, very special.

Holly:  In your eyes, what did Edie do that made her such an exceptional hostess?

David:  When you went to her house, no matter who you were, if you were invited to be her guest, everyone was treated the same, with the same respect and the same welcome.  At her house, everyone was treated well, comfortably, and equally. No one got more attention than anyone else, even the movie stars.  Everyone was equal.  Quite simply, everyone at Edie’s table was a guest of Edie before they were anything else. And everybody treated each other that way too!  Cary Grant was just like David P. Columbia at the table because we were Madam’s guests.   

Holly:  How did the evening evolve? 

David: Guests arrived promptly at 7:30 in the evening… you arrived on time! The food was perfect, the service was perfect, the timing was perfect, and it felt very easy... she entertained you. Drinks were served in the library. After drinks, one crossed the Living Room to the Dining Room. Dinner was presented superbly in a candlelit Dining Room that glowed all over, the food had the reputation of being the best in LA and was impeccably served. Her butler came from the Royal Household. They were not called Butlers in England but Footmen and served in all the royal households — Clarence House, Buck House, Windsor, Balmoral, etc. Edie’s staff were local except for the butler and the chef — those two were top of the market. 

Afterward, the evening concluded with a  screening in the Living Room. The screen was concealed in the ceiling until the process of screening began. It was surreal. Watching a film and sitting amongst the actors in the movie. And then, she said good night. Her sister, Irene, once wrote, “Entertaining became her career.”

Holly:  As a thoughtful hostess, ‘charm’ to me is an essential factor, as charm contributes to making your guests feel comfortable.  How do you describe real charm?

David: I learned early on in life that real charm is when people feel comfortable around you. You make people feel comfortable around you by being polite, paying attention, and being kind, even under circumstances where kindness is not the first choice!  Because I am “nice,” I have had many opportunities to see, hear, and experience. Maybe not opportunities to make a lot of money, but opportunities to move around and make the most of whatever I have! 

David hit upon the notes that I believe contribute to creating a meaningful life, including treating one another equally and understanding the essence of real charm… traits we admire and crave these days. 

Thank you, David, for this interview back in 2020 and for writing your clever chronicle about the social, historical, and cultural life of NYC. And, thank goodness, apres Covid, society is back in full swing! It would be lovely to you at the Salvation Army’s centennial “Paradise Ball” in December in Palm Beach! 

Xx

Holly

Grace: God Save The Queen

Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II was the epitome of GRACE.

“Grace” is described as dignity, elegance, and poise.  Her noble pledge of duty, loyalty to country, and quiet humility as the longest reigning British monarch, will continue to be revered and admired worldwide. 

She was remarkably hardworking, a selfless symbol, a genteel constant in this ever-changing world. She represented the essence of how one should conduct themselves. 

Queen Elizabeth II has exemplified “grace under pressure” with her principled composure and calming presence.

Good manners are about being respectful, and placing duty and others before oneself— politeness, respectfulness, and diplomacy. The world has been most fortunate to witness the long life of The Queen as a role model, leader, and guiding light of kindness and strength. 

There will never be another like you, Your Majesty.  You respected the crown; you made it sparkle.

God Save The Queen. 

And, Long Live His Majesty King Charles. 

Receiving Lines: A Lovely Tradition

Champagne signals a glorious and joyful occasion! A receiving line is a lovely tradition, purposely created for the host and guest of honor to meet each guest attending their party. It serves as a celebratory signal to commence the festivities.

At a luncheon I hosted for Lady Carnarvon (Highclere Castle, aka Downton Abbey), champagne was served to fifty lovely guests as they queued up outside to participate in the receiving line in the front hall at Fox Hall.

Do you think receiving lines are passe'?  On the contrary, I believe they continue to serve a charming purpose, relaying a stylish and gracious air to commence a party, especially for an event with fifty or more guests.  A receiving line at a reception, a wedding, or a funeral, is a brilliant and cordial way of enabling the guests to shake hands and introduce themselves to the hosts and thank them, wish them well at a wedding, or offer condolences at a funeral.

A receiving line is de rigueur (required etiquette) for most regal, military, or formal official celebrations. Quite often, an "announcer" at the start of the line does not shake your hand but listens to your name, which you enunciate clearly. Then, the announcer will present you to the host, to whom you shake hands, and the host then introduces you to the guest of honor or person next to them.

A receiving line at a glorious gala I attended in New York City to benefit The Versailles Foundation, Inc.

n place of an announcer, the hostess/host of the event is the first in line to greet the guests and will introduce each guest to the guest of honor.  Memory can fail, so no matter how dear a friend the host may be, kindly announce your name and continue to repeat your name to each person you shake hands with in the line.

A receiving line should consist of no more than 5-6 people.  As a guest, it is a kind and necessary gesture only to say a sentence or two while going through the receiving line because others are waiting behind you. It is not the time to have a conversation, no matter how tempting it may be! Instead, simply offer your name and a "how do you do,” and express your happiness to have been invited. Then, promptly move on to the next person in line, repeat your name and keep the receiving line moving. A lady guest will precede a gentleman guest when going through the line. When meeting royalty, ladies curtsy and gentlemen bow their heads.

At the upcoming Salvation Army centennial  “Paradise Ball” in Palm Beach, I am hopeful to have a receiving line. We anticipate 400+ guests, so we may opt to have two receiving lines. As the Chair, I will be in one, and an Honorary Chair will stand in the other. Each guest takes approximately 20 seconds, and the average time for 100 guests to go through a receiving line is 30-45 minutes. Therefore, ending the receiving line after 45 minutes is perfectly acceptable! And, if the queue for a receiving line is too long at an extensive function, it is apropos, as a guest, to mingle with other guests and then return to the receiving line if time allows. 

It is a thoughtful gesture to have an appointed person stationed at the conclusion of the receiving line to direct guests to where they should go for their well-earned libations! 

Forbidden Faux Pas

No-no: For a guest to have a drink or any food in hand when going through a receiving line while shaking hands.

What is done: A guest may place their drink on a table, usually provided near the beginning of the receiving line, before the guest shakes hands. The guest may collect their drink after the receiving line or order another. 

True Story: At my daughter’s debut coming-out party in NYC, a guest in the receiving line in front of me spilled his scotch down the front of my ball gown. No worries... I had a backup gown (always a good idea!), but fortunately, it was straight scotch; it evaporated before I reached my room to change!

No-no: For the host and guest of honor to offer a limp handshake or an unenthusiastic, no-eye contact greeting to the guests in the receiving line. 

What is done: No matter how long the line is, as the host or guest of honor, try your best to give the same genuine enthusiasm, smile, and firm handshake to each guest you meet, making the last guest in line feel as celebrated as the first!

No-no: To wear sunglasses while shaking hands.

What is done: Remove your sunglasses! When creating the placement of the receiving line, it is beneficial to consider the sun so that it is not directly in anyone's eyes.

No-no: To have a cell phone in your hand, and also to not have the cell phone silenced. 

Perhaps, now you may be inspired to have a receiving line at your daughter’s wedding or another function that you are hosting! I would love to hear about it. 

Xx
Holly 

Happy 100th Birthday to Salvation Army of Palm Beach County!!

Have you ever had an invitation to be in a “Slim Aarons-esque” photo shoot? Sounds like fun, right? And that was exactly what it was! Photo credit: Nick Mele

Hooray! It is the Salvation Army of Palm Beach County’s 100th anniversary! A momentous occasion deserving of a grand celebration. The Salvation Army was founded in London in 1865, and in 1922, the Palm Beach County location was established. Their motto is “Doing The Most Good,” and they do! 

As the appointed Chairwoman of the Salvation Army of Palm Beach County’s centennial gala, I am simply thrilled and honored.  I have a BRILLIANT committee to assist me, and we are eager to serve this stellar, worldwide organization. 

With the myriad of creative aspects and details required to plan a Ball for 400+ guests, I thought I would share, in a few of my upcoming newsletters, some of the tasks we will encounter and also, have accomplished.  From securing donors and sponsors to pay for the celebration, to the protocol of writing a letter to H.M. The Queen, finessing the wording on the engraved invitations (along with the explanation of a White-tie dress code), and obtaining exceptional live-auction items, I look forward to sharing these fascinating facets and nuances with you.  You will have a private peek into the planning and execution of this major fundraising event, which we named the “Paradise Ball!”

Susan Cushing and I had our first executive committee meeting at Fox Worth, my apartment in Palm Beach, to discuss our vision for the Paradise Ball…wearing the same dress to set the scene!

Let’s get this party started!  

The Paradise Ball will be held on the Tenth of December in Palm Beach.  I am grateful to be working alongside Susan Cushing, who is a dear friend, an Honorary Committee member,  an event planner extraordinaire, and owner of Espalier Events.  We brainstormed on creating a memorable, captivating, and convivial image for the “Reserve the Date” card.  We wanted to pique interest and impart a sense of playfulness while adding a hint of old-world elegance.  Slim Aarons immediately came to mind!  Who is Slim Aarons?  

Slim Aarons was a combat photographer during WWII.  After the war, he wanted to photograph beauty instead of battlefields.  He documented an entire era, from the post-war period to the 1980s, capturing the international elite, the beautiful, and the celebrated.  From socialites, movie stars, and royalty, he was an anthropologist capturing glowing images of the good life from a bygone era with his perfected environmental portraits.  His mantra was: “Attractive people doing attractive things in attractive places.” His many photographic books are fabulous, offering a visual escape to an insider’s view of a private world of old-school luxury…  a lovely thought to ponder in this day and age.

So, the result of our creative vision is what Susan Cushing cleverly orchestrated in the photograph at the top. It is a nod to the past, the charming world of Slim Aarons, and the first step to announcing the Ball. It was shot in Palm Beach by a stunning pool at the home of one of the Salvation Army’s Ambassadresses.  Pictured are the fabulous Palm Beach Salvation Army leaders, Honorary Committee members, friends, and Jr. Committee Chair.  And, indeed, we had fun doing it!

With the goal of attracting more young members to support the Salvation Army, Farley Rentschler, my darling Chair of the Honorary Junior Committee, has invited the most fabulous, enthusiastic members to assist us with the Ball!

In the present world of turmoil, wars, and viruses, the goal of the “Paradise Ball” is to create oodles of funds for the charity while creating a memorable evening, sparkling with old-world elegance and filled with much, much merriment.  We all can use a dose of that recipe, right?  Oh, and the motif color… you guessed it: pink!  

To be continued…

Xx 

Holly 

PS

A brief history: The Salvation Army was established by the Methodist minister, William Booth, along with his wife Catherine in 1865. Today, The Salvation Army works to meet human need in 132 countries around the world. The Salvation Army is in every zip code in the U.S. serving more than 30 million Americans in need each year. That’s almost one person every second, every day. According to Forbes Magazine, The Salvation Army is the 4th largest nonprofit in America. The organization is ranked 2nd on the list of America’s Most Favorite Charities by the Chronicle of Philanthropy.

The Salvation Army of Palm Beach County has helped countless individuals and families overcome poverty, addiction, and economic hardships through a range of social services since 1922.

Pretty Needlepoint Pillows!

A needlepoint eyeglass case can easily be transformed into a precious little pillow! This case once belonged to Mummy. I had it inset within a border of pretty Scalamandre striped silk fabric so that it would continue to be a sweet memory for me in the living room at Fox Hall. It is such a darling accent pillow. You can finesse the canvas size for a pillow by adding fabric around it!

Do you know how to needlepoint?  With fall in our near future, summer is a grand time to commence a needlepoint project and happily stitch your way into the next season. And with that in mind, if you are a fast and seasoned stitcher, consider having a bespoke pillow made with your creation just in time for the holidays to either give yourself or to a loved one as a meaningful gift.

Needlepoint pillows are a timeless staple in classic, preppy interiors as well as in noble residences, especially when they are made by a member of the household. The design you choose can pique a conversation around the story of what inspired you to create it. They can also provide a touch of whimsy in a room. I devoted an entire chapter to needlepoint pillows in my first book, The Pretty and Proper Living Room, because I adore them that much! 

Fortunately, my mother-in-law and sister-in-law are superb needlepointers. Because I tend to start a canvas and then cannot stop, continuing through the night like a sleepless addict, I am beholden to them for having kindly finished a few canvases when my schedule was too demanding. Their stellar needlepoint abilities far outshine mine, so my work suddenly becomes a masterpiece because of their savvy skills. What a benefit that is!

My talented sister-in-law, Jessie, made an adorable needlepoint belt with Jack Russell terriers for me. When I outgrew the belt, I had it cut in half, inserted into some bubblegum pink ultra-suede, and made into two kidney pillows for the telly room.

A house with a few handmade needlepoint pillows is like a crystal ball, signifying a truly charming home.  Every needlepointer I have ever known has been clever, intelligent, talented, well-traveled, and gracious.  Now, that is a big statement!  From Princess Grace to Barbara Bush and even Marie Antoniette, they are all part of the distinguished needlepoint community.  And now more than ever, needlepoint is chic with millennials too! 

Just down the street from Fox Hall is the former home of Anna Roosevelt Cowles, the older sister to President Theodore Roosevelt.  Her daughter-in-law was an avid and very accomplished needlepointer.  A few of her needlepoint pillow creations still adorn the Cowles' house, along with a breathtaking carpet that she stitched, featuring the design of the Chippendale front gate that graces their historic home.  Can you imagine needlepointing a carpet?  Talk about being a devotee to needlepoint!

Lovingly made, these three pillows each have a story behind them, which I find to be a simply enchanting aspect of handmade needlepoint items.

I hope you will be inspired to take up needlepoint if you haven’t already.  It does not have to be a pillow or a carpet, and it can be as simple as a petite Christmas ornament.  If you are not inclined to needlepoint, you can embellish your house with the needlepoint pillows offered at Scully and Scully.  Their pink floral needlepoint pillows, the fox, or blue and white pillows are perfectly charming.

Grandmillennial Tip:

Have a zipper enclosure inserted along the bottom edge of your pillow so that you can easily remove the cover and have it dry-cleaned. 

Forbidden Faux Pas:

No-no: To have a pillow insert made of foam rubber. The needlepoint pillow is traditionally filled with down feather inserts.

No-no: To place too many pillows on a chair or sofa.  You want to have your guests comfortably seated! 

Needlepointing can create a sense of calm, a quiet time to savor.  And the best part?  There is a present at the end of your efforts with distinct memories of when and why you created your piece, along with a sense of accomplishment.  All of which should keep you in stitches, right?!

Xx
Holly

Simple Summer Food

Entertaining dear friends outside on the verandah at Fox Hall, during Summer evenings in New England, is a savored treat for me. (The fun peacock dress: Ala von Auersperg!)

Simple and Summer go together like peas in a pod! Nothing is better than the taste of summer. Endless gifts from nature are ripe and ready, especially in August.

My dear friend Susan confessed that she doesn’t cook ( I don’t believe her!), but her SIMPLE go-to summer dish, thanks to Mother Nature in Southampton, NY, tastes like a Michelin-starred creation! Locally grown August sliced tomatoes with a drizzle of homemade pesto, a slice of burrata cheese, and a touch of reduced balsamic vinegar, meld delectably together. Such a simple creation offers the glorious taste of summer. She inspired me to write about this topic today!

Short on time?  Just serve a few slices of ripe tomato, drizzle of olive oil and a few basil leaves on top. So heavenly!  

And, in the same breath, nothing can top a summer BLT with Bibb lettuce, farm stand tomatoes and crisp bacon. My Virginia friends stress that only Duke’s mayonnaise will do, while my Connecticut friends swear by Hellman’s!

Or, how about local corn on the cob, shucked, sprinkled with salt and pepper and some butter, and fresh herbs, wrapped in foil, and grilled outdoors? 

A simple lobster roll with a buttered grilled bun? Dreamy!  

With my grandchildren visiting us from Berlin, Germany, I was inspired to make my secret recipe for strawberry shortcake with my granddaughter, Felicity, for an all American “slice of summer” dessert. My shortcake shortcut?  Bisquick!  My SECRET ingredient?  Amaretto and almond extract!

First, we sliced the strawberries, drizzled Amaretto liquor (orange juice can be used in place of the liquor) on top, sprinkled sugar over them, and tossed, allowing the strawberries to then sit in a bowl at room temperature. 

Secondly, Felicity whipped heavy cream, added a touch of confectioner's sugar, and poured enough Amaretto in for that amazing “almond” flavor, tasting along the way (the best part!), adding more as necessary. We refrigerated the glass until we were ready to serve. 

Thirdly, she mixed the Bisquick shortcake recipe ingredients, while also adding the “secret” ingredient: almond extract. 

Felicity made six individual cakes by dropping the batter on the baking sheet. Best to have the sides of each mound touching. 

For dinner parties, this can be done before or during cocktail hour.  It only takes 12-15  minutes to cook at 425.  The key is to keep it warm until you serve it!

This angelic dessert is the essence of summer! The recipe is below. (The pink placemat is from Flying Sheep Country).

She chose pretty dessert plates, sliced the biscuit in half, added whipped cream and the sliced strawberries, placed the biscuit top on, and added another dollop of whipped cream and more strawberries with the liquid. I garnish with a few mint leaves when I have them.

A sensational “pink flower enhanced” summer view at my mother-in-law's Cape Cod house.

So, what simple recipe brings back summer memories for you?

Xx Holly

Holly’s Strawberry Shortcake!

To serve six:

Shortcake:
2 ⅓ cups of Bisquick Mix
¼ cup sugar
3 tablespoons melted butter (salted)
1 teaspoon of almond extract

Bake 425 for 12-15 minutes until lightly browned. 

Strawberries:
4 cups of strawberries, sliced 
¼ cup amaretto
¼ cup sugar 

Whipped Cream: 
1 ½ cup heavy cream
¼ cup powdered sugar 
1 tablespoon Amaretto ( or ½ teaspoon Almond Extract) 
Add more or less to taste. 

I use Amaretto, but also I often substitute Grand Marnier!

What is a cachepot?

One of a pair of my cherished Herend cachepots is in the Chinese Bouquet Pattern in raspberry pink. They grace our mantlepiece at Fox Hall and flank the English Staffordshire horse in the center. When the peonies and pink mountain laurel are blossoming in our garden, I adore arranging them in these cachepots.

There certainly is cachet to cachepots!

When my daughter received a cachepot as a wedding gift, she asked me what to call it for her thank-you note.  “A planter?” she inquired.  I told her it was a cachepot.  I’ll never forget the dumbfounded look on her face.  “A what? Mummy, is that one of your old-school southern terms?  Looks like a planter to me!”  Well, she is correct in the sense that it does hold plants!   The correct term is the French word, cachepot (pronounced as cash-poe), which translates to “hide a pot” and, in particular, a flower pot.   

A cachepot beautifully enhances plants and flowers and is displayed inside a house versus outside, as cachepots do not have any drainage holes.  A pretty porcelain cachepot will instantly transform a ho-hum plant, cut flowers, or even flowering bulbs into an elegant adornment for any room in your house.  The size of most cachepots are perfectly suited to grace tables, chests, coffee tables, and mantles.  Planters and/or jardinieres are usually larger and placed upon the floor. 

The more ornate a porcelain cachepot is, the happier it will be in a formal room.  Antique and reproduction porcelain cachepots often feature very delicate designs and have gold embellishments, which are befitting and proper for a living room, on a dining room table, powder room, or a mantlepiece.

And on the other hand, a cachepot with streamlined, modern, and even whimsical designs made of various materials such as metal, wicker, lacquer, bamboo, or brass, work brilliantly when displayed in informal rooms such as libraries, kitchens, or garden rooms.

The next time you pop a plant into your cart while at the grocery store, such as an azalea, daffodil, hyacinth, or even an orchid, remember, it will appear more glamorous when you place the plant into a cachepot versus the standard plastic or mundane ceramic container they are sold in.  

Buy in pairs!  A diminutive pair of cachepots are perfect to enhance a mantlepiece.  When filled with flowers from the garden, an orchid plant, a tender topiary, or a simple English ivy plant, a pair of smart cachepots are the perfect way to add symmetry on either side of the mantlepiece.  Alternatively, one long, narrow, rectangular cachepot can be centered on the mantle, in a bookcase, or as a centerpiece on the dining room table.

Square cachepots work best on a mantlepiece because they sit easily on the narrow shelf. This French cachepot from Bernardaud, and sold at Scully & Scully, is the Le Gobelet du Roy. It is a reproduction but was originally ordered by Louis XVI in 1783 and is decorated with friezes of myrtle leaves and wild cornflowers entwined with ribbon. It is 4 ½” square and 6” high, so it can easily hold a sweet little plant or flowers from the garden.

Grandmillennial Tips:

When purchasing cachepots, as with any decorative accessory, consider the color and design scheme of the room.  The cachepot and the flowers you choose to display within it need to be harmonious. 

Buy in pairs whenever possible.  A pair contributes to the symmetry of design within a room.

A cachepot, or a pair, is the perfect wedding or birthday gift.  They are timeless and extremely adaptable to any room, at any time of the year.

Other uses for cachepots?  They can be used to hold the silver flatware for buffet dinner parties, hide a scented candle, used as an alternative ice bucket, and depending on size, can hold a bottle of wine chilled with ice cubes. They can elegantly disguise just about anything that will fit inside!  Want to serve ice cream at the dining room table?  Place a pint into a cachepot to become the perfect serving vessel to disguise the ice cream container.

A hand-painted cachepot from Anna Weatherly features pink tulips and was inspired by the artisanal tradition of Hungary, where fine European porcelain with 24K gold accents highlights the design ever so quietly. It is 7 ½” in diameter and 6 ¼” high- the perfect size to pop in a store-bought plant.

Xx 

Holly