Porcelain wallpaper!

The Butler's Pantry at Fox Hall is adorned with various blue and white plates.  Mummy purchased the sizeable round platter over the door when I lived in Taipei as a child… it weighs a ton! 

If you, too, are an avid collector of various porcelain plate patterns, you may agree that one can always have more porcelain designs, from plates and platters to service pieces! It is one reason I created the “Equestrian Collection.”  With a penchant for horses, I wanted a pattern to use daily for breakfast so that I could happily “gallop into the day!”   

A Butler’s Pantry is a clever and efficient place to store various porcelain collections. The week before Lady Carnarvon arrived from Highclere Castle (aka Downton Abbey) to attend a luncheon at Fox Hall, the pipes broke in the laundry room above my Butler’s Pantry. Water gushed through the ceiling, ruining the cabinetry, floor, and beyond… not the best timing for a disaster to happen!

New cabinetry was installed. My vision for a replacement wallpaper was a “blue and white Canton porcelain plate design.” Several wallpaper samples arrived but were not quite right for our c.1803 historic house. So, I temporarily had the walls painted a Canton blue until I found an appropriate paper. A few days later, I discovered some old boxes filled with long-forgotten stacks of blue and white plates in a storage room… an ahh-ha moment!  I hung these unused plates all over the Butler’s Pantry walls as a faux wallpaper design! Voila, an actual “porcelain wallpaper,” was created and is SO easy for you to do as well.

Hanging porcelain on the wall offers a charming dimension and sheen. Pictured is the original "Butler's call-box.” Call buttons are in every room at Fox Hall, and arrows dance back and forth when pressed. Our children loved pressing the call buttons in their bedrooms, hoping the butler would appear. Me too!

GrandMillennial Tips:

~If you inherit an abundance of plates, platters, cups, and saucers, or buy them at an estate sale or an auction, think “porcelain wallpaper” for any room in your house, i.e., Powder Room, Laundry Room, Hallway, Kitchen, or Mud Room. Repurposing pieces you already own is always rewarding.

~Start collecting an assortment of patterns and pieces so that you can use them for different occasions.  Mix and match them to create uniquely bespoke table settings.

Hanging plates on cabinet doors adds old-school charm. My collection of Meissen cobalt blue plates and Mummy's Imari plates, previously tucked inside a cabinet, now give me great pleasure from their new “visible” location. Over the window are antique tiles that my daughter, Alexandra, purchased in England. You can mix and match patterns, shapes, and sizes as long as the color theme is consistent. 

~Plate hangers are available at hardware stores or Amazon.   

~I use a dab of poster board putty to secure my hanging porcelain, which keeps them in place. 

Extraordinary French decorative arts and porcelains are displayed in many well-appointed rooms at Hillwood Estate. 

Treat yourself to a visit to the Hillwood Estate, Marjorie Merriweather Post’s home, heiress to the Post cereal fortune, in Washington D.C.  Mrs. Post was an avid collector and one of Washington’s most exalted and admired hostesses of her time. Her Butler’s Pantry, filled with various porcelains, is beyond dreamy. Put this venue on your “must-visit” list. 

Here is the perfect gift for someone who has everything or a bride-to-be! Please share this link with friends, especially those who love horses! I am thrilled it is represented here in the Palm Beach Modern Luxury magazine. 

Xx

Holly

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Baby Shower Protocol!

What a joy it was to attend this stunning “Sip and See” celebration for the most adorable baby girl, my granddaughter!  It was held in a gloriously beautiful historic townhouse in Boston overlooking the Charles River. 

Your darling questions inspire me.  Here is one about baby showers!

“Mrs. Holden, my friends and I are in our late 20s/ early 30s and are entering the season of babies, which is lovely, but we can’t seem to find any “guidance” on baby showers and registries.  We are sooo excited to read your replies to our questions and are truly so grateful! Xoxo Mary Claire”

Here are her questions:

 Who should host the shower? 

Any member of the immediate family (especially the mother) should NOT host a baby shower before the baby is born.  This old-school secret code is still relevant today because it appears audacious, as if the expectant mother just wants presents, which is self-serving by having her immediate family host the party for her. But, if a friend (or a distant relative) hosts the shower, their only interest is to provide the bride or expectant mother with an opportunity to share this wonderful event with family and friends!  

Note: There is a way around this traditional rule of thumb! If no friends have offered to host the shower for reasons such as the expense or even the venue size required, and a family member wants to host the shower, they may ask a dear friend to act as the hostess in their stead and then, the immediate family member offers to pay for the expenses of the shower privately to the friend.

What is the difference between a baby shower and a “Sip & See” party?

 A “Sip & See” party occurs after the baby is born. So, then a mother or immediate family member may indeed host this event!  Gifts are not expected for this type of event, but if guests choose to bring a gift, that is their prerogative. But, who can resist not bringing a gift to a newborn?!  A silver frame with the name and date of the baby’s birth or a bespoke baby pillow or blanket embroidered with the baby’s name and birth date are all well-thought-out gifts.  

How far into pregnancy should you have the shower? 

A baby shower can take place anytime before the baby is born. It is really up to the expectant Mum as to what she is comfortable with, and this needs to be discussed with the hostess who is planning the shower.

Should we have registries for a shower? 

It is inappropriate to have any reference or mention of a gift registry on any invitation.  Here is what is done: The new Mum can register at a few places or simply make a small list of items that would be helpful and then share this information with the hostess. If guests wish, they can contact the event hostess and ask if there is a gift registry or anything in particular that the new Mum needs.

What is too weird or inappropriate to register for?

I do not condone anything too “personal,” i.e., anything to do with Mum’s body, like a breast pump or pads, etc.  Anything too mundane should be avoided on a registry, such as diapers, wipes, etc. 

What is polite to register for? And what are thoughtful shower gifts to give?

Baby clothes, blankets, sheets, toys, swings, a carrying apparatus, furniture, decorative accessories for the baby’s room, sound monitors, bath time appurtenances, changing tables, strollers, and car seats are all helpful items for a new Mum to receive. One gift I will always remember fondly, which was given to our firstborn daughter, was a handpainted bookcase. All of the guests brought their favorite children's/baby books, inscribed, to fill the shelves.   

Is a shower for a second child appropriate? 

If someone wishes to host a shower for a second child, heaven bless them!  If the mother knows the gender of the baby is different from the first, then it is especially helpful to have a shower in their honor.  For the third child (and on and on), I think a “Sip & See” party is more appropriate than a baby shower because a gift is not expected.

The invitation I sent out for a “Sip and See” party at Fox Hall after the birth of our first grandson.

GrandMillennial Tips:

~As the guest of honor, choose a meaningful thank-you gift to give your hostess when you arrive, and be sure to arrive before the guests enter!

It is thoughtful to stand at the door with the hostess and introduce your friends and family to her as they enter.  

~It is considerate to hold off opening the baby gifts until the dessert is served, or not at all. I attended a shower with over fifty ladies, and the gift-opening portion took over two hours!  While it is lovely to see what gifts have been given, along with the joy on the recipient’s face, I think it is rather cheeky to take up too much of your guests’ time when it is a large gathering. 

~A gracious gesture for the guest of honor (the expectant Mum) is to make a point of standing up once everyone has gathered to thank the hostess, as well as the guests attending. She can make a point of sharing how excited she is to have them be a part of her new child’s life.  Also, the hostess may announce that everyone is welcome to stay while the gifts are opened but will understand if they need to leave. 

Finally, it is paramount to write a heartfelt thank-you note to your hostess and pop it in the mail the VERY NEXT day! Write a thank-you note to each guest for their gift as soon as you can… because once your darling baby is born, you will be a VERY busy Mum! 

Xx

Holly

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How to decorate your mantel!

It is always a thrill for me to decorate the mantel at Fox Hall because, as I do, I wonder how others have decorated it for over 220 years.

Having a party?  Remember to embellish your mantel because the fireplace is the focal point for any room!

Recently, a darling millennial bride asked my advice on how to decorate her Living Room mantel for an upcoming cocktail party. Here are her questions: 

How do I decorate a mantel in a classical style?

Symmetry is key! Symmetry plays a key role in classical design. I like to start with a centerpiece. Choose something that is meaningful to you and also complements the room's theme.  Then, work out in pairs by flanking the centerpiece on either side. Continue to work out in pairs, at varying heights, to add interest. The length of your mantel will determine how many items can be displayed. 

What are the two key elements that adorn the Living Room mantel at Fox Hall?  

1. A pair of vases for flowers. 

Flowers are like earrings to a dress on a mantelpiece!  They will add a quiet sense of occasion for your guests. Cut flowers, either from the garden, a farmstand, or a store, simply arranged, will gracefully enhance your mantel while adding just the right touch of color.  During the Christmas holidays, evergreen roping, sprigs of holly, and pink poinsettias always hop onto our mantel, too!

1. A pair of candlesticks.

In the evening, candlelight on the mantel always adds a touch of magic. The flickering candle flames are the “fairy dust” that sets the scene for your guests.

What kind of candlesticks should I use? 

This depends on the room's formality or informality. I like to choose from either silver, brass, pewter, porcelain, or crystal for candlesticks. Traditionally, one would only use classic white wax candles. The wicks are always “blackened” on candles that are displayed inside the house. The unwritten “old-school rule” is that candles are meant to be used and are not just for decoration! 

NOTE:  Be careful not to have the candle flame too close to the artwork on the wall over the mantel, as the heat or fire could be rawwwther damaging!

What should I hang on the wall over my mantel? 

Conventionally, either a mirror or a painting is hung over the mantel. The decorative elements displayed on the mantel, specifically in the center, will dictate how high or low you may hang your artwork… so keep that in mind before you hang your artwork! 

What is the difference between a mantelpiece and a chimneypiece?  

Both refer to the shelf over a fireplace and the decorative framework that surrounds the fireplace.  In Britain, a mantel is called a chimneypiece.

Our Hunt Room has an apple-wood fire going most of the time in the winter. It is the cozy place for our competitive family backgammon games!

Take a peek at a previous newsletter here on “How to Dress your Firebox” (the space where the fire is) when it is not in use, specifically during the summer months! 

So, how do you decorate your mantel?! Here is a video on how I decorate the mantel at Fox Hall.

Thank you all for your thoughtful comments, suggestions, and questions.  I have the best subscribers in the whole wide world!  I am incredibly grateful to you all for inspiring many lovely new people to sign up too. I am also honored by my stellar sponsors listed below… take a look! 

Xx 

Holly

Crest Rings: They tell a story!

My grandfather, Major John Johnston Kirkpatrick, attended the Royal Military Academy at Sandhurst in England and served the British military in Tientsin, China. He was an avid horseman and polo player. He is wearing the Kirkpatrick crest ring on his left hand. While there, he met my Austrian grandmother. Her father was a diplomat advising the Empress Dowager in The Forbidden City.

While visiting Foxcroft School for Girls in Middleburg, Virginia with my husband, I had a flashback to my wedding.  My bridesmaid, Lucy Brown, who had attended Foxcroft, asked me a week before my wedding if I had chosen a wedding band for Stuart.  “A wedding band?” I asked. “Do I need one?”  “Well,” she answered, “Does HIS father wear one?”  He did. That answered that!

My British father never wore a wedding band; he only wore a family crest ring on his left pinky.  The thought of a wedding band had never crossed my mind… call me naive!  I quickly visited a jewelry store in Richmond to purchase a wedding band. Thankfully, it fit!

What is a crest or signet ring? 

Both are the same: a gold ring engraved with a coat of arms. My father, brother, and my father’s British brother, all wore the same traditional, oval-faced ring with the Kirkpatrick coat of arms on their left pinky finger. It has been a family tradition and I, too, wear one because my beloved father died when I was sixteen and it reminds me of him. 

What is the history of this type of ring?

Various forms of signet rings have been worn since 3400 BC.  In medieval times, members of the nobility used them to “impress upon wax to create a seal” on letters and to mark essential documents.  In the 14th century, official documents were required to have the wax seal of the King’s ring. It was considered more official than a signature … or a notary public embossed seal today. 

Why is a crest ring also referred to as a “gentleman’s ring?” 

People of influence and noblemen have worn them for centuries and they have been used to establish lineage and social standing.  Crest rings are typically engraved with the family crest, not the entire coat of arms or armorial shield. European aristocratic families continue to wear their inherited rings.

The family ring has only the "crest," not the entire shield or "coat of arms."

Any additional signet ring lore? 

Prince Charles’ signet ring is worn on his left pinky finger, whilst Sir Winston Churchill wore one on his right hand. A subscriber, Alison, from Austin, Texas shared this with me:

“Edward VIII wanted to break tradition.  He wore his signet ring in “the continental way,” to be different. The British wear the ring's seal inward, whereas the Europeans wear it outwardly.  It was arriviste of the Prince to wear it in the continental style as no British gentleman would ever have done this!”  ~The Real Wallis Simpson by Anna Pasternack

A portion of the Kirkpatrick coat of arms, depicted on my family crest ring, is a hand with a dagger and three drops of blood.  The clan motto for the coat of arms is, “I mak sikkar,” meaning, “I make sure.”  During the Scottish Wars of Independence, Kirkpatrick drew his dagger to assist Robert the Bruce and said these words.  The main historic seat of Kirkpatrick is Closeburn Castle, in the late 1300s.

Forbidden Faux Pas:

No-no: To wear a “faux or imposter” crest ring that does not belong to your family lineage. 

 What is done: To design a crest ring with your monogram, or wear one with the seal of a society you belong to, a college, a club, or something of significance to you, thus making the ring an authentic representation of you.

I cherish the family history attached to my crest ring. When you meet someone wearing one, realize that it is a peek into their past; there is a secret story quietly hidden within the engraving. Inquire about it. Surely, a clever conversation will ensue!

Happy Fourth of July and God Bless America!

Xx 
Holly

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Summer House Guests!

Spot on, right?! This artwork, “Departure of a Weekend Guest,” is by the UK’s foremost  British cartoonist, Annie Tempest. 

Summertime is the perfect time to invite houseguests to stay with you!  A dear friend asked me a few questions about having houseguests for the 4th of July, and my responses turned into this letter!

How long should I invite a couple to stay? How many days and what time should they arrive AND depart? 

The best plan clearly specifies what you and your spouse agree upon beforeyou invite your guests.  

It is always so awkward, but how do I tell my guests when to leave?

When you invite your guests, it is considerate to share an appointed time for arrival and departure, so they will know what to expect. Obviously, this is stated diplomatically! When inviting houseguests to stay in a country house in England, it is politely assumed the weekend is over after lunch on the final day, unless the hosts specify differently. 

How shall I go about suggesting this? 

"If convenient, please arrive around noon on Saturday to join us for lunch on the patio.  We hope you can stay until around 2 pm on Sunday, until after we have lunch at the Yacht Club?” If you are uncomfortable suggesting a time for them to depart, remember that clarity makes it easier for all parties to know what to expect. Do not assume your guests will know. You can always expound: “We need to begin packing ourselves Sunday afternoon.” Or, “We have a commitment later on Sunday; I hope you don’t mind."

A few days in advance of their arrival, offer some suggestions of what activities are available to do and then ask them what they would like to do, and be flexible! They may have had an exhausting week of work and just want to sit by the pool. Rule of thumb: don’t overschedule! Guests like having the opportunity to sleep late, take a nap, shop, or go exploring on their own (and do not want to feel guilty for asking).

Once you and your guests agree on the plans, they will know what to expect and what clothes to pack. For example: where dinner will be held (coat & tie?), if they will be playing croquet, golf, or tennis, or simply spending the afternoon at the pool.

Point out goodies for them to have: cookies, candies, fruit, and drinks. Sometimes it is nice to ask if they would prefer breakfast on their own. If they say they are early risers, then suggest gathering together sometime before noon. (This gives you both free time!) Show them where the coffee/tea is and how the coffee maker works.

Show them where beach towels are, the key to the door if you lock it, the wifi code, and even how to work the tricky shower “on-off switch!” 

What if guests offer to bring something? 

If they ask, let them! I think it lets them feel as if they are contributing. Then, suggest something that would indeed be helpful.  Nibbles for cocktail hour, a fruit salad for breakfast, or a birthday cake, and they can choose. Or, they can offer something else to bring. 

What if the guest offers to help?

This depends on you as the hosts. But, if you are a guest, and there is not any staff to help serve, offer to do something: make a great Cosmopolitan, serve the nibbles at cocktail hour, offer to set or clear the table, make the coffee, or pour the wine.

Another clever cartoon by  Annie Tempest!  Note the little pillow on the pink chair: “Short visits make a long friendship!”

GUEST No-No’s:

Do not ask to bring a pet, a surprise guest, or a child unless the host knows in advance and approves. And, if you break something, let the host know. Try to replace it or find something similar and have it sent that week to the host.  

Want to be invited back? Remember to send a handwritten thank you note  (NOT an email) within 48 hours of leaving your host’s house. Better yet, bring your notecard with you, write it before you leave, and place it in your guestroom or some place obvious for the hosts to discover. One and done!

I have two previous letters with even more thoughtful details for your houseguests!

A Well-Appointed Guest Bathroom, The Essential List!
What Additional Niceties Should You Consider For Your House Guests?
 

Guests are gifts you give yourself, albeit houseguests are a “labor of love” gift! 

An addendum Q&A about last week's topic, "How to wear a pretty pin," is located after my fabulous sponsors!

Happy Summer!

Xx 
Holly

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How to wear a pretty pin!

One day when I was heading out to meet a very important client in NYC, I came downstairs, twirled in front of my son, Stuart (then 18) and said, “So, how do I look?” I remember I had a pink silk suit on. He smiled and said, “Fine, but you’re missing something.” I glanced down and didn’t see anything missing. “What am I missing?” I inquired.  He nonchalantly responded, looking down as he was typing his homework, “A pin… you’re not dressed unless you have a pin on.”

What? I couldn’t believe my ears! He noticed that I wore pins? I mean he was a sport-o, the captain of his lacrosse team at Suffield Academy, and the last thing I ever would have guessed was that he was aware of this detail. Out of the mouth of babes, go figure!

Yes, I have been wearing pins since I received my first “big girl pin” from my generous in-laws for Christmas at the age of 25. It was a gold fox with a diamond on his paw… and he still hops onto my outfits. 

As a child, I always admired Mummy’s pins and my grandmother’s too. So, when I first put my fox pin on, like Cinderella's glass slipper, the pin slipped onto my dress and just felt right! That was the beginning of my penchant for pretty pins. 

Is there a protocol to wearing a pin? Traditionally, they are worn over one’s heart, on your LEFT side. Not too low, not too high. 

HRH Queen Elizabeth, II, wore a stunning array of pins. Look at some past photos to see how and where she placed them. And, a younger, international audience continues to wear pins as well. Pins are stylish… and not just for old ladies! 

Wearing pins as an attractive accessory, which has been done for centuries, subtly relays a “little insight” about you.  From horses, foxes, pink enamel flowers, bows, and bees, my pins are an extension of my interests and passions. 

Pins can add an amusing aspect to an outfit. Placing a bee pin to adorn the top of your shoulder, or a bow pin on a sash at the back of your dress is a clever way to wear a pin. Also, a pin can be a charming accessory on a hat. (Remember ladies, to adorn your hat on the right side!)

The term brooch and pin are one in the same. I hope to inspire you to take out a pin you haven’t worn in a long while and place it on your dress, a jacket lapel, or a party coat. Then, as my son noted, you won’t be “missing something!”

Xx 

Holly

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Amusing place card seating!

An impromptu luncheon for my “Forever Farmington Friends!” Can you spy any porcelain animals?

Giving considerable thought to your guests' seating arrangements for a dinner party can enhance their overall experience, and yours, especially when you place guests together that hit it off. Nothing like great combinations and jolly conversations! 

But, when seating a group that is not the typical “boy/girl” dinner party, or your close friends whom you know would like to sit together, or you are confronted with either a group of guests you don’t know well, or a group of just ladies, or just gentlemen, the art of diplomatic “seating” can be a bit of a challenge. 

Everyone wants to be to the right of the host or hostess as the guest of honor, right? And, it is doubtful that anyone really wants to be seated in the middle/center of a long table… which some view as purgatory! 

So, how do you seat everyone, and still make them feel equal in their “seating pecking order?”

Remember playing musical chairs? My amusing technique vaguely reminds me of that! Here is my secret method:

Prior to my guests arriving, I place one Herend animal on the table in front of everyone’s place, where a place card would normally be situated. Mind you, each animal is different! (I purposely place a fox at the guest of honor's place.)

Then, I write on a small piece of paper what each animal is, i.e., elephant on a ball, goose with a golden egg, bunny with an itch, etc. I then fold the little papers in half and place them in a small silver basket. (Note: I do not write one for the guest of honor.)

How cute are these origami swans? My granddaughter, Miss Charlotte, helped me set the table the night before the luncheon and made these swans (instead of my folded piece of pink paper) so I could write the name of each animal inside the swan! 

After my guests arrive, I take my guest of honor aside, privately, and ask them to kindly take the seat to my right, and that their “animal” is the fox… when offered to choose an origami swan, not to take one. They will understand why later. 

Just before lunch/dinner is served, I walk up to my guests who are enjoying libations in either the living room or front hall and ask each one to take a piece of pink paper (or swan!)  from the little silver basket and read it. This will reveal their “seating assignment animal.” I tell them, “You will now have to hunt to find your appointed animal on the table!"

Just before lunch is served, I offered the origami swans (which will indicate where each lady will be seated) in a little silver basket, to each guest.

This clever technique creates a jovial atmosphere upon entering the dining room as everyone is scouting for their animal! This technique works like a charm because THEY chose their own seat at the table… a diplomatic win-win! 

Grandmillennial tip:

If you don’t have Herend animals, you can use whatever you wish to designate the placement for seating. From different varieties of flower blossoms, various books, a collection of snuff bottles, and unique shells… get creative because the list is endless!

An adorable friend I have simply places her Beatrix Potter porcelain figurines around the table and asks everyone to figure out which one each guest thinks represents themselves. What a hoot it is to witness the negotiations amongst the guests: “‘I’m the little mouse with the broom.” “Oh no, you’re the sly fox!” “I have cute blue shoes on, so I must be the mouse in the shoe!” Such a clever way to commence a dinner party.

Xx 

Holly

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The “Hello Holly” addendum is after my sponsor list!

Holly's "Angel Cheese Crisps!"

My “Angel Crisps” are easy to make and so yummy that even my little blue mouse hops on the platter to be near these lacy cheese nibbles!

Impromptu parties?  That is my signature! 

Pulling a party together at a moment's notice came from years of experience.  My husband has a reputation for being the “host with the most,” especially with his business clients and colleagues in his industry. When customers were in town, he would often call from his office and ask if he could extend an invitation to his guests to come to our house for a drink before they went out to dinner. It was always good for business, so I learned early on to say, “YES, of course!”

With three little ones at home, I did not always have the luxury of going out to buy something pre-made or get ingredients.  I learned a repertoire of quick and easy hors d’oeuvres. 

Here, I want to share one of my easiest recipes! It requires only two ingredients. I can almost guarantee you’ll have both ingredients, so you’ll be ready to make these little, light-as-air “Angel Crisps,” instantaneously! 

Bear with me… I invented this recipe on the spot, so you may want to experiment and adjust your own version. Make a small batch before you have guests!  

2 Ingredients: Cheese and flour!  

Preheat oven to 350 degrees

Line your baking sheet with either parchment paper or use a silicone mat. 

NOTE: If you do not have either, the cheese will be almost impossible to remove from the pan, so, don’t make them!

Grate your cheese. I use medium to large grating holes. 

You may use almost any cheese: parmesan, pepper jack, cheddar, gruyere, etc. The harder the cheese, the crispier it will be. 

NOTE:  A soft cheese like feta, American, or brie will NOT work. 

Cheese:

Grate as much cheese as you think you’ll need.  

Angel Crisps for six guests:

I used 1 ½ Cups of grated pepper jack cheese (loosely grated into a measuring cup). This made about 16 or more wafers. 

Flour: 

I used about ½ teaspoon or a scant teaspoon of flour.  You can experiment to find out what works best for you.  (I once experimented with Bisquick, and now use it instead of flour.)

Put the grated cheese in a bowl and sprinkle the flour over the cheese and stir together.  This will lightly cover the cheese with the flour.  

Optional:

You can stir in whatever spices or herbs you wish, or just leave it as is. Some options I have used: red pepper flakes, rosemary, paprika, and black pepper.

Place teaspoonfuls of the above cheese/flour (herb) mixture onto the parchment paper/silicone mat.  The cheese/flour mixture will be loose, coming together when baked.  Smaller mounds are better. Leave space between your cheese mounds on the pan because they spread out once baked. 

Bake at 350 for about 10-15 minutes. Cooking time depends on the size of the cheese mounds. Watch them like a hawk because you want them lightly browned, not burned!

Once baked to perfection, use a spatula and lift them up and place them onto a paper towel to absorb the additional grease from the cheese.  Once cooled, place on a pretty platter and serve! 

NOTE: Cover them tightly with saran wrap until your guests arrive.  They are better crispy, so heat them back up in an oven, if need be. These can be kept in the refrigerator, in an airtight container, for a few weeks.

Ultimately, the  “Angel Crisps” should be a little holy…oops, I mean “holey,” so they look like lace! Bet you can’t have just one. 

I contemplate compiling a book with my effortless hors d’oeuvre recipes. Tell me, would that be of interest to you?!

Xx,

Holly 

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Amusing place card seating!

An impromptu luncheon for my “Forever Farmington Friends!” Can you spy any porcelain animals?

Giving considerable thought to your guests' seating arrangements for a dinner party can enhance their overall experience, and yours, especially when you place guests together that hit it off. Nothing like great combinations and jolly conversations! 

But, when seating a group that is not the typical “boy/girl” dinner party, or your close friends whom you know would like to sit together, or you are confronted with either a group of guests you don’t know well, or a group of just ladies, or just gentlemen, the art of diplomatic “seating” can be a bit of a challenge. 

Everyone wants to be to the right of the host or hostess as the guest of honor, right? And, it is doubtful that anyone really wants to be seated in the middle/center of a long table… which some view as purgatory! 

So, how do you seat everyone, and still make them feel equal in their “seating pecking order?”

Remember playing musical chairs? My amusing technique vaguely reminds me of that! Here is my secret method:

Prior to my guests arriving, I place one Herend animal on the table in front of everyone’s place, where a place card would normally be situated. Mind you, each animal is different! (I purposely place a fox at the guest of honor's place.)

Then, I write on a small piece of paper what each animal is, i.e., elephant on a ball, goose with a golden egg, bunny with an itch, etc. I then fold the little papers in half and place them in a small silver basket. (Note: I do not write one for the guest of honor.)

How cute are these origami swans? My granddaughter, Miss Charlotte, helped me set the table the night before the luncheon and made these swans (instead of my folded piece of pink paper) so I could write the name of each animal inside the swan! 

After my guests arrive, I take my guest of honor aside, privately, and ask them to kindly take the seat to my right, and that their “animal” is the fox… when offered to choose an origami swan, not to take one. They will understand why later. 

Just before lunch/dinner is served, I walk up to my guests who are enjoying libations in either the living room or front hall and ask each one to take a piece of pink paper (or swan!)  from the little silver basket and read it. This will reveal their “seating assignment animal.” I tell them, “You will now have to hunt to find your appointed animal on the table!"

Just before lunch is served, I offered the origami swans (which will indicate where each lady will be seated) in a little silver basket, to each guest.

This clever technique creates a jovial atmosphere upon entering the dining room as everyone is scouting for their animal! This technique works like a charm because THEY chose their own seat at the table… a diplomatic win-win! 

Grandmillennial tip:

If you don’t have Herend animals, you can use whatever you wish to designate the placement for seating. From different varieties of flower blossoms, various books, a collection of snuff bottles, and unique shells… get creative because the list is endless!

An adorable friend I have simply places her Beatrix Potter porcelain figurines around the table and asks everyone to figure out which one each guest thinks represents themselves. What a hoot it is to witness the negotiations amongst the guests: “‘I’m the little mouse with the broom.” “Oh no, you’re the sly fox!” “I have cute blue shoes on, so I must be the mouse in the shoe!” Such a clever way to commence a dinner party.

Memorial Day: Fly Your American Flag

It is truly an honor to fly our American flag, which hangs over the front door at Fox Hall most of the year, weather permitting.

Memorial Day: Fly Your American Flag

It is truly an honor to fly our American flag, which hangs over the front door at Fox Hall most of the year, weather permitting.

Memorial Day in America is a day we pay homage to our fallen comrades. Freedom is not free. Unlike Veterans Day, which is a celebration, Memorial Day is a day of thoughtful reflection over those who didn’t come home; the solemn cost of freedom.  

My father served in the U.S. Army.  He taught me how to respect our flag. Memorial Day is a day to honor and show respect to our men and women who died while serving in the United States Armed Forces. Flying our flag honors our great country and those who have served to protect it.

Flag etiquette when a flag is being hoisted up the flagpole:

~If a gentleman is wearing a hat, the hat is removed, held in his hand, over his heart.

~For spectators not in military uniform, face the flag, and place a hand over the heart.

~For military spectators in uniform, render the military salute. 

~Members of the armed forces and veterans who are present, but not in uniform, may give the military salute.

Flag presentation protocol:

~When the flag is hung vertically on a wall, window, or door, the Union (blue section) should be to the observer's left.

~When a flag is projecting out from a building on a pole, the Union (blue section), should be at the top of the pole.

It is appropriate to fly the flag at half-staff on Memorial Day, but only until noon:

This procedure is to show respect for the ultimate sacrifice our servicemen and women have made for our country, the land of the free. 

Why until noon? This custom dates back to approximately 1906 when an Army regulations book indicated the instructions for this tradition. Lowering it in the morning is meant to honor the dead, and then raising it to full staff at noon is to honor the living.

How to properly fly a flag at half-staff?

A flag should be hoisted to the top of the mast first, for a moment, and then lowered to half-staff.  Then, at night, when a half-staff flag is being retired, it is first hoisted back up to the top again, for a moment in its honor, and then lowered for the day.

The meaning of the colors on the American flag:

~Red: valor and bravery                                                                                           
~White: purity and innocence                                                                                     
~Blue: vigilance, perseverance, and justice

The flag’s 13 alternating red and white stripes represent the 13 original colonies. Its 50 white stars on a blue field represent the 50 states.

It is a patriotic sight to see American flags flying on poles along historic Main Street, Farmington.  Also referred to as “Charmington,” the village was founded in 1645. Main Street has been deemed a “scenic mile” by the State of CT and is a slice of our beloved “Americana” to behold.

Gathering family and friends together this weekend is a luxury we appreciate even more after Covid days. Enjoy every happy moment together! Attend a local parade. Observe all the flags around you. And, keep this in your heart: We live in freedom thanks to those who serve, and those who have died for our country with courage and integrity. 

To learn more about our American Flag, look here. 

With my humble and patriotic appreciation, thank you.

Xx,

Holly 

PS Know someone with horses, a ranch, or just loves anything polo, racing or showing? Please share my “Equestrian Collection” porcelain with them!

PSS The  “Hello Holly” addendum, in reference to the topic of Ultrasuede, is located below my wonderful sponsors! 

The ultimate upholstery fabric!

A sofa in our Palm Beach apartment, Petite Fox, is upholstered with a pastel peach colored fabric on the front side and a soft white colored fabric on the backside. When you enter the apartment, you just see the white backside, so that your eyes go immediately to the lovely view of the ocean, and not to the sofa! Can you guess what the fabric is?

Friends and clients frequently ask me: What is a durable, yet soft and pretty, upholstery fabric, that can withstand children, dogs, and food stains, yet will assuredly relay an elegant, timeless aesthetic?

Easy answer! Without a doubt, it’s Ultrasuede. It was first invented in 1970 as a synthetic ultra-microfiber, and now, some consider it passé. I think it is anything but… it is fabulous! I have specified it for a breakfast room banquet, club chairs in a library, living room chairs on yachts, an English Chesterfield sofa in a well-used telly room, and even for curtain panels for a living room in Bermuda.

I had our antique George III sofa reupholstered in two colors of Ultrasuede for our Palm Beach apartment. It’s divinely soft and allows a serious piece of “brown furniture” to have a whimsical and refreshed appearance. I don’t have to worry about grandchildren sitting on it with damp bathing suits or our Jack Russell hopping up on it with dirty paws; I can easily clean it off with a damp sponge and just a touch of laundry detergent. It is high-performance (400,000 double rubs!) and excellent for humid climates. 

Recently, we checked into Le Manoir aux Quat’Saisons in Oxfordshire, in the Cotswolds countryside, just an hour outside of London, and dined that evening at their Michelin 2-Star restaurant. When seated, I immediately admired the handsome dining room chairs covered in camel-colored Ultrasuede. Every detailed element at the magnificent hotel is sheer perfection… affirming my theory that Ultrasuede continues to be a classic choice!

GrandMillennial Tips: Ultrasuede Upholstery Ideas

For piping, use a contrasting yet complementary color to the overall upholstery color.

Note the white piping on the backside, yet the front side I have white piping to contrast with the peachy-pink. The top photo shows the contrast piping on the throw pillows. 

If there are decorative throw pillows for a sofa or chair, use a medley of colors for the pillows to enhance the overall color used on the piece, as well as the colors in the room.  Ultrasuede offers sumptuous choices of colors, from pastels to jewel tones. 

Think about designing a sofa or chair with full-width, horizontal stripes or vertical stripes, alternating two colors for the stripes. I did this for curtain panels, alternating pink and green, and it was darling! 

Using Ultrasuede in a light color, even white, to upholster a piece that will be well-used, is not so scary because it cleans up so easily. Additional cleaning tips can be found on the internet. Vacuuming and sweeping the Ultrasuede with an occasional soft brush will keep it looking happily inviting!

Xx,

Holly 

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Upholster the back side of your chairs differently!

The classically designed Dorchester Hotel in London has recently been renovated in 2023. The “Promenade Room” features my most favorite color palette- it’s a medley of heavenly pastels. Look at how the floral fabric on the back side of the chairs complements the carpet and overall color theme of the room, and the front neutral color complements the floral design featured on the back of the chair. 

Upholstered seating has been around for centuries, thank goodness! Sitting on a hard wooden chair for a length of time (my old school days!) is not quite as inviting as a soft, plump, down-filled cushioned chair or sofa! 

Upholstered pieces most often feature only one fabric. Yet, traditionally, French and English chairs quite often are upholstered in two different, but complementary, fabrics: one pattern on the backside, and a different one on the front. 

We were invited to Waddesdon Manor, a magnificent country house, built in 1874 by Baron de Rothschild and used as a “weekend residence.” While visiting there this week for a meeting, I took this photo of a tapestry upholstered chair- note the backside, as an example of two upholstery fabrics. 

A must-visit English country house: Waddesdon Mano

The next time you are tempted to have a piece of seating upholstered, I hope to inspire you to consider using two complementary fabrics. Of course, the choice of piping, gimp and trims, along with decorative pillows, will also add to the bespoke appeal of the piece. 

A pair of period French chairs in our Palm Beach home, “Petite Fox'' living room, have a backside which offers just a hint of whimsy!

For our George III sofa, I had the backside done up in white, while the front side and seat cushion was in pinky-peach. I’ll write about the “ultimate child proof” fabric I used for this piece in another SLL!

Xx,

Holly 

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Mother's Day Gifts

 Mother’s Day, for me, is a day to celebrate MY children because I am most fortunate to have them in my life!

I never had a clue about what Mummy did for me until I had my own children, and then I asked myself, “Gosh, how did she do it all?”  

I am so blessed to have had such an inspirational mother. The older I am, the more I admire her love and accomplishments. I adore my mother-in-law too! She has been a role model and the ultimate cheerleader for my husband and me. I hope to emulate both Mums for my children, and their children too.

Some consider Mother’s Day to be a trite “Hallmark card” day. Not me! I believe that this is a day to celebrate just being alive, because without your mother, you would not even be here, right? 

If you are in a quandary about what to give your Mum, remember that the most meaningful present is a homemade card or gift. Outside of that, here is a list of a few alternative gifts to purchase. And ladies, if your mother is not living, or if you do not have children, give yourself a “Me-Me gift”’  (what my Mummy called a gift from “me to me”) and celebrate the love that YOU give to others!

The perfect purse… fit for a Queen! The renowned Launer handbag was carried by Queen Elizabeth II for decades. While she preferred the larger size (Traviata) with a longer, bespoke handle, I adore the smaller Judith version. Stuart surprised me with a bubblegum pink one and it continues to be my go-to for Palm Beach. It is only available here in the USA at Scully & Scully on Park Avenue, NYC. It’s simply a fabulous bag! I adore how discrete it is… either you know what it is, or you don’t. No logos are emblazoned upon it- how refreshing. Learn more about Launer handbags from my previous newsletter here. 

HM The Queen is carrying her traditional choice for a handbag, the Launer Traviata which features a bespoke longer top-handle, which fits comfortably over her arm.

Breakfast in bed? What a dreamy idea! This white breakfast tray is a classic. It’s also perfect for a holiday house. Treat a guest by placing it outside their door with croissants or muffins, a pot of tea, and if in Palm Beach, the Shiny Sheet!

A Herend placecard holder is a precious gift for any occasion. It can be used as a decoration on a serving tray, under the blossoms of an orchid plant, on a sink by the soap, or as intended, as an actual place card holder. 

Pink and Pearl earrings- one and done! These earrings are timeless and without a doubt, elegantly glamorous. Pink isn’t just a color- it’s an attitude. These earrings are perfect any time of day, and quintessentially Palm Beach! 

Elegant gloves are timeless and useful, while adding to a polished look with presence. Founded in 1946,  gloves of uncompromising quality have been created by Cornelia James, By Royal Appointment since 1979, Cornelia James is dedicated to keeping the time-honored skill of glove-making alive. I adore wearing them when it’s chilly,  always while shopping! Cornelia James has offered an exclusive discount, for two weeks, to my subscribers… You and your Mum can wear a pair of gloves that Queen Elizabeth II adored wearing too for decades!  Use code KINGCHARLES for 10% off for the next two weeks. 

Cheers to all of you loving mothers.  You make the world go round! I’m especially proud of my darling Alexandra, Caroline and Karen…you’re exceptional mothers to my precious grandchildren! 

Xx

Holly 

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Kentucky Derby Hats

This magnificent creation, in magenta pink, is a  fine-straw disc with hand-made silk roses and spotty veil.  It was designed by the extraordinary London milliner, Rachel Trevor- Morgan, and it’s going to be worn by a very lucky lady at this year’s Kentucky Derby! 

The Kentucky Derby is fast approaching. Let's discuss fabulous hats! While not mandatory at Churchill Downs, they continue to be a tradition there, as well as at celebratory parties around the country! Even gentlemen tend to wear either lightweight straw bowlers or fedoras to this fashionable equestrian event.  

My dear friend in London, Rachel Trevor-Morgan, whom I admire immensely, is a renowned British milliner… and creates fabulous hats indeed!   She has held a Royal Warrant since 2014.  Her Majesty the Queen wore her stunning creations on many high-profile occasions.  It was a thrill to interview Rachel. I thought you, too, may wish to know a few noteworthy hat/fascinator facts for the Kentucky Derby, Royal Ascot, or for that matter, any hat-wearing occasion:

~How do you decide what side of a lady's face a hat should be tilted?

“Traditionally, hats always tilt the same way. The brim of a hat always dips over the wearer's right eye and lifts over the left. This is how we always make them. A smaller pillbox hat is worn over the wearer’s right eye. (Occasionally, we make them the other way at the client’s request.)”

~Which side of a hat is trimmed (decorated) for a woman and for a man?  

“Traditionally, a lady’s hat is most often trimmed on the wearer’s right, and a gentleman’s hat is trimmed on the wearer’s left.”

~Do you ever repurpose a hat?

“For another event? Yes, absolutely! I can think of nothing sadder than a beautiful hat that is designed for a special event being put away and never worn again. Here in the UK, there are events where hats are required and in certain circumstances, certain size hats are required. I am, of course, talking about the Royal Enclosure at Royal Ascot, where the dimension of a hat must be no less than 10cm (almost 4 inches).  Hats are also required for Royal Garden parties.”

What an honor to receive the gift of a pink, bespoke fascinator from Rachel Trevor-Morgan.  She is known for her delicate flower creations, and without exception, these are exquisite. I have worn this on two occasions and simply adore it! 

With the upcoming Coronation of King Charles III, which will be held on the same day as the 149th Kentucky Derby, I can only imagine how busy Rachel Trevor-Morgan has been creating bespoke hats! When I asked about the dress code for the Coronation for guests, they understand it to be formal dress and hats suitable for a church service or wedding, but that is not a direct quote from the Palace.  Rachel is delightfully informative about the protocol of wearing hats and more, which you can read in my two previous newsletters, Part I and Part II. 

So ladies, tilt your glamorous hats and fascinators to your right… and off to the races you will go in grand style!  

Xx 

Holly

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AND… I  would like to extend a personal invitation to the first person to purchase 12 place settings of the Equestrian Collection 5-piece porcelain before May 6th, with this exclusive “Derby link,”  to a private luncheon which I will host for them in either Palm Beach or Farmington, CT.  Unbridled fun! 

Derby Days!

There’s nothing like tradition… and the celebration of a true “Southern tradition” is especially lauded at the Kentucky Derby, the oldest running sporting event in America since 1875!  On the first Saturday in May, from Churchill Downs to celebrations nationwide, the “Run for the Roses,” a two-minute horse race, continues to be a bold reason to jubilate with friends anywhere in the world. Mint juleps, red roses, pretty hats, and magnificent horses… civility meets revelry on a grand level! 

When an invitation was extended to Stuart and me to attend the Kentucky Derby, it was a dream come true. I was jumping for joy! We boarded the plane, with a hat box in hand, and landed in Louisville, where the green grass along the runway was completely lined with private jets from all over the world.  Red roses, the official flower since 1904, and palpable excitement greeted us everywhere. We were spoiled royally, on every level, as guests of our darling Louisville friends, Ed and Carolyn Lewis, who generously gave us this lifetime experience! 

Photo credit: @KentuckyDerby

Attending the Royal Oaks Race (the day before the Derby) and then the Kentucky Derby, inspired me to create my Equestrian Collection of porcelain. From the snaffle bits (inspired by my horse, Tootsie Roll) to the red tassel design (inspired by the bed of red roses placed on the winning racehorse), I think the five-piece set creates a joyful table… a winning way to celebrate (with bourbon or no bourbon!) all year long.  

On May 6th, the “greatest 2-minutes in sports” will take place for the 149th running.  The 1 ¼ mile Kentucky Derby race record was set by Secretariat at 1:59.40 minutes at the 99th running. Who do you think will win this year, and how do you celebrate?  

For many years, we celebrated at Tom and Margah Lips' “Derby Party” in historic Glastonbury, Connecticut, by sipping mint juleps, admiring their springtime gardens, and singing “My Old Kentucky Home” prior to the start of the race. I wish I could have brought my cheese crispies on one of my new pretty Equestrian plates for their parties back then! 

Please forgive me for being rawwwther self-serving and promoting my own porcelain, but it is the racing season with Royal Ascot, the Gold Cup, the Preakness, Belmont, and in just 12 days,  the infamous Derby! As a lovely hostess gift, or to use at your own Derby party and for everyday celebrations, please take a peek at my exclusive offer here. 

Oh, I have enjoyed seeing the photographs you have sent me of how and where you use the Equestrian Collection, along with a few from your horsey friends too. Keep the pictures coming. Thank you!  

Giddy-up! 

Xx

Holly

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A Wallpaper Trick!

Such fun looking at the blue ceiling with Her Grace, The Duchess of Rutland, in our Chinoiserie-inspired Palm Beach dining room. Note the pretty peach blossoms on the wall mural! 

Such fun looking at the blue ceiling with Her Grace, The Duchess of Rutland, in our Chinoiserie-inspired Palm Beach dining room. Note the pretty peach blossoms on the wall mural! 

Oh, I adore wallpaper and especially elegant murals!  Do you as well? Handpainted murals can be traced back to the 14th century in China, where they were painted on rice paper.  As a designer, I am especially keen on specifying murals by renowned companies: de Gournay, Gracie, and Zuber. They are sumptuously divine in quality of design and historical references.  They can be, and rightfully so due to the quality of production, rather expensive… which probably serves to reinforce their panache!  An elegantly designed mural is rich with depth (versus paint) and will enhance an interior wall or an entire room. 

Would you like to know my little wallpaper trick? It is so easy to do and can be very effective for various applications.  After the wallpaper has been installed, take the leftover wallpaper and see if there is any part of the design that can be cut out and reused somewhere else.  Whether it is pasted on top of wallpaper that you just installed or applied on top of another wall, you will then create your own bespoke design!

 A clever installation of wallpaper in this room with the flowers climbing onto the ceiling.  Photo Credit: @themichaelmundy for @elledecor

I used my wallpaper trick when we first purchased “Petite Fox,” our pied-a-terre in Palm Beach, which was a plain white, bland modern space. (But what it lacked in character and warmth was made up for by the simply spectacular view of the ocean!)  I could not wait to design this blank canvas.

A “before” picture of Petite Fox. Here, our Chinoiserie-inspired chandelier was just installed, and a few pieces of the crown moulding had been delivered

For the dining room, I designed a bespoke wooden pagoda, in a peach color. The white Chinese Chippendale fretwork was created to be placed on top of mirrors to embellish the dining room walls.  I purposely left a portion of the wall blank to feature the mural of a Chinese-inspired tree. I had a tight time frame for the mural to be installed, and a pair of mural panels by F. Schumacher, “Madame de Pompadour,” in aqua, were readily available: one and done!  The peach-colored blossoms on the tree complimented my pagoda perfectly! But, once installed, I realized that the peach blossoms were located near the bottom of the tree and not really visible.  So, my trusty wallpaper trick came in handy once again. 

After the wallpaper was installed, I took the scraps of the leftover mural paper and carefully cut out a few additional peach flowers. I told my installer where to paste them on the branches of the tree on top of the mural wallpaper so they would be clearly visible. The additional peach blossoms served to enhance the color of the pagoda. Voila, I now had a bespoke wallpaper!  

GrandMillennial Tips:

~When cutting out detailed aspects from wallpaper, try using petite manicure scissors.  They can easily be maneuvered around the delicate edges of the design. 

The pair of bows gracing the top of these precious pony watercolor paintings from London, in the kitchen at Fox Hall, are the cut-out leftover pieces from another wallpaper. Now, I hope you, too, will be inspired to look at your wallpaper leftovers with a creative eye!   

~The wallpaper details you cut out can also be used on the ceiling, in a bookcase, or around a blase mirror frame… endless places!

~Consider painting the ceiling in a color featured within the wallpaper.  I had the aqua background in the mural painted on our ceiling, and it served to enhance the tonality of the ocean view in the distance.

On another note, the racing season is upon us!  The Kentucky Derby is on May 6th, so I am offering an exclusive discount for my Equestrian Collection 5-piece porcelain collection ONLY until May 1st.  You can now properly dress your table for a Triple Crown and an Ascot party!  The “secret price” is at www.shophollyholden.com. Thank you for sharing this offer with your “horsey friends” too. 

Xx

Holly

PS Take a peek at “Hello Holly,” located after my darling Sponsors. You can read several charming remarks in response to the SLL newsletter, “Two Thoughtful Gestures.” 

Two Thoughtful Gestures: Eye Contact and a Smile!

Going through a receiving line at a gala for The Versailles Foundation, Inc., eye contact and a smile are a must! 

One lesson that is so important to impart on your children and grandchildren is eye contact when speaking and listening to someone, and especially when expressing gratitude, shaking hands, and giving a toast.  Eye contact, from one person to another, shows interest, respect, as well as genuine appreciation. 

Do let me know if you have suggestions on how to instill “good eye contact” with children. My four grandchildren in Germany practice looking each other in the eye almost every night at dinner when they say “cheers” to one another. Their parents remind them to look each person in the eye as they clink their glass of milk with each sibling.  This charming exercise is amusing for the children and serves to reinforce a valuable social lesson at a young age. Good eye contact is also expected when they shake hands when meeting adults. Teaching these noteworthy gestures to children are gifts that will benefit them for life. Do you agree?

And, smiling is another thoughtful gesture to encourage. The simple act of smiling releases endorphins for both the smile-er and the smile-ee. A smile draws others to you and puts people at ease, as it communicates warmth and love. The gift of a smile doesn’t cost anything yet it is invaluable in the positive effects it can create for yourself… and for others. 

Recently, I was walking past a store employee who was pushing a large cart of empty boxes to the recycle area. I noticed his head was down as he was going through his humdrum daily routine. People walked by him with no notice. I happened to catch his eye… and smiled.  He immediately smiled back. Even his eyes smiled! Giving a smile to someone who doesn’t expect it is a silent gift which gives joy to others so easily.

At the Salvation Army of Palm Beach County’s fundraising event, the “British Beatles Bash,” the  guests wore festive 60’s attire, from go-go boots to bell bottoms! When fun neon glasses were passed out, we realized it was a bit of a challenge to have eye contact with one another… so we had this photo taken instead! 

I want to genuinely thank you for inspiring others to subscribe to my newsletter. I am always delighted to receive your kind and insightful comments and questions in reference to my SLL topics each week. I thought you may enjoy reading a few too, so I have added a new section, “HELLO HOLLY,” which is located underneath my darling sponsors. Take a peek.

Let’s keep gentility alive!

Xx 

Holly

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Diamond Jewelry Etiquette

How delightful it was to learn about the simply sumptuous collection of elegant jewelry pieces at Scully & Scully, Park Avenue, with Vicky Shade.

Someone in the press once stated, in reference to our charming historic village of Farmington, CT, “The most bling you’ll find in Farmington is a string of pearls!” 

Pearls are appropriate to wear at ANY time of day!  But for diamonds, here is a jewelry etiquette rule you may not be aware of:  diamonds are not worn during the daytime.  Diamond jewelry such as necklaces, earrings, watches, bracelets, and tiaras, are worn only after dusk, or after six in the evening. (Diamond rings are exempt!)  Even the Royal protocol in England dictates this rule.  Diamonds are considered too “flashy” for the daytime, but in the evening, they add sparkle, especially at cocktail receptions and formal events. 

To wear or not to wear diamonds before six? We can all agree that times are now more relaxed. Mummy used to say, “It’s just not done, darling.”  While hats should not be worn indoors after six in the evening, the opposite is true for diamonds, and especially a tiara, which should not be worn before six in the evening at a formal event.  

So, what do you think? Do you ignore OR respect this traditional “diamonds in the evening” rule?

Here is my contemporary interpretation:

A display of diamond jewelry in the daytime must be discreet; diamonds are faintly noticeable.  A pin, or a pearl earring that has one diamond as an embellishment, similar to the late Queen Elizabeth’s traditional pearl stud/diamond earrings, is appropriate.  

A photograph of Michael Scully and me while filming inside Scully & Scully on Park Avenue in New York City, standing near the magnificent jewelry section. I was truly honored that Michael wrote the Foreword to my first book, The Pretty and Proper Living Room. The store sells both of my books, which are inscribed.  Michael is the President of Scully & Scully. His parents established the store in 1934, and it is now the oldest store on Park Avenue, which continues to attract the most prestigious clientele worldwide.

I was recently a guest  at a stunning ladies' luncheon hosted by Tamara Comolli (fabulous German jewelry company!). I asked the guests around me what they thought about wearing diamonds during the day. One said, “If I owned a tiara, I would wear it to breakfast- start the day with sparkle!” Now, you have to smile at this amusing idea, right?!  While diamonds are considered a girl’s best friend,  your genuine laughter and joy always add the most genuine sparkle wherever you go!

Holly

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Wine spills and other accidents... stay calm!

Yes, indeed, accidents happen during parties, and occasionally, just before a party too! In the front hall at Fox Hall, my favorite butter-yellow damask-covered chair, pictured here, was accidentally covered in hot green wax. So, now what?

Have you ever attended a lively party filled with laughter and happiness, and then a guest accidentally spills a glass of red wine, and the party comes to an abrupt halt due to an outwardly distraught hostess? At this point, guests just want to skedaddle… the party is over!

Red wine eventually finds itself somewhere other than in the wine glass… either on the carpet, the tablecloth, or some piece of upholstery. A guest will naturally be mortified to have spilled wine. Nothing ruins a party faster than a hostess who is uptight and stressed about an accident happening at her party. So, prepare in advance for mishaps. I permanently keep a bottle of seltzer water, a towel, and an everyday white napkin ready to use if need be. 

Stay calm, and carry on by keeping the panic off your face. Smile and pour some seltzer water over the stain, cover it with the spare white napkin, and leave it alone… this is key! My advice is to wait until your guests depart before you attempt to clean anything up. I say something like:  "The magic fairy comes in the morning, don't worry!"  The less you do to clean any mess up, the more your guests will feel comfortable and continue to have a merry time.

And, if you discover a white ring on your wood furniture the next day, due to the condensation from a glass, Mummy shared a secret recipe of mayonnaise and cigarette ashes to remove the ring, which is mentioned in my book, The Pretty and Proper Living Room.  

While entertaining at Fox Hall, I have experienced a myriad of mishaps. From the water pipe breaking over the butler's pantry, causing the ceiling to collapse two days before Lady Carnarvon arrived for a luncheon, to a full glass of port spilling across the dining room tablecloth onto a guest, several wine glasses breaking, and hot wax from an evergreen-scented candle being accidentally knocked over onto an antique chair the day before a Christmas party, I have had my share of mishaps to deal with.  How about you?

My darling daughter, Caroline, shared how to rectify this "wax" calamity.  I placed the chair out in the winter cold for a few hours, which allowed the wax to harden. Then, with a butter knife, I scraped the wax off. The slight remaining residue was then removed by Stanley Steemer. Voila, like new…  just in time for the guests to arrive for the party!

I hope you enjoy your guests, and forget about the accidental messes at your parties. There is always tomorrow to clean it up! 

Xx 

Holly

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Sunglass Etiquette!

Who is this lady?  Gosh, between the large hat and the sunglasses, she remains a mystery!

Sunglasses add a charming sense of glamour, while also protecting one’s eyes from the sun.  I have noticed the time-honored tradition of removing sunglasses whilst being introduced to someone is often neglected!  Whether indoors or outdoors, it is thoughtful to remove your sunglasses when being introduced to or greeting someone. 

Removing your sunglasses while greeting someone is a simple sign of respect for another person. Having eye contact is a courtesy and a form of communication when meeting or greeting people; they read not only your eyes but also your facial expressions. 

While attending a luncheon fundraiser, I was seated next to a lovely and accomplished lady I had never met before. I felt privileged to be introduced to her.  She had tinted silver, mirrored-like sunglasses on the entire time.  I must admit, I may not ever recognize her again because I never saw her face.  Besides that, it was rather distracting to look at myself in the reflection of her mirrored glasses as we spoke to one another! On another occasion, I was introduced to someone wearing a stunning hat and sunglasses.  She looked fabulous, but to this day, I have no idea what she looks like and would be embarrassed not to recognize her, should she know and acknowledge me.  

So, long story short: remove your sunglasses when meeting someone, just as you would remove your right-hand glove to shake hands!  And then, after an introduction or greeting, it is perfectly fine to put them back on.  Of course, if you have eye issues or cataracts, keep your sunglasses on, but acknowledge why you are not taking them off while being introduced.

My sunglasses were on while dining outside at Le Bilboquet, Palm Beach, with Miss Zsa Zsa, avec her orange ball.

Grandmillennial Tips:

At an outdoor sports event, or playing tennis or golf?  Take off your sunglasses when meeting others, then put them back on.  

Taking a “selfie” with someone?  Remember to remove your sunglasses if the other person does not have them on.

When being pulled over by a policeman (yikes!), not only is it a sign of respect to have your hands on the steering wheel at the 10 and 2 positions, but it is also thoughtful to remove your sunglasses as a courtesy. 

Forbidden Faux Pas:

No-no: To wear sunglasses inside at a social gathering. (An exception is if you have a reason to wear them. My sunglasses are prescription, so occasionally, I will not have another pair with me and will need to put them on to read the menu.) 

No-no: To wear sunglasses or reflective glasses when on a Zoom call or at a business meeting.  It may appear that you are trying to hide something, like a poker player.

No-no:  To wear sunglasses to a wedding ceremony or a funeral (unless you have a reason to do so).  Even if a wedding takes place outside and the sun is out, it is thoughtful to remove them so that the photographs of the event will show who the guests are… and not the “want-to-be-movie stars” in sunglasses!

So, when in doubt, err on the side of courtesy and remove your sunglasses when greeting anyone, even just for a moment… it will always leave a lovely impression!

Xx Holly

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